If you've ever had an employee, you really want that person to work for you
and not against you. What about your subconscious mind? How do you get your
subconscious mind to work for you? When we think, we often think in pictures. If I
ask you to think about your house, do you get a picture? Your car? Oh, yeah.
Picture. Your wife? Your husband? Your kids? Pictures, all of them. Your mind? Oh, wait a
minute? Did you get a picture when I said mind? Some people think of the brain or
they get a picture of the brain. Your brain isn't your mind. When I'm talking
about your mind, I'm talking about the you inside of there. You know the one
that's doing all the thinking and observing. Your soul, your spirit. The
agent in the machine. Your brain isn't your mind. It's part of your body. So, I've
created a little picture of your mind. And this is it. Isn't that beautiful? Now,
how is this your mind? I got this originally from my friend Leslie
Householder. She got it from a guy named Bob Proctor. I don't know where he got it.
But this has been shared in a lot of different contexts as a symbol for the
mind. If we look at the different components of the mind, we've got the
conscious mind up here on top, we've got the sub-conscious down here below and
this is the body which includes your brain. So, all three of these elements
we'll talk about in terms of your mind. Now, the conscious... Conscious means aware.
When you're unconscious you're not aware of anything that's going on.
So, consciousness is awareness. Being tuned in or aware of what's going on. Sub
conscious. Sub means below like subway, submarine. You get it. Sub, conscious. Below
awareness. That's why it's drawn below the conscious mind. You're not aware of
what's going on down there. It's very important and it's powerful
and it's topic of our whole conversation today. But you're not aware of it for the
most part. In fact, you know what? Some people come into my office and they're
like, "Dr. Paul, you know what's going on in my subconscious?" And I'm like, "You
don't know what's going on in your subconscious." By definition, you're not
aware of it. You can become aware of it but then it's a conscious thing rather
than subconscious. Now, your body is an important part of this equation because
it's your body that interfaces with the world and creates your results. When we
talk about getting the subconscious mind to work for us instead of against us, I
think it's important to see how this process creates results for us in our
life. The conscious works in terms of thoughts and pictures and images,
okay? That you know, like when I was saying earlier and you think about your
house and you get a picture, that's a conscious process. The subconscious works
with images but it's not pictures necessarily. The images I'm talking about
in the subconscious are more like self image. You know? Which isn't really a
picture. It's more of a feeling or a sense. This is more of a subconscious
kind of a process. The subconscious rather than thoughts is
focused on beliefs. I'm talking the kind that you're not even aware of always.
Like speaking English. Did you notice that we're doing that today?
Probably not. You didn't notice. It's obvious but it's a belief. It's just like
a template or an operating system, okay? That's more of a subconscious kind of a
process. So, one way to think about how these
interact is to think about it kind of like the captain and the crew and the
ship. Who's driving the ship? Ah, maybe you said the captain. Now, you would be
technically correct. Captain's in charge, the captain's driving the ship, right?
The captain actually gives the orders. Who drives the ship? The crew.
Okay? Now, the crew may or may not do what the captain tells them to do. What this
means is if you have a conscious thought that you want to do a certain thing but
there's a conflicting belief in your subconscious then your subconscious is
going to like commit mutiny. Throw the captain overboard and they're going to do
whatever they want. The ship has to do what the crew instructs it to do. So
here's an example of how this might work. Let's say that you have a subconscious...
Subconscious image in your mind. "I'm just a failure." Okay? I hope that's not
the one that you have. But that's a good example because it'll show us some
things. And let's represent that with this X here, okay?
Subconscious belief. "I am such a failure." Alright.
If the subconscious belief is that what kind of behaviors do you think we're
going to see in the body? We're going to see X behaviors in the body, right? Make sense.
We're going to see, "I'm, such a failure behaviors coming from our body." Well, what
kind of results do you think that's going to create in our world? Oh, yeah! Big
surprise. "I'm such a failure" results. Because what other kind of results can
you get from that kind of behavior, right? What if the image
is, "I'm fat, I'm lazy, I'm ugly."
Well, how is your body going to show up? Fat, ugly and lazy. You're going to get fat, ugly
and lazy results. Just notice that it's happening. Now, at this point, we get into
a little feedback loop here where we become consciously aware of our results
through our senses. That's what these little antennae are for up there on top.
We get to see and smell and touch our results. And if those are X results that
we hate and that comes into our conscious mind... Oh, look at all of this X
in my life. Then we concluded a conscious level that we are X, we feel terrible
about it. The emotional energy drives it to our subconscious and we're off to the
races. So, you can see how the subconscious can work against us by
holding a belief that doesn't serve us well. How are we going to change that? How
can we get our subconscious mind to work for us instead of against us? Well,
obviously, we need to install a new belief here at the subconscious level.
Now typically, what happens is we go to the seminar or we watch the YouTube
video or we see Dr. Paul spouting off about how you're not X, you're Y. You are Y. You
can do this, right? And it's conscious. This Y comes in on a conscious level.
Meanwhile, our subconscious is thinking, "Yeah, whatever. You wish. You wish you were
Y. You're such a pretender. You're such a fake. You're such a phony." And that
tends to be what carries the day. Because whatever
is already installed in your subconscious is going to drive your
behaviors. This is the problem that we have. We need to get Y installed and kick
X out of the subconscious. How are we going to do that? The most traditional
common way to do that is through a process that we call affirmations. And
I've had my clients do this for my whole career. The problem is they don't work
very well. I mean, they do work, they can work. But here's the problem with
affirmations. When we take a Y affirmation and we just try to shove it
into our subconscious, we get a lot of resistance. We get a fight. Because X is
already there. And X is like a bad tenant. It doesn't want to leave. And so it sets
up camp and it's like, "No, I was here first and you're such a phony." If we want
to get wide down to the subconscious, let's try a little different strategy.
And we're going to come in through the back door a little bit. So we don't have
such resistance in such a fight from our subconscious. It's a process that's
called Consideration. My good friend Brett Williams was here on the channel a
while back. Maybe you saw the video where we talked about this. Affirmations caused
the conflict with the subconscious.
Considerations slip it in the back door and give us a better chance of
installing that new belief in the subconscious. So that our subconscious
mind is now working for us instead of against us. So here's a little process
that you can do to get those considerations. Step number 1, simply
ask "What if?" Now, the what if is tied to Y. The new belief, okay? Not X, the old
belief. Y, the new belief. So what is your new belief?
If it's, "I'm such a failure" that you're trying to eject from the
subconscious then why might be, "I am a successful, happy, confident person."
Alright? That's Y. "I am a successful, happy, confident person." When you say that,
how do you feel? Well you feel a little resistance, right? Because you're like, "Well,
I'm not really a successful, happy, confident person. I'm actually..." And then
you go back to X. So, we're not going to do that. We're going to say, "What if I were a
successful, happy, confident person? What if I were?" I'm not saying I am. I don't
want to fight with my subconscious. I'm simply saying what if I were.
Okay? That's step 1. You can actually divide this into four days. 4 separate
day. So one day, when you just... You just asking the what if. That's all. We're not
going to force the issue. Now, on day 2, here's the next step. If I were... If I were...
Get the wording. If I were a successful, happy, confident person, what would I see,
hear, smell? Okay, we're going to the physical senses because those are very
conscious. Remember on the model, we're starting from the top, down. We're going to
go from the conscious, we're going to try to drive it down into the subconscious. So
these senses are conscious senses. If I were Y, a happy, confident, successful
person, what would I see? What would I hear? What would I smell? Go to the senses?
Just hang out there for a little bit. Do you see how we're starting to work it in?
Now on day 3... Step 3, if I were. Again, I'm not saying I am. I don't want
to pick a fight with my subconscious. But if I were a successful, happy, confident
person, how would I feel?
Now, we're really talking business because feelings and emotions are what
drive that subconscious and cement a new idea into that subconscious. Now, we're
really getting to the strategy of this approach. To get our subconscious mind to
work for us. As you consider how it would feel, notice that it's going to feel awesome.
If you really were Y, you would feel so good,
wouldn't you? Imagine that. Feel it. Anticipate it. See if you can connect
with that feeling. And that leaves us to the last step. Number 4 is this. If I
were a successful, happy, confident person, how would I show up today? Now, we're
getting to the behavior part where the subconscious mind starts to drive the
body. Where the crew drives the ship. How would I show up today? What would I do
differently? How would I (I love that term.) show up in my relationships at work, at
home, wherever it is that I am? This is how we can get our subconscious mind to
start working for us as. It accepts that new belief and it ejects the old one
that was causing us the trouble. For us or against us. That subconscious mind is
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