- Now, accelerated number seven, last one.
We talked about this earlier, but how many of you
would believe, um, agree that it's easier
to be successful when you have a lot of confidence.
Yes?
So there's, as a coach it's really important for me
to impart confidence to my clients.
By the way, that's one of the reasons I'd say
"Don't get into debt."
There's one of the most disempowering things
you can do is be in debt, because you lose your choices.
Somebody else has control rather than you, right?
Being empowered is about you being in charge.
So having confidence is empowering.
And as, so finding ways to build confidence
is one of my things.
And one of the great ways that I'm gonna teach you here
and now is the principle, well just look at it.
So imagine that your income last year was $60,000,
like in two thousand and um... In 2013 was $60,000.
And last year, at the beginning of 2014,
so just over a year ago, you set a goal.
And you said, "My goal is $100,000".
And that's sort of a normal type goal to set, right?
It's somewhat ambitious,
but an average goal as somebody would set.
So imagine then, at the end of December last year,
you set this goal for 100,000.
You made 60,000 the year before.
And you earned $80,000, end of last year.
Let me ask you, is that a good thing or a bad thing?
Raise your hand if you think it's good.
Raise your hand if you think it's not so good.
Little bit of both, and maybe I see a few not sure?
Well here's the deal.
It depends on how you look at it.
One way of looking at it is to say,
"We increased our income," (stammers)
"I increased my income by $20,000, or 33%,
"that's a pretty good increase in the year, right?"
If you look at it that way, how do you feel about your year?
Pretty good.
But unfortunately, those of us
who are self employed especially,
are bad at this, we tend to do the opposite.
We tend to look at how far we've fell short of our goal,
and then we get into that beating ourselves
with a stick again of not being good enough.
You know what I'm talking about, right?
When you do that, what happens to your confidence?
Goes down.
So the answer is, it depends how you look at it.
And what I want to say about
this success principle, this accelerator,
is that you need to celebrate your progress.
You need to absolutely celebrate your progress.
And when you do that, when you notice it, it's like...
(murmuring) how are we doing on time here?
Yeah, okay, we'll fit this in.
So imagine you were living in Vancouver, because you do.
And you're gonna go hiking in North Shore Mountains, right?
And you go up this weekend,
it's kind of a drizzly, rainy afternoon.
And you go up into Seymour with a couple of friends,
and you get up there and it starts to get dark,
and it starts to rain.
And you go "Okay, let's get out of here."
And you turn to head home and you realize, you're lost.
(stammering) You can't get out of there.
You look around, you're completely lost,
and all you can do really is just hunker down in the rain,
but you know, this time of year,
it's cold enough that you could, easily gonna die
of hypothermia if you don't have a fire, yes?
You have one match.
So, what are you gonna do?
Are you gonna pile a big pile of wet logs there
and just stick that match under there and let it go?
What are you gonna do?
Sorry, find?
Yeah, right, dry, right?
Really small and really dry is what you're gonna look,
you gotta look under the logs, under rocks,
under places where, under it's protected,
and you're gonna get dry wood, right?
You gonna build these little tiny twigs, yes?
You're gonna build a little teepee.
And you build this little teepee of these dry twigs,
and then you put your hand over it
to protect it from the rain,
and you light that one match, you stick it in there
and just smoke, smoke, smoke, smoke.
And then pfff, flame, and you go "We're saved."
And then what do you do?
Put big logs on top of it?
What do you do?
Littler logs, littler sticks, dry or wet?
You're still looking for the dry stuff, right?
The little small sticks, and you're gonna
build that thing up till maybe after five minutes
you've got something, you can put something
the size of my finger on there if it's dry, right?
You're very, very careful.
So you basically nurture and feed the fire.
And then as after a little while,
you start to put bigger and bigger pieces on it,
now you can put small pieces of wood that are wet on, yes?
And then the heat will dry them out, and then they'll burn.
So now you know you actually are gonna be safe.
'Cause there's lots of wood out there, right?
So, and after a while, isn't it true
that maybe within a half an hour, or an hour,
you could build a fire that's hot enough
that you could put a wet log on it, it would burn.
But in the beginning it would've just gone out.
I wanna say the same about you building your momentum,
your confidence in your business.
Start small, with their small successes.
And celebrate the progress, celebrate over and over again.
Don't go too far too fast.
People, "Oh you know, gotta do
this big thing, that big thing."
Everybody's wired differently,
some people can have those big failures and catastrophes,
but most of us really get down on ourselves
and we shrink in and get smaller,
and then we don't wanna play anymore.
So celebrate and notice your successes.
I'd say every night when you go to bed,
notice three successes you've had.
And part of our whole coursing program
is to make sure our members
are constantly celebrating their progress.
That make sense?
And that's, that's how you build your confidence,
start to believe in yourself, and after a while
just like that fire you become unstoppable.
And then you become like Dan Log.
And how many of you heard Dan's story the other day?
Some of you, I know, when he told the...
In the other room.
Amazing life story of how many failures
he had on his way to success.
To be where he is and who he is today,
took a lot of failures, and he built up slowly to it.
It wasn't just an overnight thing and it never is.
So there you go, give somebody a high five.
I celebrate progress!