Summer: Being in a polyamorous relationship it’s like the more like love,
the more vibes, the different energies it’s like exciting. It’s really special.
I think I have inspired my family even my parents to think about it.
John: I was definitely curious about it, I keep bringing it up, I keep talking about it
and I think she’s starting to open up to the idea a little bit.
Chacha: We make it look easy.
Jimmy: Good morning.
So Chacha and I got together in 2008, three years later we met Summer.
Chacha: At a concert and we‘ve been together now for six years.
Jimmy: Going on to seven. Summer: Delicious.
Jimmy: So the red one is yours and the green one is yours.
In our case managing in one bed is easy because we have a big bed.
But when we do go to like hotels, like when we travel
we usually have to either like put the two beds together we get like is it like queens beds or the twins or …
Summer: Yeah.
Jimmy: When Chacha and I went to the same catholic
school, but nothing really happened during that time.
Chacha: After we graduated from high school, we just remet and we clicked on a different level.
I knew there was some interest in girls at a young age.
When me and Jimmy were dating, I felt that it would be appropriate
for me to bring up the fact that I love women.
Jimmy: It was really early on in our relationship. We were at a bar and she looks at me,
she was like, I’ve got to tell you something. I like girls as well.
Summer: And that was a deal breaker uh.
Jimmy: I was like okay.
Okay, that sounds amazing to me. I like girls too this is what we can do.
Chacha: Three kiss, three kiss.
Jimmy: In the beginning, we were open to the idea of just having fun with other people.
And then when we met Summer, it completely changed.
Chacha: I fell for her.
Jimmy: We were like what should we do?
So when she suggested that we open up the relationship I was like, yes.
Summer: Everything kind of happened really fast. Like after we met.
I met them when I was 18. And like, I was very new to life and everything and being an adult.
It's kind of this all just happened and felt like really natural.
Chacha: Every touch, every kiss, every feeling was just passionate. It was very different. It was love.
Jimmy: This is what my family thinks about our relationship.
My mom, she's this very strict Catholic, Republican lady.
In the beginning, it was kind of like that she was really hostile.
She's always thought I was being kind of forced into this relationship
like, like, these two girls are like controlling me
and I'm, you know, this innocent guy that, you know,
that's forced into this sex triangle. Summer: He’s not joking.
Chacha: I've been really blessed to have a cool family, but
it's still very challenging. Summer: There’s a carrot.
Chacha: Jimmy's family doesn't approve too much, mine’s okay. And Summer’s super curious.
John: I'm definitely curious about it.
It was new to me having a threesome relationship like that, where everything's even.
So I was intrigued by it still am.
When the conversations come up between Kelly and I
she'd be like, No, no, no, like, that's not going to happen.
But I, I keep bringing up I keep talking about it.
And I think she's starting to open up to the idea a little bit.
Kelly: Hi. Hello.
Kelly: Hi. At first, I just didn't understand the dynamic. It's not something I would be opposed to.
But it's not something I would go look for.
You know what I mean?
John: I’m John how are you doing buddy? Jimmy: We're here.
John: Alright. Kelly: I don't know. It's cool.
I think it's cool. I think it works really well for them.
Alright let's get started. Let’s get some wedding planning done.
Summer: We all got engaged on four 20.
So we'll be getting married a year after in Amsterdam.
Jimmy: I know that in my life there's no other special person
or two people that I can spend the rest of my life with.
Chacha: When Jimmy wanted to propose to us, we had no idea.
Jimmy: Chacha and Summer would you guys...
[Screaming]
Summer: I was like shaking uncontrollably like I got so excited.
Chacha cried, I have a video she’s like I’m engaged.
Summer: So for the bridesmaids dresses and the steps should be do red or green?
Chacha: So having three people in a relationship and planning a wedding
is a lot different from two people.
Everything will have to be restructured from the way we walk down the isles.
Jimmy: We’re marrying each other not like
they're not marrying me.
Summer: The most common misconception that I've seen is that
you can't truly love one person wholly if you're saying you love multiple people.
Even comments we've seen on like social media folks will say
that, like we're afraid of commitment. That's why we're doing this.
John: That's kind of an unusual relationship.
So when people hear about it, they get kind of taken back sometimes.
I just hope that everybody let’s them, be them
and doesn't, doesn't have ill feelings towards them because it's not a traditional relationship.
Summer: My grandma, she's so cool, you know,
and I think that she's always respected me and loved me.
Bernadette: When I first met the three of them together, I just thought they were all friends.
You know, maybe I'm naïve but I don't know how they can be married.
I don't think that's legal here. But I know okay, I
I'm kind of old school. And she told me and I thought, oh, okay, well, I I'm glad you explained.
That's all I need to know.
Jimmy: Our plan is to get married on December 15 right.
Yes. Jimmy: And we kind of chose that date
because we want to have kids coming up. We want to have babies.
Summer: We are at Arthur Murray and we are about to
get a trio dance choreographed for our wedding.
Jimmy: For sure it's out of my comfort zone. But no I don’t mind trying it.
Kelly: You know, they're starting it from the beginning. So they've done it right.
They're starting their family together.
I can't wait for the wedding. I can't wait for the babies. I can't wait for all of it.
Bernadette: If they're happy in what they're doing, then
who am I to judge? Who am I to say anything about it?
Jimmy: How do I pick them up
Summer: Are we the first like polyamorous trio that you’ve ever taught?
Robert: Absolutely you are the first polyamorous trio.
Jimmy: We were not cheating on each other, we have full communication
everything we do, is completely honest about everything. You know.
Summer: If we go on a date we all date together.
We’re intimate, we’re all intimate together.
Jimmy: I've always felt like something was missing and not until I got into polyamory.
I found myself very content and happy and kind of where I wanted to be.
Summer: I agree. It's the best of both worlds. There's no question about it.
Robert: Practice switching.
Chacha: I think that's the perfect balance for me.