Whether you're under 35 or even if you're over 35 and you're watching this video, there are certain
things that every man must learn so he has a more fulfilling life and so he has more options
with women. First, he must learn how to be more comfortable around the women that he's attracted
to. A lot of men are really scared around women that they like. They don't want to get rejected,
they don't want to say something wrong, they don't want to mess up an interaction, so they create
higher stakes for themselves even though she's just a woman like anyone else. She just happens
to be someone that you're more attracted to. You have to learn how to be more comfortable so we
have to spend more time around women that we do find attractive so it doesn't seem like that big
of a deal. Number two, the only competition that you have in this life is you against you. It's
not you versus your boss, it's not you versus your friends, it's not you versus a woman, it's
not you trying to compete against other members of your family, or other people that you know.
It's about you every day trying to become a better version of yourself. The reason why this is,
is because it's not ever a fair comparison to compare yourself to other people around the
world. Everyone has different situations, they were raised differently, they've had different
experiences. It's a waste of your time and a waste of your emotional time. You need to be spending
more time thinking about how you can always do better, that way you'll always keep leveling up.
Number three, logic over emotion. When it's logic versus emotion logic wins every time,
or at least it should in terms of making the best decision. But sometimes we can get erratic,
we can make emotional decisions that are not good for us. One example is maybe spending more time
with a girl because you're very attracted to her and it's amazing being with her in bed but you
know logically she's not the best fit for you. Ask yourself in every decision that you make,
no matter what big or small, in that moment say what would logic do in this case? Because in that
moment you're going to be feeling emotional in terms of whatever it is. Maybe it's buying a new
car - emotionally it costs a lot of money but you just love it and and even though it costs a lot
of money you just want to have it. What would logic say in this case? Well maybe you can't
afford it and it's going to be terrible for your budgeting. In any case, always look to the logic
before you make a decision. Number four, here's a harsh one but women and the whole world around
you don't care about you and don't care about you as much as you will care about yourself. Now this
doesn't mean to not care about other people, but what it does mean is that when you're out
doing things in the world and when we grow up we think that everyone has our best interests
because we're raised by our parents and things are done for us, but the harsh reality of becoming an
adult is we have to fend for ourselves especially men. Men are usually loved and respected based on
the value that they can provide. It would be very naive of you to be going out there thinking that
someone has your back when they really don't. And sometimes they will but at the end of the
day it's always going to be you looking out for you. So make sure that you are looking out for
yourself and not relying on anyone else so you can be the strongest version of yourself ultimately.
We always want to be in control that way we'll be able to make the best decisions and get the
better results. Number five, you need to learn how to invest. But it's not just about investing in
stocks and finances, and that stuff is great too, but you need to be investing in yourself in terms
of learning. Investing resources like finances and investing time into learning and becoming
a better person in all the areas that you want to. It's also about investing in conveniences.
Sometimes we need things in our life that are more convenient so we save time and ultimately we can
spend more time in other areas that are going to improve ourselves. This all depends on your
financial situation but hey let's pretend that you're single and it takes you a lot of time to
do laundry and to get that all done and that takes hours out of your week. Well what if you invested
in having someone come, pick it up, do it for you, one of those laundromats where they do a fluff and
fold where they take it and then deliver it back to you. Maybe that's a great investment for you
so you can spend more time doing other things for yourself, not just sitting back and relaxing and
having a good time, but doing something that's going to create more for you in this world. In
fact, I actually take part of that back - maybe it is investing in doing that so you can relax and
have a good time because you're working so much that you need a couple of those hours to relax.
Either way, you're still investing in yourself. Number six, you have to learn how to dress
properly, how to groom properly. This should be something that you should be learning by
the time you're 18 years old, and don't worry if you're much older than that and you don't have
this figured out it's not too late. There are so many resources for you online, there's so many
resources available if you just walk into a store and ask them for help with clothes and going to a
stylist to help with grooming, so many resources available. You want to learn this so you become
your most attractive self so then you can attract more people in your life and you can have what's
called superficial confidence - that confidence that you get from you thinking that you're looking
really attractive and really good. Next, how to conduct yourself in a stressful situation,
similar to logic over emotion. We're going to be going through a lot of tough times in work with
friends, with girlfriends, with family members. You're going to get yourself in a situation that
is going to be stressful, it's inevitable. How do you handle it? Do you completely explode? Do
you lose your cool? Do you run away from it? Or do you learn how to handle the stressful
environment? In those situations sometimes it's best to take a breather, take a step back,
and remember that situation can be handled and you don't need to get too emotional. Number eight,
whether you want kids or not. Whether you want kids or not is your decision but I highly suggest
that by 35 you figure out whether or not you do. I talk to too many coaching clients that are on
the fence not sure they feel like they'll make that decision when they meet the right person.
I believe it's going to be better for you in the long run to make the decision as soon as possible.
If you don't want kids I would get a vasectomy and I would start dating with a purpose that
you know you're never going to have a family. Or if you know you want to have a family then
that should be a priority by the time you're 35 so you can be putting yourself out there
and finding the right woman to be part of that family. Make the decision on this because you
don't want it to be too late where you finally decide you do and you're over 40 years old. Next,
the sunk cost fallacy - when we put a lot of time and resources and energy into something
and we think we gotta stick with it because we put so much into it, but it just keeps on crashing and
it's not really giving you any sort of return. This can be anything, it can be literally
something like stocks, it could be a project that you're working on that just hasn't worked out,
it's not going anywhere. I want you to feel free to ditch whatever is not working if you put way
too much effort into it. This is not my advice to just give up. It's my advice to tweak and do
something new if you see something isn't working. Don't get so stuck and emotional over something
just because you put the time and energy into it. Next, by the time you're 35 you have to learn how
to approach women and not just use the dating apps. The dating apps are so popular right now
that pretty much that is the way of dating but it's not going to be the best for you because
when you learn how to approach it's going to get you more comfortable with women, it's going to get
you more dates and it's going to prepare you more for the first dates that you do eventually get
whether you're meeting women online or offline. Watch this video right here in the screen to
learn exactly how to approach women so you know exactly what to do and to avoid any mistakes.
And if you feel like you're struggling with women and you can't approach and you can't get dates,
head over to TrippAdviceCoaching.com to watch a video that's going to explain how we're going to
get you more dates through approaching women and online. That's at www.TrippAdviceCoaching.com.