How to communicate with
your horse. So your horse
understands you.
So have you ever felt like,
you're just you're just bursting
to get out with your horse, you
have a lot of caring you, a lot
of passion, a lot of deep desire
to help your horse. But you
can't seem to quite get your
horse to get motivated to say,
Yeah, I understand. And let's do
it. And why is it that some
riders seem to have absolutely
no trouble communicating with
their horses, and their horses
are willing, they are there for
them, while others struggle to
just rustle up even so so
results? Well, today, I'm going
to dig really deeply into how to
communicate with your horse, how
to get your message across to
your horse, so that your horse
then understands what you're
saying, I'm going to actually
show you how to create an ideal
horse. The first thing, I'm
going to ask you a question
that's a little bit kind of
weird. And it's a question that
I've taken from our program.
Because oftentimes, I see riders
who absolutely love their
horses, they have a huge love
for their horse. And they do so
much for their horses, but
they're still overwhelmed, and
they don't know what to do. So
this is my question, are you
doing endless stuff with your
horse. And by that, I mean,
trying this and trying that,
because so much of what we see
is riders who come to us to
better themselves, right with
their horse. But what they
really are struggling with is
that they don't know what to do,
because they have this deep
block with in themselves. And
usually it's around having an
authoritative figure in their
childhood when they were
children, basically. And I'm the
same, I'm not excluded from
this. I was got messages like,
you're wrong for wanting that.
And how could you want that? Do
you know what you actually want
this is when I see riders have a
really difficult time. And what
they haven't done is they
haven't given themselves
permission to want what they
want. I want to give you an
example how this worked. It was
a student of mine who had a
horse who was a dominant mare,
she didn't like the part that
the horse was very dominant. So
the horse was like really fast,
always walking out fast. My
student was a fairly, you know,
introverted, quiet, slow person.
But the horse was very fast all
the time dominant knew exactly
where she was going, what she
was doing. And that frustrated
her greatly what I saw in this
rider and what I also see in
other riders, is that she hadn't
given herself permission to
truly accept who her horse was,
when we can truly accept who our
horse is, that's when the
communication starts, right. But
before that, this rider hadn't
truly accepted who she was, and
hadn't really realized that she
wasn't even giving herself
permission to love herself to
trust herself. And therefore,
she didn't then give herself
permission to truly love her
horse, trust her horse except
her horse for the kind of horse
that's that she was. So once she
really got over those blocks.
And she could accept Yes, my
horse is a dominant mare. Yes,
my horse wants to be dominant.
So how do I communicate with
that type of a horse? How do I
have a conversation with my
mare, and when she figured that
out, then she could really
really love her horse. And then
the reciprocal love went back
and forth. When you truly accept
who your horses then you can
really start to create the ideal
relationship and your ideal
horse. And that's what I mean
about creating your horse. So
now let's go into the actual
house. You're clear on where
you're coming to your horse from
and now how to do it. Well,
there's so many different ways
of communicating with our horses
that aren't there. There's,
there's voice there's intention.
There's words that we can use
mental images expressions on our
face. People sometimes call it
body language movement phrase,
smiling. So what does that all
come down to the basis is energy
right? It's All energy, how we
voice ourselves is energy. Our
intention behind what we're
doing is all energy. And our
horses know that don't they are
words, words have impact, don't
they, they have power. So the
words that we choose to use, our
mental images that we choose to
use expressions on our face are
all just energy which our horses
pick up with this energy, we
need to have clarity, don't we,
we need to know how the energy
then gets reflected into our
movement, and how that energy
attunes our whole entire body,
there are two things that on the
how into things, how you're
going to do it, number one I've
just I already talked about,
which is to accept who your
horse really is. Number two, is
the conversation that you have
with your horse. I like to have
like a running dialogue between
my horse. Sometimes I use words,
most of the time not, it's
mostly my mind and my emotions
and my body movement. When I
have this dialogue with my horse
like this running that, that
goes back and forth between us
what's in my mind, the words
that are in my mind, then go
through into my body, which then
goes through into the horse's
body, which also things go
through into the horse's mind
and the horses emotions, right.
So that's the connection. That's
the connection that we're
talking about. If it comes out
of nowhere, if you're not
accepting how your horses nature
is, and there's that underlying
feeling and frustration, and
begrudging that today, she's
really distracted because of
those noises, that's gonna come
out in your movement that's
gonna come out in how you
communicate, and then that's
going to be received, she's not
going to be held in the place
that she is by you. She's going
to be alarmed even more and then
conclude that you're not there
for her, when she really needs
you to be there for her
communication is two way. It's
not just one way, it's not just
the dominating behavior, that's
going to say, we are circling to
the right right now. And we're
going to go at a trot. And if
you don't do that, no matter
what, I'm going to reinforce
that until you do. It's been
great to have you here. If you
would like help with these types
of things with your horse, then
there will be a link somewhere
around this video, you can click
on that link, and it'll take you
to a scheduled page where you
can book a call with one of us
in my program. And we will chat
to see if we can help you with
your horse and where you're at
with your horse. I hope that
this helps you to see how the
dialogue can happen between your
horse and the different levels
of dialogue and the different
areas and the different
considerations that need to be
taken. Okay, thanks so much for
being here. It's great to have
you and I will see you next
time. Bye for now.