Hey, what's going on Tripp Kramer here from Tripp Advice.com. On today's video, I want to discuss,
I would even maybe call it a little bit of a pet peeve. Something that I see that irritates
the hell out of me. And I figured out why it irritates me so much. It's because I used to be in
the situation that I'm about to describe to you, and it makes me cringe. So upset at my old self
for allowing myself to be in a situation. What is the situation? The situation is a friendzone
situation. As you see from the title of this video, it's about this woman keeping you single.
I work with a lot of coaching clients who come to me and they want to meet new women,
but they have that one girl, that one girl who they think okay, maybe if I say the right thing,
if I do the right thing, I can get her interested in me. It can be a co worker, it can be a girl in
a friend group, it can be a girl that somehow you met online and you guys are just virtual friends.
And so you have this situation where you like the girl, and she's showing you a lot of interest.
This is the problem, she's showing you a lot of interest, or at least you are interpreting it as
interest, because she's paying attention to you, texting you, DMing you, sending you memes, maybe
even hanging out with you, talking positively about you, flirting with you a little bit,
touching you a little bit. But at the end of the day, you know that you're in the friendzone.
Now, real quick, maybe you don't know you're in the friendzone. And maybe there is a chance with
her. If there is then you should be asking her out or trying to make a move. But if you know,
deep down, this girl's interested in me, because maybe who knows she has a boyfriend, maybe you've
tried before, but you keep sticking around. You keep sticking around in the hopes that just maybe
she's gonna like you, I'm gonna tell you right now slim to none chance that this girl is going
to come around and actually like you. But what she's doing or I should say what you're allowing
her to do is to suck you in and tease you to the idea where maybe you think there's a chance, and
this is why this is keeping you single, because you're hoping, you're praying, you're trying,
you're strategizing that this woman could one day actually like you. And then it's impossible for
you go out there and date other women because she has all of the flooded emotions that are happening
in your brain, she owns all those right now. You have no space in your mind to go out there and
meet someone who can actually be really interested in you, not just friendship interest in you. And I
don't want you to play victim here. I've done this before. I've been in the friendzone more times
that I could count with women who I really liked, who we were really good friends. And it was always
so fun to hang out, I thought maybe they'd like me. And it never happened. And I got mad at them.
I got pissed at that. In some cases, I actually defriended them. I should say defriended in real
life, not virtually. I told them I don't want to be friends with you anymore. I was so angry at
them. And I had so much anger up into my early 20s around these women who I thought were teasing me.
And I was putting all the blame on them. Until finally, when I was about 24-25 years old, I
realized the truth about how attraction works. And then I came into myself and I said, you know what,
I'm not really angry at these women. Truthfully, I'm angry at myself. Why? Because it's not their
fault. It's my fault. I allowed it to happen and how I allowed it to happen and you might
be allowing it to happen is by staying in the situation and staying in long enough where you're
not really reading the signs right and you're not really knowing what's going on to the point where
you just think hey, if we stick around long enough, maybe it will happen. But you can't
be doing this and you can't be getting angry at women for it. You got to be focused on the prize,
and you got to be focused on what it really means for a woman to be actually attracted to you.
Let me go over some of those right now. First of all, it should have nothing to do with if
she's flirting with you. If she's touching you if she's giving you attention. Yeah,
those are sort of green flags. But we're not all the way there yet. You always have to make sure
that when you guys are hanging out, it's in a date context. Or I can even say a romantic context,
not a friend context, you two need to be on the same page of what you're both interested
in. That's why whenever you first meet a girl, don't treat her like a friend. Don't try to get
into the back door of the friendzone where maybe you'll be friends and she'll like you one day
because it doesn't work. Instead, get rejected, get rejected by as many women as you possibly
can. Because it's better to be rejected by these women than play this friendzone game where then
she's wasting your time or I should say you're allowing your time to be wasted. And then you
can't meet other girls who would be interested in you. We have date, context, romantic context. And
then there's the next big step is physical touch. And I don't just mean playful touches. I mean,
you guys are kissing, or you're doing more all the way up to actually having sex with her.
Because obviously, once you're kissing the girl and getting more physical past a kiss,
clearly this is no longer a friend situation. We don't kiss and have sex with our friends. This
is a girl who's actually interested in us. And so, if you are interested in a girl beyond friendship,
you should never be keeping her around, or else you're allowing her to waste your time.
Look out for the romantic date context, look out for if she's receptive to your physical touches,
and then you'll know. My friend, your time, as I've been saying a lot on this channel,
is worth more than anything. Stop wasting it on women who don't really want to be with you.