Hey Dan here and if you're an ENFP i don't know why you're watching this
video because as ENFP if we've never procrastinate it in our lives we're the
kind of people that when we want to get something done whether it's cleaning up
accounting boring homework that's what we do we just get it done and go about
our days in a very organized fashion so again not sure why you're watching this
but just in case you're one of the three or four enfps in the world who
occasionally struggle with procrastination I thought I'd make a
video for you reach out to the three of you so step one to defeating
procrastination is assume that your brain consciously and unconsciously is
intelligent and logical what I mean by that is whatever you're actually doing
with your body whether that's avoiding stuff you're supposed to do you know
procrastinating whatever it is assume there's a reason behind it and there's a
logical reason like your unconscious mind is making a choice and one of the
good ways to look at this is pain versus pleasure and just assume that we're
motivated by one of these two things either pleasure we feel like by doing
something we'll get a positive emotional reward or pain we feel that by not doing
something we will avoid pain right in the case of procrastination so generally
if you're avoiding something if you're procrastinating
it's because your unconscious mind among other things there's other things I'm
gonna get into here but among those it's because your unconscious mind is
associating more pain with doing this thing than with not doing it and often
this is the case I mean if we want to think back like well in my case thinking
back to say University is I would procrastinate studying or finishing a
paper until the last night and that's just how I worked and I spent probably a
week up until it worrying wondering why I was procrastinating maybe feeling bad
about that but ultimately it was probably the smart choice because I tend
to do my best work under pressure with tight deadlines I mean this is something
I learned about myself sort of afterwards but
I do my best work when the clock is ticking and there's very limited time
available so probably maybe on some unconscious level I was doing that
calculation like listen the exams on Friday it's Wednesday if I don't go to
this party that's gonna be a lot of pain if I do go to this party there's gonna
be a lot of pleasure and probably I'll pull it out of my ass and get a B on the
exam anyhow just by cramming on Thursday and that's ultimately what ends up
happening so that can often be the case I think we're us enfps we beat ourselves
up for procrastinating and I'm going a little up script here off topic I should
say but we'll often beat ourselves up for procrastinating when really we
should just accept that we do things last-minute and just do it last-minute
use that burst of adrenaline get it done and in the week leading up to that
instead of feeling like I'm procrastinating I feel so bad be like
I'm going to the beach and then I'm gonna do the thing the night before
that's one option there's one way to do it another way is change this pain
pleasure relationship by making things more enjoyable for a while here in
Prague I had a personal trainer I had some nothing serious but a bit of back
pain from being a tall guy who works on laptops all the time as you might expect
and these workouts we did were intense and ultimately I did feel good after
them but I felt like I dreaded them pretty quickly right and so it did
become a situation where when I was thinking about going to work out
there was some dregs I'm like I'm not going to enjoy this like I might feel
good after it might do what I need but I'm dreading the experience right that's
ok sometimes right that can like I could still get myself to the gym to go to
these but it was taking a lot of willpower to get there right what if I
had have made it fun like maybe I found a topless hot yoga class somewhere here
in Prague or you know went and played volleyball with my friends or went for a
run with a buddy right something that would make it really fun and enjoyable
then I wouldn't need all these strata - you know trick myself into doing it
because the actual thing would have more pleasure than pain and therefore I would
just do it right so think about that if there's things that you find tough you
know something I've been doing with like admin work things I need to get through
is I have sort of the - monitor setup and I'm one of the monitors I'll throw
on like a mediocre kind of documentary thing like something by vise or I think
I've been watching like Ross Kemp extreme worlds like where he goes to
some crazy places and it's something I don't really need to pay much attention
to but it makes it a little more fun you know mix in a glass of wine 7:00 at
night have some wine have the TV on and then go through and do that boy in admin
stuff it at least makes it a little more enjoyable so you don't end up
procrastinating nearly as much as well as one of the things I've started to do
is try to associate more pleasure with just finishing these kind of tasks right
so if I have to finish an hour of administer I'll try to focus on how good
it will feel when I get that done and hold on to that feeling and that will
help bring me through it as well and there's three more things on top of this
pain pleasure relationship that I think you can do to reduce or eliminate
procrastination one of them is use forced environment so I work for myself
as you may or may not have gathered at this point and I work from a variety of
places I have a home office I have a co-working space I go to I have another
sort of office space co-working set up and then there's a bunch of different
cafes I work from and I find different environments work really well for me for
different types of work that could be because I now associate them with that
or it could just be something else I don't know but if I want to get writing
done and sort of more creative work I go to a busy cafe if I want to get like
work that I might tend to procrastinate you know go through my emails and clear
out the ones I don't need to respond to and that sort of thing or do some kind
of accounting work or whatever that is I find that going to a co-working space
works really well for me because it puts me in this sort of professional
environment and it's just like get this work done
and then you can go home and that works really well so maybe with your
procrastination whatever it is you're procrastinating see if there's something
you can do like take your work to the library to a cafe to a bar like whatever
is in your neighborhood and just get it done and that might actually also help
with the pain pleasure side because if you go somewhere that's a little more
lively a little more fun it will make it more enjoyable and you'll get it done
that way as well but I find that really helps if I go somewhere with one thing
to do like I bring the paperwork with me to a cafe or co-working space I say I'm
not leaving until this is done that can work really well but that leads me to my
next point which is if you have a ton of work you tend to procrastinate like
you're saying den that's cool but I have like three hours of work every day that
I procrastinate then change the shit you're doing with your life if you want
to procrastinate three hours a day of the stuff you do you need to find new
work that you enjoy doing more because ultimately all these little tricks all
the ritalin in the world is not going to well actually all the rhythm ritalin in
the world probably would solve the problem but it's not the right way to do
it so on the big picture side it might not be today it might not be tomorrow
but over the next six months work to align what you're doing with who you are
and what you enjoy if you're always procrastinating your work you're doing
the wrong thing and you need to make a serious change and hopefully I can help
you do that here on this channel if not I'm sure there's other resources but
that's the biggest thing if you don't enjoy what you're doing at all you're
going to procrastinate it's that simple pain pleasure equation right lastly if
you do find that you procrastinate things that maybe you actually do enjoy
like it doesn't even really make sense there may be something going on with
your brain chemistry and so things like exercising more frequently eating
healthier less carbs I'm on a crazy eating regime right now I eat like 50
grams of carbs or less a day but even reducing it to like 200 grams of carbs a
day or something like that it makes a huge difference
eating better you know vitamins exercise all
this stuff it can have a really positive impact on your brain chemistry and
another thing that I found works really well it's it's not really tied in with
like diet and exercise but for some reason this made me think of it is doing
something I really enjoy at the beginning of the day tend to like tweak
my brain chemistry like I'm happy and feeling more productive throughout the
rest of the day so I end up getting a lot more work that I might otherwise
procrastinate done later on by starting the day doing things I really enjoy so I
hope you found at least a couple things there that will help you with your
procrastination try them out if you want to commit below in the comments to what
you're going to try out or some changes you might make to make something a
little more pleasurable a little less painful share those in the comments
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