- There's a quote I love by Marcus Garvey.
He says, "With confidence, you've won
"before you have started."
Confidence is often the single differentiator
between people who get what they want and people who don't.
Those who think and believe that they can do something
like run a marathon, start an entrepreneurial venture,
ask someone out and have that person say yes,
win a competitive promotion
or even fit into pre-pregnancy jeans, well, they do it.
Our mind is a very powerful tool
and the impact of our thoughts and words
cannot be underestimated.
Our thoughts create our emotions,
our emotions create our actions
and our actions create our life.
Confident people have greater control over their minds
and have their mental station tuned into one of I can.
Here are nine things that confident people do
that you can apply to your life starting now.
Number one, do not over-complicate.
You want something, great.
Create a plan to make it yours.
Keep your eye on the prize and don't get distracted
by other people's noise or by your own ability to overthink.
Thinking can be the enemy.
Action wins.
Number two, focus on what you want.
Confident people keep a positive vision in mind
for the future.
They expect good things to happen to them.
And as a result, they do
because expectation is a very powerful force.
Number three, act as if it's already yours.
People who are self-assured allow their language and actions
to be in line with their outcome.
This also inspires confidence in other people.
Number four, use words with intention.
Consider the difference
between two people discussing their new blog.
One could say, yes, I'm a blogger.
You like vintage purses too?
Awesome, let's connect.
Check out the new images I posted at, dah, dah, dah.
Versus, well, I'm trying to start a blog.
I don't know if I'm doing it right.
Nervous laugh.
Who do you think would get the most views and shares?
Number five, listen but don't pay heed to others' opinions.
Other people are well-meaning
and sometimes err on the side of caution when giving advice.
Confident people listen to other people
but they don't let their difference of perspective
take them off track of their own intuition
because it's your life.
Number six, dedicate time to what matters.
This is an important step.
Confident people are happy to say no to things
to make sure that they have enough time and energy
for their real priority.
Funnily enough, people treat them with more respect too
as a result.
Number seven, act humble.
Humility matters.
Confident types don't talk endlessly about their successes.
I was once at a large corporate event
and I was speaking to an outgoing and really likable woman
who told me that she worked in publishing.
I found out late to that evening
that she was the editor-in-chief
of one of New York's most influential magazines.
Confident people let their success speak for itself
and they don't always need to vocalize it.
Number eight, no failure is inevitable,
and don't fear it.
Worrying about failure
can keep us from really doing much at all.
Confident people are still confident even when they fail.
When the chips are down, they know it will pass
because everything is temporary.
Step nine, repeat everything I've just shared.
Confidence building takes a lifetime.
And the more we practice confidence as an attitude,
the easier it just becomes integrated
into our day-to-day decisions and experiences.
The most successful and happy people
aren't born the most rich, the most beautiful,
the most talented, they believe in themselves.
As a result, they go for what they want.
Confidence is also a highly attractive quality in others
as we all secretly aspire to have more self-assurance.
I can and I can't thoughts create
very different emotional spirals
as the mind is very obedient
and follows whichever path we direct it upon.
Which do you choose?
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