hello sweet potatoes how many of you
have gotten enough sleep like more than
enough sleep humanly possible only
to still wake up feeling tired we know
the golden number is a minimum of eight
hours of sleep but what if
today i told you guys with my degree in
being a potato that getting eight hours
of sleep simply isn't enough or nine
or ten hear me out for a second
this is like my first click baby title
i'm so nervous
so when we hear the phrase get some rest
we usually think about
sleep and while sleep is massively
important i'm not discounting sleep here
we need to still get the sleep we need
there are other ways to rest and relax
our mind body and souls if we think back
to whenever we're feeling stressed the
first thing that usually goes out the
door is rest and taking care of
ourselves because you're spending more
time on this project that you feel like
you're behind on you're spending more
time with loved ones catching up for
lost times you're spreading yourself
then trying to juggle a thousand things
at once mistakenly confusing yourself
that one day you will be able to catch
up on all the rest you missed
well today is that one
day let's talk about the six ways to
rest and i'll also share how i've been
implementing these dressed into my week
home in los angeles and before we get
started just wanted to give credit where
it's due i got the idea for this video
after watching an instagram reel from dr
jessica kakinga that i'll link down
below and thank you so much to castler
for sponsoring this video more on this
in a bit let's get started with physical
rest the definition i love to run with
today is
being in touch in tune and aware enough
to listen to our bodies i really feel
like our bodies are constantly sending
us signals or caution signs when we're
constantly in a state of tenseness
denseness and stressedness we just
aren't aware enough of
ourselves and life in general because
we're so tunnel vision focused on trying
to do whatever it is that we're doing
that we don't catch any of these signals
so let's unpack this a little how do you
actually physical rest i think first and
foremost we often forget how much of an
impact the mental pressure we put on
ourselves can impact our physical body
over the years i've learned very
publicly
and very the hard way to not take myself
that seriously and to not take my work
that seriously yes be a great person yes
do great work but you can't do all of
that if you're not taking great care
of yourself so how do you be a
productive human of society while still
keeping your sanity
i present you
slow productivity on a silver platter up
here and i'll link it down below another
way to approach physical rest is to
physically remove ourselves from our
day-to-day existence for example when i
first moved to new york city six years
ago now i'd have to leave like
physically leave manhattan every two to
three months because it was so intense
it was so fast-paced and i just felt
like i was being like yeah what is that
word i'm being like squished into a pulp
because of just how crazy and intense
everything was just going across a river
to new jersey or going across the river
on the other side to brooklyn to be able
to look at the city versus being in the
city gave me so much perspective and
helped me feel
a lot more
feel a lot more grateful the core
physical wellness is really being in
tune and aware enough of what your
body's trying to tell you if it's
telling you to leave
go if it's telling you to sleep sleep if
it's telling you to run faster run
faster our bodies are really really
really smart it helped our ancestors
through
decades eons for us to get to where we
are today
okay moving on to social rest one side
is you spend so much time by yourself
hello social anxiety that you get so
much in your head that you just never go
out the other side of the spectrum is
you go out all the time you're filling
your days with literally everything down
to the t that you are spread thin and
have zero time to spend by yourself i'm
definitely the type of person who
naturally is already very extreme so i
swing from one side to the other in high
school and college i was just out all
the time because i didn't want to think
about things i would just distract
myself and go all the time in my mid to
late 20s i just
didn't have a social life and i was
perfectly okay with it so this was the
past rowena has
i tried being very social this trip
let's just put it that way this trip
back home i wrote down five people i
wanted to see and it turned out to be
ten and i just did something every day
with another human being am i happy i'm
happy am i tired i'm very tired but i am
glad that i'm going out of my way
to try things to try haley weaver's
smoothie at erwan to have these
conversations to build these connections
and to put myself
in a situation where i you know like i'm
perfectly fine staying home not doing
anything right but if you do that you
will grow in one way which i have a lot
in that way so it's time to grow in
other ways this is the purpose of this
video is really about that graph you've
been
at home all of this time and a voice is
telling to be more social try you don't
need to go full social but just like try
and if you've been super social and
you've just been filling your days with
things you can
try to spend a little time by yourself
or to spend pockets of time at your home
enjoying your own company or just
learning to be okay with being lonely
because it's in those moments that we
truly grow but that's a video for
another time she's a social butterfly
but a tired one so she's very excited to
socially rest on the other side which is
to not do anything for a while i don't
know if i can this summer i don't know
if i have time but you make time
so yeah these are just some internal
dialogues that happen in my mind next is
mental and emotional
rest when i think of mental and
emotional rest there's two different
ways like completely different ways to
approach it for one side consider
spending more time checking in with
yourself doing the things that you know
can help you reconnect with yourself i
think another general way is to
positively distract yourself if you've
been so in your head i've been on both
sides where i'm like i've distracted
myself so much that i need to start
spending time with myself or sometimes
you spend so much time with yourself
that you get so in your head and you get
so hard on yourself and it becomes the
spiral thing that all we truly need to
do is just spend some time out or to get
some fresh air or to just feel the sun
on her face or to watch like a cute
movie like light year i thought it was
adorable i would love to ador adobe a
doom
i would love to adopt socks for the
checking in with yourselves portion
probably know everything i'm going to
talk about so it's really just about
finding the things that works for you
and on this side where it's like
positively distracting yourself well
let's see sometimes
it may be beneficial to get out of your
house yes rowena doesn't like leaving
her house because she's a homebody but
she's trying she got out of her house to
go to the farmer's market with james to
buy some flowers for her mom met a
fellow taiwanese auntie and uncle along
the way and splurge on some deliciously
sweet but bougie strawberries and got a
lot of extra boxes for friends other
things to do is to spend time with loved
ones like eating a meal with my mom and
james and also just eating food that you
enjoy again guys this is this the bar
right like if you haven't been doing
this do more of it if you have been
doing a lot of this
do less of it getting really hungry my
mom just came home with food
and the last example of positive
distraction would be taking naps if you
guys watched my previous video on what i
eat in a day where i finally said
goodbye to my iconic white couch and got
a new friend from castlery i mentioned
how kind they were for gifting james the
same but bigger couch and how it gave me
a little kick knowing that we have the
same piece of furniture to rest deeply
on and now
we get to rest on it together how sweet
is that it's something so small and
something that i just never really
thought about us being on two sides of
the coast to have a piece of home in la
and to have a piece of la that reminds
me of my new york city apartment with
the couch being the centerpiece that
kind of like ties all of it together it
gives me this sense of connectedness
that
i never
yeah that i never really thought about
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rest we actually talked about
resting creatively on episode 19 of
voice hugs and i talk about the
importance of like for us to be able to
create and to continue sharing about the
things that we're going through we need
to have time to rest and we need to have
time to reflect and we need to have time
to process because if we don't do these
things then we're
i don't know you're just kind of stuck
on the same realm that you've been and
you'll only be able to share the things
that you've been able to share kind of
like how sometimes my channel can be a
bit stagnant because i'm not growing as
a person so the content is also not
growing creative rest is massively
important and what it reminded me of is
our dear friend the oatmeal creativity
is like breathing this is so good i'm
just gonna share it again because i
think it's an amazing reminder and for
those who haven't seen this i hope it
blows your mind as it did mine okay
james took
myself and two of our friends to the
hollywood bowl for a july 4th special
where steve martin and martin short had
like their comedy special i honestly had
no idea what i was getting myself into
but as i was sitting at the hollywood
bowl you have these two guys
who love their crafts so much
they started on snl together and they've
been
working together for i don't know like
over 40 years and they're still doing
what they enjoy doing when they're 76
and 72 like that's so
amazing and also
personally liberating because where you
are like i turned 30 right i'm like oh
i've already lived 30 years of my life a
lot of things that i want to do i
probably can't do anymore because i'm
stuck at 30. i can only look backwards i
can't really look forward because i
haven't lived those years yet but being
at 30 seeing someone in their 70s still
living their best life doing all of
these things it made me realize
oh
i actually still have 40 plus years to
do all the things i want to do and that
it's still possible if i just started
today i think things come into your life
when they're supposed to and this just
felt like one of those moments where i
was just sitting there and in absolute
awf like
that's crazy all of that was just to say
and just to show you guys that if you do
things that are out of
your
routine or out of the norm of what you
usually do more often than not you'll be
very pleasantly surprised and even
though i was
very tired before going because i
already socialized so much what i
learned and what i got out of it and
it was worth it
it's very worth it
moving on to sensory rest i honestly
feel like we're living in a time of
sensory overload whether we're hungry
for knowledge or foolish for distracting
ourselves we're constantly filling every
single second of every day with
something whether we're watching
something listening to something and i
think a great exercise that i've
definitely done multiple times
throughout my life is to make note of
all the disturbances in my life from the
moment that i wake up also keeping in
track of how much technology and your
phone social media notifications are
intertwined throughout the whole thing
for example for most of us i'm pretty
sure we use our iphones or our phones to
wake up so first thing in the morning
you're already touching your phone
because you're already on your phone
might as well check who messaged you
overnight great no one and then you can
check social media oh instagram my
friends what are they doing wow
everyone's living their best life
already starting the day feeling a
little bad about myself and then as i'm
commuting to work i'm listening to
something and i see all these billboard
ads and when i walk out i see even more
billboard ads in the city and cars are
honking because we're in new york city
there's traffic there's pedestrians
there's people there's all these things
happening and i think you guys get the
point i'm trying to make i just feel
like if you're able to
do this for one day just to kind of see
like oh wow there's all of these things
happening to me or there's all of these
things that i kind of do by default or
on autopilot that oh you know if i were
to spend my commute instead of listening
to even if it's an audiobook just
sitting there
in silence by myself and observing the
people around me there'll be so much
that you will be able to learn about
yourself and just even people in general
because you'll see literally everyone
else is like this you
may kind of look funny not doing like
this because everyone else is doing that
but i think it's through these moments
that you'll be able to
learn so much about yourself your place
in the world the person that you want to
be and i think that's a wonderful thing
another tip is if you guys haven't
watched this video on how to organize
your phone to work for you not against
you it will be right here it's almost at
one million views too that's crazy
that's wild and the last tip for sensory
rest is to have pockets of your day or
week where you have zero
zero screen time no screen at all and i
feel like there's an art of entertaining
yourself without technology that maybe
younger generations generations the
younger generation has genzi has lost
touch with yeah i don't know i sat on
the floor for a couple minutes waiting
for james when usually i'd be on my
phone i picked up a blade of grass and
tried to scare him and did this party
trick that i learned when i was young
put a blade of grass between your thumbs
and when you blow on it makes this
really loud noise that makes him very
very embarrassed because he gets second
hand embarrassment very easily i know
nobody cares but he cares so i didn't do
that but yes okay
moving on the very last rest is
spiritual rest we talk about self-care
all the time but self-care doesn't
always fit the needs of
soul care
truly
being connected with ourselves and with
something that's greater than ourselves
spirituality religion all of this is
very personal and everyone has very
unique experiences but
i really do feel like
if you are spiritual if you are
religious if you do believe even if you
don't right even if you aren't the core
of it really is putting your trust in
yourself and putting your trust in this
higher power of the universe whatever
you want to believe that i will be well
and to not be afraid of praying or
asking for help or even talking to
friends about it if if you need to talk
about it and yeah
i just i think if as a society and a
civilization we're able to reflect we're
able to
look inward and use difficulties that
befall us as ways to improve i think the
world the world would be such a
beautiful place
you know but yeah i think when it comes
to spiritual rest when i'm personally
spiritually unrested this is where my
life is in shambles and i feel like it's
as if i walked into some place where the
magnetism is depolarized and my
composition's spinning in circles and i
have no idea where i'm going that's what
i feel like when i'm spiritually
unrested i get easily caught up in the
small thing blue side of the bigger
picture and forget the beauty and magic
of looking inward and letting go to grow
and
i think i've said all the things that i
wanted to say this is a good place to
end the video thank you so much for
watching until this point as you think
as you have you guys have any ideas
suggestions the go-to way for you to
rest with any of these ways of resting
do let us know down below and
we'll see you
in next week's video bye
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