Whether your dream life includes private jets or yacht parties or
owning your own farm in the middle of nowhere or somewhere in between,
wishing for it isn't enough. You have to take the steps to make it possible for you. We're going to
go deep today and maybe a little woo-woo as I show you how to manifest your dream life.
I remember years ago when someone gave me the book "The Secret" and introduced me to the law
of attraction for the first time and I was like all you have to do is just think about
what you want and it'll appear. Well that's not all that it is and earlier this year, I read a
book from Joe Dispenza called "Breaking The Habit of Being Yourself" which I want to talk
more about in a little bit but something that he shares in this book is that when your behaviors
match your actions, when your actions are equal to your thoughts, when your minds and
your bodies are working together and our words and our deeds are aligned, there's immense power
behind any individual, that's a pretty powerful statement and that book, "Breaking The Habit of
Being Yourself" is one that I feel like I want to just listen to on repeat because there's so many
just gold nuggets in that that show you how you can have this immense power behind who you are and
think about the title of the book. In any goal you set for yourself and any lifestyle or achievement
you want to accomplish, it's going to require you to overcome challenges and a lot of the time
the challenges, the common denominator is you and I can look back at so many areas of my life whether
it was a pattern of relationships or a constant challenge I kept hitting in my business like
I could never get over that six figure ceiling and needed to see like what do I need to do next
it required me to shift in my mindset and in my identity. I have this little sticky note on my
computer in my office that says be, do, have and I'd love for you to write that down too because
I think this is going to be a great reminder as you're going about your day-to-day life and what
I think of when I see this is who do I need to be? What do I need to do to have what I want to have
and a lot of people work backwards from have, do, be. Once I have a million dollars then it'll
be happy, not thinking about who they need to be at an identity level to do the things that they
need to do to have the lifestyle, the riches, the luxuries or whatever that life is that they want
to have. I'd love to hear from you. What does that dream life look like for you even if it's just a
small thing or an emotion that you want to feel, let me know in the comments. So every time I see
that sticky note it's a reminder of am I being the person I need to be to have what I want to
have. It's not about the doing, you can't do your way there. A lot of us think that when we want to
reach a new goal, we just have to work hard, we have to do more things but we are not human doings. We
are human beings. So if I think about the identity of the person that has what I want to have, let's
say if you're someone that you want to make a million dollars, what's the identity of that person?
Are they lazy or are they motivated, that's part of your identity and is going to guide
your behaviors. Think about when you woke up this morning. When you woke up, did you go to the store
and buy a pack of cigarettes? Now for most people that I ask, they'll typically say the answer is
no and they're like almost like what? No and why do they respond with that expression? Because it's so
out of alignment with their identity, with who they are that they wouldn't take that action
and have that reality because they identify as a non-smoker. One of my biggest values that I've
distilled down into one word that I want to make sure I'm always in alignment with
is the word commitment. I believe that I can achieve anything if I am a committed person, that's
part of my identity so I make a very intentional decision if I'm given an opportunity or asked to
do something. Do I believe that I can commit that I can show up when I say I will, that I can play all
out that I can do exactly what I am committing to? If not, I say no. I don't want to over commit and I
want to be committed to the goal that I have set for myself and the behaviors that align with that
and to me commitment means getting up and playing even when you're hurt, commitment means not taking
your successes or your failures personally. Commitment means you get out of bed and you
do the things that might feel hard even when you feel tired or feel scared or feel like an
imposter because commitment doesn't care how you feel. If you're committing to that identity
as well, I would love for you to put in the comments below commitment doesn't care how
you feel. Make that statement with me. I want to know that you're committed too. Another quote
from Joe Dispenza's book to manifest anything you want is that your personality needs to match your
personal reality. It's really your identity and your beliefs and removing those limiting blocks.
So again going back to the title of the book, to break the habit of being ourselves, we need to be
constantly overcoming the self-imposed limitations. I think about this a lot because I think it's
really important to pay attention to what you say you want and what you believe about your ability
to have it. For example let's say you go to a restaurant, your server comes to your table, you
put in your order, you state what you want and you expect that it's going to come and in the meantime
you sit at your table with your company, your loved ones, you have a great time, great conversation,
you're not constantly going to the kitchen asking is it coming? When is it coming? How is it coming?
Is going to be right? Is it going to be good? You've set the intention, you've asked for what
you want in the meantime, you're content, you're comfortable, you're happy, you're living in your
best life in your highest vibration and you know that it's coming. I also call this like putting out
your Amazon order to the universe like you put out your order, you know that it's gonna come, sometimes
it's you know same day shipping incredible but in the meantime you just expect it. You state it and
you expect it and you live accordingly. You're not asking or checking on the how to make sure that
it's coming. I can tell you I have been in business opportunities that I forced to try to make happen.
I've been in relationships that I knew weren't working but I tried to force them to work and that
forcing, that overcoming resistance might be a sign that this is not meant for you and instead to live
in who you are in your identity. And anytime you set that intention for what you want to create
in your life and then ask how, it's almost like stating I am but then immediately asking am I?
So if I state I am a seven-figure business woman feeling fulfilled and happy. I believe that if you
live in that intention, in that vibration, it will be attracted to you but the idea is not to ask
how or to put a limitation on how that's going to be created because think of all the infinite
possibilities for how that could come to fruition. Because if you think that it's going to because of
this funnel and this Facebook ad and this person is going to buy this thing instead of what if
it's you sitting on the plane and the person next to you has a business opportunity for you
that you never saw coming or what if it's meeting someone at an event that loves your work and wants
to pay you generously for that, instead of asking how, we know and we trust and we expect and we live
accordingly. So think about that anytime you set an intention or a belief or something you
want to manifest and then pull yourself out of that energy by asking how, that's you going from
I am to am I? Now before we go into some more of the steps that I've taken to manifest my dream
life, have you subscribed to this channel yet? I want to give you all of my latest strategies for
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to my channel so hit that red button below before we move on. Some of the steps that 9 am personally
taking to manifest my dream life. It is really important to me that I am focused and committed
to where I'm investing my time and energy. I have a mentor that I work with, I'm gonna share with
you a story that he said to me that was... it changed how I operate day to day. I'm someone
that I certainly operated from a place of like overcoming challenges and working hard and
doing anything that it takes to overcome that resistance and still found myself feeling like
why am I never getting there or what's in my way? What do I need to do to be able
to overcome this and when I shared this with my mentor, he told me a story of how he was in a
very similar spot and he was asking his mentor the same question and his mentor told him which I'm so
gratefully passed on to me and I'm now passing on to you. He said Dimitri, some doors you have to pull
to open. So it makes you think about how you're operating in your life that if you're pushing
instead of pulling, that instead of trying to force things into existence, what if we could just play
and create. And so that's one of the things that I've now tried to shift my mindset into is
of course there's hard work to be done and of course there's challenges that we're going to be
given the opportunity to overcome but can I also approach it from a place of creativity and play? I
think about how I show up in my friendships in my relationship and think can I show up
with that same playful creative energy in my business, in my work, in really any aspect of life,
doesn't that seem like the equivalent of pulling the door to open instead of trying to force
something into existence? So instead of having this time-blocked calendar with do this, do this here
and this is non-negotiable. Sure, I certainly have non-negotiable things in my day that are fueling
me from a place of passion instead of from a place of pain and trying to force things into existence,
now the non-negotiables are things like I go to bar class in the morning. When I get my body
moving, it gets my mind moving and my creativity flowing, that sets off the tone for the rest of
my day. When I spend time before I get on any business meeting where I can write and brain
dump my ideas or do just some creative writing, that gets me in flow that the rest of my day
feels creative and playful instead of hustling and getting to the meetings and getting work done
checking things off of a list. Those are now my non-negotiables instead of the business stuff
that was pushing instead of pulling. That said, I make sure to align my business planning with my
need for play and creativity because I think that they're going to align. So I do annual, quarterly
and monthly planning with my team and with Steven so that we can paint the vision of what this looks
like in terms of the work that we're excited to do and what we're excited to create both in business
and in our personal lives. I really think that the creative energy that you bring to your business
is very in alignment with the creative energy that you have in your relationships and your
personal life and when they can merge you will have what Joe despenses says your personality
matching your personal reality. That said, one of my skill sets that I'd love to help you with to
create your dream life is helping you scale high ticket sales. So I'm also hosting a free private
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high ticket training. Think about when you woke up this morning. Now, this backfires on me sometimes so
bear with me. Now, most people- should I say most people? If someone's a smoker, you're
gonna be offended- Because think of all the infinite- because think of all the infinite-
oh my gosh. Bruce Lee he's been in a lot of intent- I do team planning with my business
and I also do personal planning with my boyfriend, that seemed weird to say.