no countless people who have lost a loved one to mental illness a ton of
people to mental illness and let me tell you what the number one thing that
people ask themselves after someone passes away from mental illness is what
what is everybody this is Chris from the rewired soul where we talk about the
problem focus on the solution and if you're new to my channel my channel is
all about helping you with your mental health and what I like to do is pull
different topics from the YouTube community to try to teach you how to
improve your mental and emotional well-being and part of that is how to
deal with a loved one who is struggling with mental illness so if you're into
that kind of stuff make sure you subscribe and bring that notification
bell so yeah today we are going to be talking about Eugenia Cooney this is I
might do a few videos but it's something that I was reluctant to make so one of
the main reasons is because it's sad it's like really sad and you know I work
in the mental health field I've seen so many people pass away and that's
something that I deal with that work you know most of the topics I try to bring
in you know these beauty gurus are acting a fool or you know this person
has regretted you know whatever it is just trying to different lighter topics
to help you improve your mental health but in eugenia Cooney's case like when I
see her it's it's hard to watch you know
I'm a ton of people like always who are like you're just doing this reviews
you're just doing this reviews you're damn right I'm doing this reviews and
here's why this is already a topic of conversation amongst millions of people
all right so me not talking about it is only going to hurt the situation where I
can use my channel based around mental health to try to help the viewer all of
you watching this who might have a loved one who's struggling learn had helped
them with their mental illness whenever I make these videos I never expect the
youtuber I'm talking about to ever see this this is for you if you have clicked
on this video if you are watching up until this point
this video is for you it is not about Eugenia Cooney we're using her as an
example so you can either a help somebody in your life who you love and
care about or be help yourself and something I always do before am I doing
this for views am I just trying to get more subscribers what am I trying to do
this for why haven't I made this video for a while but when I sat down and
meditated and checked my motives it was like this is potentially influencing
young people hell I might be influencing older people it might be influencing
anybody in a negative light and we need to talk about that and for each person
who might be influenced by you Eugenia Kuhn is lifestyle there is an entire
circle of loved ones who are affected by that now when we're talking about
enabling one of the biggest enabling excuses out there or things that people
say is leave them alone just leave them alone right just leave just get them out
of your mind get them out of their mouth leave this person alone and this is why
so many people die each year so my last please stop enabling video was about
Bobby burns and let me read you a comment I just got today
all right so Bobby burns those of you don't know like smoke a lot of pot
potentially abuses other substances I made a video about it so here is a
comment that I got it says well the person shows the social media isn't
necessarily what happens in real life I smoke weed every day and I don't and I
don't show it online all the time if I got into a car wreck you wouldn't even
think that it was because I was high marijuana isn't addictive and it isn't
the same as alcohol or any other drugs so the
you simply the fact that you imply that is very irresponsible none of us are in
a place of judging someone who only who we only see online for actions in all
caps only affect themselves so first off the second straight and I'm gonna set
all of you straight real quick because like this this argument that you can't
become addicted to weed is just ridiculous and here's why the first line
of what I said is marijuana can't be psychologically so one of the things
that people have an issue with is that means physical dependency no so I said
what about gambling sex and shopping right are those non addictive as well
okay why do they have gamblers anonymous sex and love addicts Anonymous
Overeaters Anonymous like all of these things is because like psychological
addiction is much worse and that's actually what we're dealing a lot with
when it comes to eating disorders but to cover his overall point right where he
said he shouted at me and caps was it only effects themselves so I replied if
someone kills someone else in a car accident anyone else if someone kills
themselves in a car accident right shall I think about that think about that for
a second light you got I come from a place of not only compassion and concern
but a place of experience alright do you realize that when I was in my drug
addiction I just wanted everybody to leave me alone get off my back I'm not
hurting you I'm not hurting anybody else I was laying on my deathbed with a 10%
chance of living okay six and a half years ago the cardiac critical care unit
26 years old congestive heart failure about to die my bombs they're my best
friends they're my aunts they're my sons mom is there and they're in there crying
and they're begging me to stop they're begging me to get my life together right
they said we love you Chris Chris you have a son he loves you
and in my sickness of my mental illness I said I'm not hurting anybody this is
only me I'm only affecting me just leave me alone
think about that for a second see the pain and the hurt in my family
and friends faces and my brain still tells me that I'm not affecting anybody
else my son who almost grew up without a father my brain tells me I'm not
affecting anybody else my addiction and what I did in the way that I lived I got
other people started on drugs I convinced other people to drink the way
that I drank you guys we this is why I talk about we need to quit being so
selfish and self-centred and quit thinking that our actions and our
lifestyles don't affect anybody else so especially when we're talking about
Eugenia Cooney's case with over a million subscribers yes she's affecting
other people including her family including her friends so what actually
inspired me and pushed me to a place where I wanted to make this video
finally was because of one of my lovely subscribers shadow 98 left a comment
telling me about this Niki Demar music video titled anthem for the judged
with Eugenia Cooney and shadows do you think this is the message of the song
yeah this is absolutely 1,000% enabling and
let me tell you working in the field that I do having so many people died
right so many people died and having to talk to friends and family members like
it breaks my heart knowing that if Eugenia Cooney does pass away how people
like Niki Demar are gonna feel right
hey come in my music video it's a music video about you being judged unfairly
like hey you know anthem for the judge that's a cool song like I always tell
you guys like quit caring so much about people what people think do you be wacky
be say me like whatever you want to do like do your thing like if you're into
like cosplay cool do your thing like nerdy like stuff like I am I go cool
like do all those things when we're talking about a mental
and then trying to relay the message she's fine people are judging her for
her lifestyle like serial killer judging his lifestyle you know or even that
she's just being unfairly judged because there's one disorder or both of those
things need to be addressed you might be doing people will be like oh no people
just don't understand you Chris they don't get it my brain needs to tell me
that if you only knew how rough my life was you would understand why I do so
many drugs you know what I mean like think about that so when we're feeding
into the person who's sick it does nothing it does nothing but help kill
that person talk about like why why is there denial and I can make an entire
video about this addiction eating disorders are very closely related with
how they affect the brain one of the issues with the brain with people with
eating disorders in addiction is the prefrontal cortex it's not functioning
properly right this part of the brain is responsible for a variety of things but
the two things we're gonna talk about right now are self-awareness and denial
right and those kind of go hand-in-hand so when you lack self-awareness you're
in and you're in denial so that's like so many addicts that's what so many
people eating disorders die from this thing because they have a brain that
tells them that nothing that they're doing is wrong and for somebody with a
mental illness like this we are waiting we are way
for someone like you to co-sign what we're doing because the brain of the
disease the addiction loves that it loves it and loves it when somebody says
oh you're just being judged you're fine they just don't understand
you right yeah you're right you're right you know how many times I quit doing
hard drugs and my friends were like hey you can still drink and I'm like you're
right I can because my brain wants me to believe that you see that's why in
abling is such such a problem all right now there's a ton of different
intervention strategies I'm gonna link a video down below that I did on my other
channel about intervention strategies it's about helping a drug addict or
alcoholic but you can really use this you know you have a loved one who won't
take their meds or they won't go see a therapist we've got 2/3 of that like
check the link down below it's about how to have an intervention how serious an
intervention is how to set boundaries and all that ok I will link it down
below in the description as well as up in the info card ok but anyways I want
to hear from all of you down in the comments below let's do this for the the
question down in the comments below have you ever unknowingly enabled
somebody okay tell me your experience were you enabling somebody and didn't
even realize it how do you step out of it how did you set up a boundary at stop
enabling them all right that's all I got for you with this video if you liked
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quit enabling and I'll see you next time