war raising a toddler is
a really big challenge no question about it if you ever find yourself saying
it should come with a manual well you would help stop second-guessing yourself
the toddler years the operation singer is here
tell us in the biggest mistakes that parents and toddlers make and how to fix
them and I'm so glad you're here cuz
boy could I use your help I was by myself saying that to you but
we have talked to your cell you now I had two toddlers at the same time cuz I
had a one year old and a two-and-a-half-year-old and I'm
that's crazy it was absolutely crazy cuz they won with a one way when we go the
other way
it hard to control them you know toddlers can be frustrating and
exhausting and
absolutely wonderful all the same time in a I think it's
because there so unpredictable nato tensions that parents maybe start using
some parenting techniques that they
normally wouldn't shouldn't race well that's true they forget that
their toddlers and their baby anymore and so they go for the easy fix
for the bigger problems and that causes larger problems in the long run
okay let's talk about these three big mistakes
for starters you say sometimes parents squint on discipline when they shouldn't
tell me about that where the deal
probably doing it to you or you know they're so darned cute so you think that
no other so little all just let some
things go in fact sixty-three percent up mom survey to mama said dotnet
say that enduring temper tantrums and their kids not listening to
them saying now is a big big problem however
you gotta just say no and I'll tell you why when you're in a store in your kids
throwing a fit
if you just say oh we're gonna leave if you don't stop that and then you don't
leave
you now set up for the rest of their lives they're gonna know that mommy's
gonna buckle
so she's gonna cave she's gonna cave if I keep it up
so just saying no this huge obviously have to do that but she also recommended
when tell me how that works yeah happened set a plan and have to follow
that plan and no matter who's watching
the trial may have how that plan too so if you decide
that you will not allow temper 10 him for my
well then you pick up that
hitting you take that kid to the car no matter how much they're screaming and
how embarrassing it is
do that every single time and stay consistent with your spouse I would
imagine is important your spouse has to do it too which is sometimes a hard sell
by yes everyone has to do it and they're gonna know who's the sake
okay usually me alright the next mistake underestimating what your toddler can do
what do you mean
my cousin told me that his toddler had just learned how to walk he turned
around for a second
turned back around and his son was standing in the middle the kitchen table
at the tapping gots toddlerhood
and again you made your toddler's not a baby anymore so you need to sort of
anticipate what they're gonna do which is really hard to do
crafty little creatures but we can do is watch other toddlers who are a little
bit older than yours and see what they're getting into
and then child-proof accordingly so you need to make the tough before I even
thought that
should get down on your hands and knees walk around think like a toddler think
what
what can I stick into there that's what you'll do in order to figure out what
your child might get into
okay but also you say you need to let some things go so you're not
sure to be in their face every step of the way yeah you know it your house
should have a little spot where Tyler
concern roam free you're not yelling no no no all the time
sacrifice your Tupperware for an afternoon let them play with it because
that's how toddlers
learn is to play let him play don't make it like up
jail cell let them take every single DVD added the
TV compartment for us it was the magnets of the refrigerator
on their they all find something it's kind it's fun for them okay
mistake number three finally is using short term solutions that create
long-term problems
this is a big one arm I and II mama said about a quarter
mom said that they admit to letting their toddler sleep with them just cuz
they were so exhausted yeah I
but now they're setting up the college thing hey I slept there last night I get
to do it every night
and you can't do that again this goes back to disappoint plan
set a bedtime plan when it's not bedtime and say
you know we're not gonna let our toddler sleep in our bed you're always go to
your crib
and then stick to that because the moment that you pull away from that
remember that one time that you let them float a boat in the toilet or whatever
it is
a really good in your house yeah we did yet hey everybody thinks about every
once in a while
but you said that you also need to keep it simple because
they can stretch at that time i send me the extra drink in a little back rub in
the
walkin there's always something else happen stop that
well if you keep that up there gonna act like no Britney Spears at the Four
Seasons
expect that every night and before you know your bedtime ritual as an hour and
a half long
keep it as simple as possible read a book change the diaper
but I'm the bad that's it alright sounds like I need to go home and set some
rules Jen singer
always a pleasure to have you thank you so much for coming here alright and if
you need
a little more help maintain your sanity there are plenty more tips engines book
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within bookstores now go get it thanks for watching parents to be
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