- I have this 21 year old,
that's my baby.
- [Steve] Okay.
- She thinks I'm overbearing
but I'm a protective mom.
When she leaves to go out
I have to have a telephone number,
where she's going, who's she going with.
I have to have their telephone number
and that's not even talking about dating.
The boy has to give me his phone number, his email,
I have to meet his parents.
How do you feel about this Steve?
There's so much stuff going on in the world today.
- You're absolutely right. There's so much stuff.
You are a loving mother.
- [Mother] Thank you.
- But you are overbearing.
(audience laughing)
You know, you can be both things at once.
This is your baby, I got that.
I have 21 year old daughter.
But my wife's philosophy
with all our kids is very smart,
she taught this to me.
Their wings work.
Your children's wings work.
You have to let'em use'em.
You can't monitor her like that.
At one point in time you have to believe
that something you taught her sunk in.
You've just gotta trust'em.
These kids, all these kids ain't crazy.
(audience clapping)
These young people now,
they're very connected.
Technology and everything, so you know,
they can get around all this you doing.
They got ways of knowing everything.
But you're just being a bit much right now.
You've gotta give her the space.
Is that your daughter?
- Yes.
- Let me ask something.
Stand up.
What's your name?
- Elisse.
- Elisse? - Yeah.
- How do you feel about this?
- I've been dealin' wit it for so many years.
- [Steve] You're 21?
- Yeah, it's a long time though.
- Yeah, if you in prison, yeah.
(audience laughing and clapping)
21 years on Earth is nothing.
- No, but she made it sound like--
- Give me an example of something crazy she's done.
- Alright, so let's see,
recently I get off from job at 12:30 midnight, right.
So when I go to my house,
sometimes it's not parking right in front of the house,
so you have to go a little bit further down the street.
- Yeah.
- So, she's like "Elisse, call me when you get home
so that I can know that you're here."
So one night, I'm like "You know what?
Let me just do what she says, let me call her."
So I called.
She said "Okay, wait.
Wait right there,
I'm gonna come get you."
So she wakes up out the bed,
wakes my cousin up out of her sleep,
to get in the car with her,
to come not even a block down,
to drive to come get me.
Right. (audience laughing)
Right.
- You too much.
You too much.
- Can I say I'm in love with her?
I love her Steve.
- You love her?
- I love her.
- You love her like a hostage.
(audience laughing)
That little girl, man!
I park four doors down, my daddy come get me.
You know what?
You gotta,
you're gonna have to give her some space.
You've raised her well, you've taught her everything.
She remembers the lessons,
but she gotta go out there and put'em to practical use.
If you never allow your child to
put it to practice, you can't lean on,
my 21 year old moved out.
(gasps)
- She moved out.
My daughter has her own apartment.
She 21.
(gasps)
- My 21 year old boy, he got his own apartment.
I want'em out.
(audience laughing)
Get out.
Get your own place.
(audience clapping)
You gotta let her fly.
Okay?
Thank you.
(audience clapping)