Hey guys it's me Veralyn.
So, another year has gone by and yes I'm a year closer to 30
and though I've kind of warmed up to the idea of being married one day
I am still terrified by the idea of having a baby, while at the same time pursuing this dream of being Oprah.
Just juggling these thoughts is exhausting.
So I thought I'd talk it out with three women who are working through these
work, life, baby, realities too.
When I first started my baby was about six months old and
so I was taking him to work with me and he pretty much lived in our office for the first few months.
There's, you know, I feel like if it was another job
or organization or company they'd be like what? You know that wouldn't,
that wouldn't be an option.
Which is unfortunate.
Um, and so I think I have a lot of flexibility because
we are a start up and so I can come in later, or I can leave early. I can really just make my own schedule
for the most part, but because we're a start up there's only three of us
and I'm the only communications person-- and so it makes it so that a lot of
you know, all the communication falls on me so
I have to really make sure I'm getting my job done
so that things don't fall apart
just because I have a kid.
My baby is nomad-ness right now.
That's my baby, that's my husband, that's like everything right now.
So, that takes everything from me and, um, and there's nothing that I'm-
I'll be honest with you. There's nothing I'll really allow in my life right now.
that's gonna be approached with that much vigor.
Just because this is a very instrumental, you know, phase that I'm in right now and the time is just pertinent and time is of the essence.
Um, my goal is to definitely, I wanna be married, you know, not right now but I wanna be married one day.
I definitely want kids. Which is another misconception. I had a friend, a male friend of mine
um, a couple years ago, he was just like "You wanna kid?"
and he gave me like the ill stink face
and I was just like, why wouldn't I? And he's just like
I don't know I just with your lifestyle and moving around I would never think that.
I was like, yeah, but you know there's gonna be certain foundations that are gonna be laid.
It's like right now it's crazy cuz I'm in the building phase.
I always said you know there are so many kids with no homes and no-- you know, lack of love
that it just-- to me for a long time it didn't make sense to bring a new being into this earth.
It made sense to love a being that needed love.
But, you know as I get older I'm starting to think that I probably want
to experience that. Even just not necessarily because I feel the expectation to procreate, but
just to experience the full range of what it means to be a human being
on this earth.
A lot happened to come to that place, but uh, there was definitely a tangible moment where I was like I wanna have kids
but you know usually it comes when you meet the person that you want to have kids with.
Are you comfortable in that switch?
No, not at all.
Uh, I mean you touched on it just for purely cosmetic reasons, I'm just like wait I have to like grow a human being
in my stomach and push it out of my vagina and like rip my vagina open?
Talking to these dynamic entrepreneurial women,
it is clear that no matter what stage we are we're all just trying to do what we do
and stay sane.
So of course I have to ask them for tips.
How do you maintain your work life balance?
Ok so, in the mornings I make sure to, you know, have breakfast with my husband and
I make my baby's breakfast. I feed him and I make his lunch.
So, I don't get in at 9 o'clock because I need to be able to do that.
Making sure that every once in awhile you go get a massage
and not feeling guilty. I think I used to kinda guilt myself into, you know
these corners thinking that you know I should be working right now
or you know, I don't necessarily deserve this, or this money could go towards something else for the business
and something you gotta just be like, you know what
No, this is me time now and that's what it is.
Just maintain your own life. Don't lose yourself to someone else.
Maintain your goals, maintain your dreams.
But can you ever lose yourself to work? I feel like it could work both ways.
Yeah yeah yeah yeah
and there are women in my family who are guilty of that.
Um, to the detriment of their love lives.
So yeah, there definitely is a balance.
Striking a work life balance is definitely something I hope to do in 2013
and once I figure that out maybe then my baby switch will go off,
or maybe not.