- In this video I will share with you 10 ways
on how you can get a man's attention.
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And without further ado, let me just break down for you
those 10 ways on how you can get his attention.
Number one, he needs to be the one approaching you,
because he feels attracted to you.
So if you will come into a club,
or anywhere where you're going,
and you will always have this desperate vibe about you,
that you're constantly looking for men approach you,
like for example, you're walking pass the road
and you're always checking out for guy,
you're having this kind of deep look into every single guy
or the guys that you actually like.
What you're gonna do, you're gonna make them run away,
because we will feel that pursuing, desperate vibe from you.
As a woman, you should never be a pursuer.
It's a man's job to do that.
If you're going to walk around looking for a man
and you will keep carrying this desperate vibe with you,
let me tell you this, ladies,
you're not gonna get the right guy's attention,
because if you gonna get some attention from those guys,
it's not gonna be the right kind,
because you're gonna be like, oh wow,
he's interested in me, this is the green light
that might be easy.
And ladies, things that come easy, go very easy too.
It's not your job to look for his attention,
but it's his job to find you.
It's a man that finds his wife.
So he needs to be the one to approach you,
to find you and to look for you.
Number two is smile and be happy.
So, as I said, I would not recommend for you to walk round,
like staring at every single guy and checking him out
in this desperate vibe about you,
but what I would recommend you to do
is to be happy and to smile.
So when you're going out with your girlfriends
or you're walking by yourself,
be in this kind of happy, positive mood.
And if somebody is talking to you,
be friendly, have a happy vibe about yourself.
Same ways if a guy's asking you this,
like let's say, a serious question,
or he's kind of randomly approaching you
to ask you something,
and you're just so happy that he approached you,
this can come across desperate too.
If a guy's approaching,
you kind of mirror his behavior a little bit,
kind of try and be on the same page,
have this chilled vibe back.
Actually, now that I'm talking about the chilled vibes,
when guys approach you
and you have this very chilled vibe about you,
they kinda see you a bit like a challenge,
as they can see that you're not that nervous around them.
And it makes them usually pursue you more.
Number three: be yourself. Like attracts like.
So what do I mean by being yourself?
A lot of people say like, well, you know,
I need to change who I am because high value
is all about changing myself and that's not there.
Well, high value is all about
being the best version of yourself.
It's not about changing yourself.
It's about improving yourself, right?
So if in the past you were behaving needy,
clingy, going crazy,
and now you're dropping these anxieties,
these crazy characteristics,
and replacing them with patience, self-control,
not acting desperate, not chasing man.
It's more about improving yourself
rather than changing your personality.
Number four how to get a man's attention
is have a life, have a fulfilling life,
have your goals, have your dreams,
have your ambitions, be busy.
Have a life without him.
Don't look for a man to give you a life.
You should have a life.
If you're not happy with your life,
if you're feeling sad,
if you're feeling needy,
if you feel like you need friends,
if you feel like you need a boyfriend,
if you feel like you need something else,
well, look for the ways on how to have those things,
you know, make an effort to have those things.
Don't wait for a guy to bring you those things.
First of all, nobody's gonna be interested in you
if you don't have a life
and you're actually looking for a man
to depend on and to make you happy.
He will sense that straight away.
He's not gonna be interested in that long-term,
because you don't have much to offer to him.
Same as you want a guy who has a life,
and who's gonna add to your life and compliment you.
Same is with the guy,
this is what he's looking for in a woman
to add something to his life, you complement him also.
When you don't have a life,
and you start to look for the one,
you know, and when you start to date the guy
and he realizes that you don't have a life,
he's gonna freak out because he be like, wow, this girl,
you know, she potentially might be very needy,
she potentially might get very controlling,
she potentially might make me into her whole life.
That's a lot of pressure,
that's a lot of responsibility for a guy.
Nowadays, nobody really wants a baggage in a relationship.
You might want to help people,
you might want to give charity,
but a man is not looking to marry the charity.
He's looking to marry his equal,
looking to date, be in a relationship, or to marry someone
that's gonna add to his life,
not just take it from him.
Number five, how to get a man's attention
is to let him pursue and lead.
And why do I say that, is because nowadays, a lot of women,
when we like a guy, when we walk around hunting for a guy,
they start to pursue these guys, they chase them.
they show they're interest.
This is very unattractive to our man,
because he is a pursuer, he is a man.
So guys usually naturally get turned off
by the woman that approach them
or by a woman that show interest.
Yes, most women will stroke their ego,
but the guys will not be interested in most women long-term.
So once you sense that the guy is coming after you,
you let him pursue you and let him lead you.
If he does not pursue you or he's not leading you,
he's either not interested or he's playing games with you.
Ladies, this is not good enough,
because if you will invest into this type of guy,
you'll waste your time and you will never be happy,
because he will simply not know
how to fulfill your feminine love needs
which is a man pursuing you.
You will never feel safe in this type of dating
or a relationship, because he will refuse to pursue you.
We, as a women, we need pursuing,
we need pursuits from a guy,
because one of our biggest love need is safety and security.
So if he's not pursuing you,
he's not fulfilling your love needs.
So (indistinct) you will always feel on the edge
of your seat and you'll never be happy.
Guys' love need, however, is not safety or security,
therefore, you should not pursue a man.
If you would like to know what are guys' love needs,
I would really recommend you to check out my playlist
where I talk about the differences between men and women.
And you can find it just by following the link right here.
Number six, enjoy your time with him,
but when you're not with him, try not to focus on him.
Be a challenge.
This is how you actually naturally become a challenge.
So when you with him, yes, have fun with him,
enjoy your time at him, laugh at his jokes,
you know, all of that.
But when you're not with him, focus on what you need to do.
Be busy, and if you actually have a fulfilling life,
you will be busy when you're not with him.
Your focus will drift from him to your busy life.
However, if you don't have a busy life,
you don't have many things to do through the day.
Your focus will always be on him.
We will end up making everything too serious,
perhaps too soon and totally overthinking things.
In majority of case, he will start to sense that,
because when you start to overthink things,
you start to message him more, you start to text him more,
you get more insecure, you start to stalk him,
you start to pursue him in no time,
and when you start to pursue him, of course,
because safety and security is not the guy's love need,
he starts to get turned off and he starts to pull away,
drift away because he starts to lose interest in you.
Number seven, keep your options opened, but don't be cheap.
What do you mean by don't be cheap?
I don't mean like I'm going to all these fancy places
and letting guys, you know, sweep you off your feet,
which actually doesn't sound too bad, to be honest.
But by don't be cheap I mean, like,
keep your options open date, get to know people,
take things slow with people,
but don't sleep with every single guy that you meet
or every single guy that turns you.
Get to know guys and get to know them slowly.
See what are their values in life,
what do they like to do in life.
Is there a compatibility?
Observe, are you on the same page in life?
Observe how he treats you, what he are like as a person,
and to choose the right guy for you.
Number eight, if you want to get a guy's attention,
don't put him on a pedestal.
So many ladies put guys on a pedestal.
I actually really don't know why they do that.
It's a guy! What do you guys do?
I mean, since you were like a child at school,
like, all they do is pull your hair,
tease you and annoying you,
like, why would you put that on a pedestal, you know?
But my point is, obviously I'm joking,
but so many ladies put guys on a pedestal
who look good, who have money, who are charming.
And like, they literally,
like as long as the guy looks good,
he's charming, has the money,
that guy is really high up on a pedestal.
Like ladies, this all can be very, very fake.
This guy that looks good, has money and is charming
could technically be a total monster.
Take things slow, get to know a person,
observe their values in life,
observe his relationship with his parents,
observe his relationship with his friends,
see what matters the most in the person
is their values in life.
Do they choose to do the right thing?
Are they reliable?
Do they pick you up? Are they on time?
Are they selfish and always put themselves first?
Do they mean pay attention to detail?
Is he generous? Is he kind?
Take your time at getting to know a person
and don't put them on a pedestal
on the first couple of dates.
You don't even know a person.
It does not even make sense to put them on a pedestal.
And ladies, people are not perfect.
There is no perfect person on this earth.
We are all sinners.
We are not meant to worship each other.
Who is your idol or who is your idol?
We shouldn't even have idols.
You want to worship somebody? Worship God.
He's the only one that you can actually worship.
Everyone else is just a human being with his flaws.
Aim to live a life the best that we can,
same as you are.
Number nine, how to get a man's attention is value yourself.
Don't think that the other girls are better than you are.
A lot of women start to compete with other women
because we be put the other women on a pedestal.
They look at other women as in like,
wow, she's so beautiful or she's so charming
or she's so successful.
It is when you don't have confidence,
when you don't value yourself,
when you don't love yourself, when you're insecure,
after a while, the guy that you're with will sense that,
because whenever he will speak to another woman,
he will start to send some jealousy from you.
Most people that don't value themselves,
they feel intimidated by our people
and the jealousy naturally comes up.
So ladies, if you are in a place
where you are feeling insecure
and you feel like you're not good enough,
I would first recommend to work on your value and self-worth
before even starting to date men.
Number 10, if you want to get a guy's attention
don't be so accommodating,
don't be going out of your way to constantly please him.
For example, maybe he lives in London
and you live outside of London.
And he says, oh, okay, babe, I'll come to you,
I'll come to visit you, I'll come to you.
Right? Don't be the one like, oh no, no, it's okay.
You know, I'm going to London tomorrow,
so I can come and visit you, or we can meet halfway.
Like, don't accommodate him.
If he says, babe, I'm coming to visit you,
let him come all the way to you.
Let him be a man and invest into you.
Don't be too nice and start offering to meet him halfway.
You are a lady. He is a man.
He is a pursuer, let him sweep you off your feet,
pursue you, try and fit in around your schedule,
around your life.
You are precious here. You are a prize here.
If he wants you, he needs to prove himself
and come after you.
When you start to become too pleasing, too accommodating,
too nice, this is then the guy starts to lose value in you,
starts to see you as too easy and take you for granted.
Remember, guys love the pursuit.
Guys love you being a challenge.
This's what drives them to pursue you
and come off to you.
So don't take that pleasure away from him
and let him come all the way to you.
So ladies, these were my 10 ways
on how to get his attention.
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