Okay, that's a good question.
Let's go over this for a second.
What I mean by influence is well... first let me explain what happens.
When you influence somebody, and especially we're talking about women here, when you learn
how to influence, she'll become more attracted and more invested in you. If you don't know
how to influence her, what happens is you get labeled as boring.
You're just more of a boring guy, you're more forgettable and she doesn't experience what
is a wide variety of emotions, which we're going to get to in a second.
You become labeled as boring and therefore she doesn't feel the need to want to text
you back, want to see you again want to have sex with you.
All those things because this is what you have to understand.
Women, they're attracted when they are able to experience a variety of emotions.
Women are attracted when they experience a variety of these emotions with you because
women are more emotional.
Think of it this way; women are more emotional, men are more logical.
What this means is that she is going to experience a wide variety of emotions to the guy that
she's attracted to.
If you can create that experience and you can create that influence, so to speak, then
you're going to get her more attracted.
This is why they say the bad boys or the assholes or those guys always get girls attracted to
them.
That's because when they're around that guy, she experiences a wide variety of emotions.
She gets triggered in all different sorts of ways.
It's exciting, it's adventurous.
Maybe he's an asshole so he treats you like shit, then she experiences that emotion, then
she experience happiness.
I'm not saying that you treat a girl like shit.
That's not what I'm saying but you still do have to play by the rules of attraction and
that means that you're going to have her experience this variety of emotions.
How do you do this?
What you want to do is you want to create an unforgettable experience.
Think of it that way.
You're creating an unforgettable experience.
What you're doing here is every time she's with you, every time she's texting you or
being connected to you in some way, you're creating this variety of emotions which influences
her and gets her to think wow, I cannot wait to see that guy again.
I want to see him again.
I want to experience that again.
Of course, she's not saying that in her head.
She doesn't know what's going on.
Women don't really know how attraction works.
Most people don't know how attraction works.
I studied it and figured it out to be able to explain it to you.
I didn't know either.
So again, kind of going back here, circling back, you're creating an unforgettable experience.
What are the steps to doing that?
Well there's a lot of different ways to do that.
Here's a couple of examples.
When you go on a date, when you go on a date with that girl, what happens is you can do
that by you creating an experience that's going to get her emotions in different states.
For example, maybe you'll start the date off and you'll go grab a drink somewhere.
So what happens, you go grab a drink somewhere, maybe it's dimly lit.
Maybe you're in a place that's a little bit more chill.
But then after that you decide to go grab a couple of bites somewhere in a place that's
a little bit more upbeat, a little more happening, a little more fun.
Then maybe after that you decide to go on a walk somewhere from there.
Maybe somewhere scenic.
It's like she's getting all this different stimulation.
And the thing is, most people are going to experience fun and and a variety of emotions
this way.
But when she is experiencing that with you, I'm sure it's a lot different than you experiencing
it with her.
You would probably don't need that.
I bet you, you would be good going on a date with her, having a drink, talking for a while,
and then going back to your place and calling it a night.
You don't need to be stimulated in that way.
Yeah, it might be more fun for you to do that, but you don't need that.
Whereas her of course, you don't have to do all these things.
People go on dates all the time that are just dinner dates or they're just drinks.
But imagine if you could create an experience where she has an opportunity to become more
attracted.
Then you're going to level up here.
That's one way to do it.
Here's another way.
This is more on the micro level, more on the verbal side and more in the actions in which
you are doing.
Let's talk about this for a second.
Let's talk about this idea of push pull or this idea of tapping into that bad boy.
One thing the bad boy does is he does not overly validate her.
And a lot of guys do that.
They'll overly validate.
They'll compliment her, they'll send flowers.
They'll do all these chivalrous moves.
And it's like, why?
It's actually very manipulative to be doing it that way.
Because you're only clearly doing that, so that she can like you.
You're thinking in your head subconsciously, if I say that I like her or I say that she
looks beautiful or I say whatever is gonna make her feel good that means that she's gonna
like me.
But that's not how that works.
What I want you to do is withhold validation.
So when you go on the date withhold validation.
I'm not saying you have to say mean things to her.
But don't sit there saying nice things.
That works against you.
And then in that one circumstance where you slip up and you do say something of a compliment,
it's going to mean so much more because you haven't done that yet.
The idea here and here's a way to balance it out and create this more unforgettable
experience and this influence is try not to give her any validation.
And this is where guys usually say, but I don't get it.
How is she gonna know that I like her?
Don't worry, because you're still gonna lead the interaction.
In the TED system that I talk about, D stands for dominance, which means you're leading
the interaction.
So as long as you're leading the interaction, you're setting up the date, setting up the
time to hang out, asking her out, asking her to hang out, going for the kiss, going for
sex, bringing her back to your place.
As long as you're doing that, that's enough.
That's all you need to do to let her know that you're interested.
She'll know off of that.
But then we withhold the validation.
Is that starting to make sense here?
I know that it got a rlittle deep and we got a little intense, but does that make sense?
We're talking about trying to influence her.