Tripp Kramer here from Tripp Advice.com. Here's why when you try too hard with women,
it actually pushes them more away. I went over on my last video, the idea of neediness. If you want
to learn more about that you can click over to the last video – that is one thing that pushes
her away – being needy, it's very unattractive. But it goes a step further than neediness.
Women secretly want to know that you are desired by other women. The reason why this is,
is because this helps her save time to know if you are someone who is attractive because in order for
a woman to become attracted to a man, she needs to get a sense of his behavior, because behavior and
personality are harder to fake. And that is what makes a woman most attracted. That's why social
proof is so powerful. Again, this idea that when she knows that he is attractive to other women,
that makes him more attractive to her. Let me wrap this in a nice bow here.
When a woman knows that you're desirable, when a woman knows that other women like you, this
makes her more attracted to you. This is called social proof. Now you might see social proof
in the settings of being a celebrity. There are a lot of celebrities who are maybe not as attractive
as you might think. But they have a lot of status and status means social proof. They know that a
lot of women desire that one man and because of that it makes that man more desirable. That's one
of the reasons why status is so powerful. Status is also powerful because someone with status
has more resources and women are attracted to that as well. But we cannot discount the idea that when
more women like a man it makes him more desirable to all women. What does this have to do
with trying too hard and pushing a woman away? When you try too hard, when you are putting out
every desperate move you can and giving a woman lots of attention, this sub communicates to her
that you don't have any other options, that no other women are finding you desirable.
Yes, there's the neediness aspect, which I talked about in the exact previous video to this.
But there is also this idea that if you're not desired by other women, or if you don't have
other women who you're dating, it might hurt your chances of the woman liking you. But
here's the secret... you don't need to be dating multiple women to get a woman attracted to you.
But what you do need is to act as if and this gets her more attracted. At the very least,
it doesn't make her un-attracted, it doesn't push her away. When you're texting her all the time,
trying to hang out with her all the time, trying to put all the moves on her –when I say that,
I mean, you're asking her out even when she can't hang out and you're saying "No, come on, let's
hang out. Come on, let's do it. Are you free next week or the week after that?" When you're just
trying too hard and putting too much attention on her, when you're doing all that, that is signaling
that you don't have anyone else in your life. And women don't want to know that. That's why I
always say, in the Tripp Advice curriculum, that you need to be staying busy, that you need to
be doing other things with your life. And by God, there are a lot of things that you could be doing.
A lot of things that you could be working on in your life to become a more attractive man, like
working on your purpose, working on your career, building skills, working on hobbies, spending time
with other friends, being a guy who's more well rounded in his life, which takes up a lot of time,
which can then make it so you're not being too needy and spending too much time trying to get
this girl to hang out with you or giving her too much attention. I always say one of the best ways
to prevent neediness and giving too much attention is hobbies. You want to have a summer hobby
or a warm hobby, a winter hobby or a cold hobby and a year round hobby. If you have a hobby in all
these areas, this is a practical way to be staying busy to prevent you from being too needy and
pushing a woman away. Another way to prevent this neediness and to make sure that you're not pushing
a woman away, and I talk about this all the time in my coaching program when I'm coaching clients,
I use this technique. And by the way, if you want to get coaching you can work with me
or one of the coaches here at Tripp Advice. You can go to Coached By Tripp.com. I'll
leave a link down below and you can apply and we can work with you and we'll help you with
becoming a more attractive man. And one way to do that is by using this little technique
here. It's called the high status filter. The high status filter. The high status filter
is a mindset. In your head, even though it's not going to be true in the moment, or maybe ever,
but in your head, I want you to be thinking of 100 women are texting you right now. This is the
mindset. You imagine 100 women are texting you right now. Imagine you look at your phone,
100 women are texting you right now. If that's the case, if literally and hypothetically,
hundreds of women were texting you right now, all women that you wanted that were beautiful...
how much would you care about that one woman right now that you're trying to chase?
Probably not so much. Yeah, maybe she'd be one of them. But it would be 1 out of a whole 100 women.
That means that there's 99 other women going after you. What does this mean? This means
that you're not going to be texting her back so fast. This means you're not gonna be trying to
hang out with her all the time. You're gonna be too busy because a guy who has 100 women chasing
him is going to be too busy to go to hang out with all the women and give them that much attention.
Now I understand that this is not the reality that you're living right now. You say well,
"Tripp, 100 Women are not texting me right now." Again, I understand that is not the reality. But
you have to pretend it's the reality to get in the mindset to prevent you from being too needy
and over texting and over connecting, giving too much attention to the woman that you're
interested in. Allow that space so you don't push her away. I have more techniques and more
ways to help you. We can do this in my coaching program. Go to Coached By Tripp.com today and
apply to work with me or one of my coaches so we can help you. We have programs that are 6 weeks,
12 weeks, we have a mastermind program where you're working alongside two to three other guys.
I have a program where you can text me on a regular basis or text one of my coaches on
a regular basis so we can help you with texting women. Literally as we're doing this right now,
as I'm doing this video right now, I have a client who's texting me and I'm literally
writing the text messages for him to the girl to get her to meet up after she flaked on him,
and yes, it did work. Anyway, if you need help, go to the link down below. I hope this
video helped. Don't forget – high status filter. And remember, women are more attracted to a man
when he is desired by other women. Keep this in mind. I'll see you on the next video.