In this video, I want to share five reasons why eighty percent of new year resolutions
fail by February and also, seven ways in which you can succeed this year! Hi this is Supreet,
I'm an engineer turned leadership trainer. I upload weekly videos about personal growth,
meditation and occasionally, parenting. So why do new year resolutions fail? Well, the exact reasons
vary from person to person but here are five common reasons why new year resolutions fail.
reason number one: you're relying on willpower alone. willpower doesn't last. in my own case,
i had been trying to wake up early at 5 00 a.m for years and i could manage to do it for two days,
maybe three, but after that, my love for my cozy warm bed would always win and my willpower would
lose. but for the last four months, i have been waking up at 5 AM 95% of the time and
i'll shortly tell you how and why. reason number two: your goal is too vague. it's not
specific. for example, your goal is "i'm going to lose weight this year". reason number three:
you are not ready to change. in other words, your why isn't strong enough. you don't want your goal
bad enough. reason number four: you're treating a marathon like a sprint. so in the first week of
january, you're going on crash diets, you're working out like crazy, and then by the time the
second week hits, you're exhausted. of course you'll want to quit! we need to make
small changes consistently. small things done consistently will add up to big changes
in the long run. this is the main message of the book atomic habits as well as the book tiny
habits. reason number five: you have failed in the past and you're telling yourself stories, such as,
i knew this wasn't going to last, i'm never able to stick to any new year resolution and
so on. these stories are just stories. they are not facts. they are your self-limiting beliefs.
you can change the story you tell yourself. your future self does not have to be limited
by your past self or your current self. you can rewrite the story you want to tell yourself. now,
i'm going to share with you seven ways in which you can succeed this year! number one: get clear
about your why. your goals should be aligned with YOUR values and YOUR vision. don't aim to lose
weight just because your friend is doing the same or because your spouse asked you. if your reason
is not coming from deep inside of you, you're very likely going to give up on your goal. number two:
once you become clear about your why, write down your goals. make them specific and measurable.
for example instead of saying i'm going to lose weight say i am going to stop eating at 7 p.m
every night, or i am going to work out for 30 minutes 5 days a week. make your goals process
goals as opposed to outcome goals. i want to lose 20 pounds is an example of an outcome goal
but a process goal might look something like, i will eat sugary treats only on the weekends,
or i will write down every single thing i eat every day. we have more control over the process
than the outcome. number three: make your goals public. this has worked wonders for me! i'll be
honest, it feels extremely uncomfortable for me to share my goals publicly with you on youtube,
because i have this nagging inner voice which is probably my ego, constantly saying things
to me like, what if you fail? what will people say? look she couldn't do it! it's going to be
so embarrassing! um and on and on and on... so when that happens, i just take a deep breath,
and tell my inner voice... just shut up! i ignored my inner voice and made my 5 a.m waking up goal
public with you, and it actually worked! and because that worked, i also decided to share
all my 2021 goals with you in my last week's video where i shared my vision board with you. number
four: instead of relying on your willpower, change your environment instead. the biggest reason
why i'm able to wake up at 5 00 am now is that i have stopped putting my phone which is also my
alarm clock on my nightstand. instead, i put it on my dresser which is across the room so
that i have to get out of bed physically to turn the alarm off. that's the biggest reason why i'm
actually able to wake up at 5 00 a.m. there are other reasons too like i have a stronger why and
if you're interested in knowing all the details about what exactly i'm doing differently and why
i'm doing it and how i'm finally able to wake up at 5 a.m, that video will be in the description
below. so change your environment instead of using your willpower. so if eating healthy is your goal,
change your environment. stop bringing junk food into the house. number five:
surround yourself with people who look like the future you want. so if losing weight
is your goal and you're surrounded by people who are overeating all the time, you will naturally
tend to overeat. you may succeed for some time to go against the grain and stick to your healthy
eating habits in their company, but ultimately you will feel like you're depriving yourself, and you
will feel like what everyone else around you is doing is the normal thing to do. But instead if
you surrounded yourself with healthy eaters, you will be inspired to continue eating healthy and
you will feel that that's the right thing to do and that's the normal thing to do. number six:
get an accountability buddy. when you're about to make a change or do something hard, it's better
to do it with someone else as opposed to going alone. so get yourself a torture buddy - i mean
an accountability buddy. you can lift each other up on days when you lack the motivation and keep
each other on track. and also the journey is more enjoyable when you're doing it with someone else.
i'm a big believer of enjoying the journey more than just worrying about the destination. so an
accountability buddy helps you enjoy the journey and finally, tip number seven is to track your
progress. there are lots of habit tracker apps which are there to help you track your new habits.
but i am one of those who tend to get overwhelmed with so many apps and it just becomes a chore in
itself to enter information into the app and then log on every day to track your new habit. so what
i do instead is i have a very very simple diy habit tracker. on the last page of my journal
i just have the dates written on the rows and in the columns i have the habits which i'm going to
track, and each day that i'm able to do that thing, i put a check mark. so this is what
my habit tracker looks like, and this is a super easy way for me to keep myself on track. one rule
that i follow is to not miss two days in a row. i feel that that is very very important because
life happens, sometimes you miss a day, you could be sick, or something happened - unexpected,
and you missed a day of doing your new habit. but if you have this rule - do not miss two days in
a row - it really helps from you missing two days and then three days and then from there,
it's just a slippery slope. so i have this rule "do not miss two days in a row". what is your new
year resolution? tell me in the comments below. it's a great way to make your goal public and
commit yourself to it! by the way, you don't have to wait till december or january to make
a new year resolution. make it whenever you want because your new year starts on the day
that YOU decide that you want to change your life. i wish you all the best, keep growing!
someone's ringing the doorbell i'm going to ignore it oh it's a package amazon package your
phone again oh look she couldn't do it or um and on and on
hang on and on and on and on uh let me just do this whole thing again from the beginning okay
just shut up i don't know i think i'll do it one more time i'm not very happy with it
okay we're going to take the deep breath part again because i'm not happy with how
that...rest everything is fine... reason ah sorry not reason this is okay number four no we already
did number four no this is number four okay wow i did a whole point without any fumbles
okay cut it where i said to keep keep myself on track
i'll show a b-roll here so you don't need to worry about what i'm doing