(audience cheers)
Truth be told, we are all insecure about
one thing or another, am I right?
Yeah.
So today we are facing the truth
about those insecurities head on.
(audience applauds)
Before this show, we had our entire audience
anonymously write their insecurities on our mirror wall.
And now it's time to put a face to all the little things
that try to steal our joy and our confidence.
So Dr. Judy tell us, what did our audience
write on the mirror?
Okay Vivica the first insecurity
that our audience members wrote is body insecurity.
Body insecurities, okay, who wrote that?
Okay
(everyone laughs)
stand up darling.
Okay, so tell us why are you insecure about your body?
I'm insecure because I just feel really fat,
I have big hips, I got a big booty,
it's just big all around.
And I eat a lot of tacos Vivica, I need your help.
Mamita I join on that, I got big hips,
(laughs)
Ahh, aw aw
You gotta own it girl, you gotta own your curves.
(audience applauds)
And FYI men like some curves,
am I right about that fellas in the house?
You know, fellas want the women to have
a little bit of meat on their bones.
When you said you felt like you were overweight
I'm sitting here thinking by what standard?
What standard are you judging being overweight by?
I guess because I see these runway models
and they seem so skinny and nice bodies
and I want that, I wanna fit into clothes.
And in fact you used the word fat,
you used the word fat, she didn't even say overweight,
so that seems very
Extreme out of proportion.
This is the one thing that I figured out,
we are always comparing ourself to someone's best picture
or living their best life when it's photoshopped
and that's not the reality.
And then you look at that picture and then you're like
this doesn't look like that therefore I must not be perfect
therefore I can't be happy.
And that's just unrealistic.
I wanna piggyback on that because
do you know that the average size of the American woman
is what size
14, 16 baby girl.
Yeah, that's the average size
So you're underweight
Right, okay so you got some more eating to do, okay.
(everyone laughs)
So listen, if you do say, hey I wanna lose a few pounds
or something like that, find a happy medium
don't go back down to no zero no size two,
girl you be walk like
(laughs)
and hungry too, don't do that, okay, all right?
(audience applauds)
All right Dr. Judy read us another insecurity
that someone wrote on that mirror.
Okay another insecurity our audience members wrote
is smile, they're insecure about their smile.
Insecure about their smile,
who wrote that they're insecure about their smile?
Ahh stand on up, Hi.
I am Avia , I'm a plus size model
Beautiful
(laughs)
I feel like I have a decent smile but I can notice
like my bottom teeth are just a little bit misplaced
so I feel like insecure
and sometimes I'll take a video
and I'll be like no, delete, delete
and it really does affect me,
cause I've gotten through the insecurity of my body,
gotten through my insecurity of
not being as successful as my peers
and now it's like what other insecurity
do I need to get over.
I feel like the more I'm in this industry,
I find something else.
Because you're looking for what's wrong
instead of what's right.
(audience applauds)
I'm gonna tell you something, you have a beautiful smile
Thank you.
You do, now could you maybe do a little,
what was it called?
The little white strips, something like that.
Invisalign?
I think you have a beautiful smile.
Thank you.
Like I said a little clear strip or something like that
but don't lose you, don't lose you.
I gonna tell you, cause back in the day,
I'll be very honest with everybody, I go my bags removed
all of a sudden everybody thought
I was queen of plastic surgery,
oh she's done her nose, she's done her chin.
If all the plastic surgery they said I had I had
I would never be able to blink or talk.
(everyone laughs)
You know what I saying, but back in the day I did
I had them taken out and I was very honest about it
back in the day.
But I have learned to, the older I get,
it's called maintenance and tune up.
Get your facials, exercise, take good care of your spirit
and your mind.