you know I think we need to work some
things out and once we do this is what
your relationship looks like between
Trisha Paytas and jason nash run run for
the hills everybody this is Chris from
the rewired soul where we talk about the
problem but focus on the solution any
case you missed it just started a twitch
channel anything of my videos over there
so I could talk to you while I edit so
today I'm gonna actually be editing this
video I'm gonna be talking to all the
viewers about toxic relationships
borderline personality disorder and all
sorts of stuff so make sure you go
follow me on Twitch alright anyways
before I get started obviously I don't
treat either so I cannot give her a
diagnosis of BPD so borderline
personality disorder is a disorder that
many people struggle with who had a
rough childhood whether it was emotional
abuse or just any kind of trauma in
their life personality disorder and this
kind of like I love you I hate your
relationship with a lot of people so
like just watching Trisha and Jason I'm
like oh my god
Trisha shows some of these signs so
we're gonna talk about this and what
it's like dating somebody with BPD and I
guess I'll start this video out too by
saying like this is a very unpopular
opinion but if you are struggling with
your mental health like in a severe way
do not date like go fix yourself then go
back to dating like it is unfair to the
other person to bring them into that
mess I say that as somebody who had to
stay single for over a year and a half
while I worked on myself I realized that
it was selfish to bring somebody into
this well I am still a complete mess but
as I started to work on myself then I
was able to go out and date and not be
so selfish self-centered and pretty much
emotionally abused the other person and
stay tuned to this video because I'm
going to use jason nash and Trisha
Paytas Isreal
ship and talk about some of my own
personal experiences with this stuff
alright so anyways
Jason Nash just released a video like
why attrition hasn't been in my videos
lately right it's like a 20 minute video
you know whatever and oh my god I will
link this down in the description below
but like whether you are single or in a
relationship like save this video put it
in a play right somewhere like watch
this video this is the definition of a
toxic relationship like I am blown away
that this whole thing was recorded I'm
wondering how much was edited out but
that's one of the reasons I enjoy
YouTube is because we could take these
very real situations and then discuss
them and hopefully like my purpose of
this channel is to help you with your
mental health and relationships can be
oh so toxic one of the things that will
point out from that clip that I just
showed you is like Trisha is very
emotionally abusive now I will say this
and throughout this video because I'm
probably only gonna say it once like let
me let me just make this very clear
like I don't look at people with mental
illnesses like BPD or anything like that
as bad people they're just struggling
with their mental health and they need
to go get help
so like emotional abuse isn't always
just the person is purely evil they have
some stuff that they need to work on I
used to be a terrible person until I
started working on my mental health but
anyways going back to Trisha is
emotionally abusive like you can see how
she says like I'm not upset I'm not
angry I love you but then she just goes
in and berate him throughout this video
to like I'm focusing on Trisha but if
you watch this video like Jason is just
broken he is broken and I don't think
that Jason should be dating either I
talked about this in my previous video
about them breaking up and getting back
together but Jason is not put together
either and by the way this is one of the
biggest misconceptions about dating and
I used to tell this to my clients in
early recovery all the time like when in
the philosophy of mankind has this ever
worked you take two glasses two glass
cups right and you shatter them on the
ground and then you scoop them together
say okay this can work that doesn't
happen so if you have one broken person
and another broken person it doesn't go
together both these things have to be
whole before they come together you know
we need to work some things out and once
we do
today
we marry
so this is complete bananas like if you
don't watch the whole video just watch
the part where they're at this
restaurant because there's so much to
dissect from this alright
so Trisha was just berating Jason
talking all this stuff and then she just
goes let's get married like oh my god oh
my god I'm cher with you some of my
experience with that pretty soon here
but like this is a typical sign of
borderline personality disorder
especially when you're dating somebody
they can rapid-fire through these
emotions right where they hate you or
they don't like you or you're upsetting
them or whatever and then they're just
like let's get married
let's get married because part of it is
just they're used to the toxicity right
like that is the comfort zone like being
comfortable in the chaos and she throws
out let's get married right but
immediately it is followed up by this
clip you know do all the driving and
but if you're just gonna be so stunts
and
it's gonna put even more stress on
everything
and he locks it sobs it hurts bad really
hurtful please reconsider that
so right after she says let's get
married she throws out this idea okay
she's talking about about him getting
his own house and this is another
example of emotional abuse okay
everybody I hope you are with me here
okay like she's saying like oh but then
she stopped saying oh but you just want
to spend more time with your friends oh
you just don't like seeing me oh you
know what it's fine it's fine
and it's like what like watching it it's
it's like watching it's like watching
children who are in one of their first
relationships but that's one of the
things when it comes to certain types of
mental illness like for me for example
when I got sober 27 years old I was
pretty much just a grown baby okay I
still had a lot of childish behaviors
childish emotions I didn't lot of
childish things I need to do a video
sometime because there's this worksheet
that my mom who's a psychologist
actually showed me and it's amazing what
you can see like why you date the people
you date and also why you behave the way
that you do in arguments and a lot of it
reverts back to your childhood it's a
lot of childish behaviors that's why a
lot of relationships people don't have
these adult conversations especially if
you're dating somebody who's not
mentally well
we need to work some things out
bring it back to that last clip because
this is something that goes on
throughout the rest of the video Jason
Jason actually has some clarity and he's
holding her off right okay no we're not
getting married it's like we need to
work on some stuff right but she says we
need to get married and then we can work
on stuff no no no no no no no no no no
okay this is a very big problem that
people have especially when they
struggle with mental illness they keep
procrastinating the things that will
make them well right like I was talking
about with my girlfriend earlier like I
I judge people based on who they're a
fan of right who they're a fan of who
they look up to and stuff like if you're
a fan for example of Tana mojo I'm like
something's got to be going on with you
right there's a lot of people who are a
fan of Trisha Paytas I'm like yes
something has got to be going on with
you two but this is also why people have
so many enablers like people need to
look at Trisha
but Trisha acknowledges that she has a
lot of psychological issues but she
doesn't get help for them right and she
keeps trying to procrastinate him and
push them off and things like that like
absolutely not
so I'm very glad that Jason stuck to his
guns he's like no we need to see a
relationship therapist and then we'll
talk about marriage here's the problem
for the rest of this video she keeps
saying let's get married let's get
married let's get married and she's
trying to manipulate him into doing this
all right and just throughout the video
like like I said they cut a lot of this
stuff how many times do out this day
they spent together do you think she
said let's get married let's get married
like it is absolutely bananas
should I get my beard shaved we get
married
work on our relationship where we talk
about marriage I don't think so I think
we need to go see a therapist okay so we
get married and then we go see a
therapist nope let's work on our
relationship get off that get married
I'll give you one thing sometimes a mic
comes up and things like that but I was
telling her about the woman I was dating
she was a single mom before it was like
a year before my girlfriend and I
started talking or or at least obviously
you're right I could relate to this
experience right like I was still
mentally unwell right after that
relationship is what I found meditation
so if you need a reason to meditate go
for it why I did it because of a bad
relationship and I realize how
emotionally unstable I was but anyways
her and I've had a very very very bad
relationship and she got on this kick
which is like let's get married let's
get married like we're fighting every
five seconds and then she's like let's
get married let's get married
I'm like she was obsessed with this show
my girlfriend just told me the name and
I forgot it's like they do it they do it
and then they figure stuff out I'm like
I'm like no that is bananas because part
of me knew like this wasn't gonna work
out
and she kept saying it over and over and
over and like this is something that
some of us do and this is a big
relationship issue as well like I almost
got to a point I was this close to
getting to a point where I was just
gonna be like if it will shut you up
let's go get married like think about
that like you guys
relationships are part of mental health
and we gotta figure this stuff out like
can you imagine can you imagine if I
would have married her like what do you
think divorce rates are so high in this
country because stuff like this happens
but again Jason stuck to his guns he's
like we need to seek therapy before we
get into a marriage right and it's it's
crazy because they need to split up they
need to get away from each other like
made a whole video about this two months
ago I was just looking it was only two
months ago about how their relationship
isn't gonna work I'm not a psychic right
I just know people who are mentally
unstable I just get it I've seen this
happen so many times I talked to my
clients in the rehab center about this
all the time like you are in no position
to do this you're an absolutely no
position to do this until you get well
now there's going to be a certain number
of people down in the comments or who
will never even see this video who
defend Trisha and they say things like
oh she's just joking or oh this is just
part of the videos and no no no no no
what this is it's leaving a back door to
excuse for behavior I mentioned it in
the Tana mojo video I just did the other
day where she talks about I'm only human
I'm only human I'm not gonna be a be a
perfect person but saying that Tana is
leaving herself a back door to keep
screwing up now Trisha Trisha is using
this as an excuse to keep behaving the
way she is and not seeking help in the
way that she should seek help it's
because she's constantly making these
other videos like oh that was just an
act oh that was just for YouTube no no
no no I just finished a book on body
language and stuff and watching the body
language between those two like actors
can't even can't even have that type of
precision body language you know what I
mean like Trisha really really really
needs to seek some type of therapy and
if they want their relationship to work
and here's the advice we'll give to any
of you who are stuck in a relationship
like this right now go to therapy you
both need to do individual therapy me
I'm not a huge fan of couples therapy
I prefer individual therapy for a while
and then couples therapy like both
people need to work on their individual
issues because a lot of them stem from
childhood and past relationships and
things like that they need to work on
these things individually and then once
they get like I don't know even 20%
better then they need to see I like a
couples therapist you know what I'm
saying but as far as like leaving that
back door open like I talked to the
addicts and alcoholics about this all
the time because they try to leave
themselves back doors to drink again or
to use a
for example some people who came into my
rehab with a prescription drug addiction
they then wouldn't go back and say tell
their doctor that they were just in
rehab because what they're doing is
they're leaving a back door so they can
go get high again or maybe alcoholics
they don't tell their friends that they
just went to rehab in there and and
they're in sobriety now because they're
leaving themselves a back door so they
don't get questioned if they drink again
like you need to cut this stuff out if
you want to improve your mental health
so to end this video the last point I'll
make is I was second-guessing making
this video and this is just a complete
side point I talked about how I always
get worried about making these videos
about different youtubers and things
like that is that not a drama channel
and my goal is to help people take these
real-life situations and relate it to
themselves and improve their mental
health there was one comment on my last
video a three a three it's like wow this
is a drama channel now and that almost
prevented me from making this video
within my girlfriend she said something
in a sparked by emotions again I'm like
screw it I'm making this video but I
just want to throw that side point in
their life don't focus on the one
negative comment or don't focus on one
thing that makes you second-guess
yourself you know do your thing boo do
you think all right but let's do this
got in the comments below maybe share
your experiences like what can you
relate to like have you been in a past
relationship where it looks similar to
Trisha Paytas and Jason Nash or are you
currently in a relationship and your
significant other isn't gonna read my
comment section anyway so let's share
our experience down below okay I did so
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