Heya playa, have you ever felt like your crush looked at you like a creep, a weirdo or a
stalker and you wanted to do everything you could to change their perspective of you?
Don't worry, in this video, I'm going to break down what you can do to change their mindset
to have them look at you as someone worth dating and how to change your behaviors to
stop doing whatever it is you were doing. This is The Josh Speaks, you're watching The
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bell. Now one clear and common sign that your crush might think you're a weirdo is that
they might have blocked you online. Maybe you were talking to them and then suddenly
you lost that ability and you don't really know why. Sometimes the answer isn't always
that obvious. Maybe you were just trying to make small talk conversation with them and
then suddenly they just told you you were weird or a creep or they just stopped talking
to you altogether. If you want to change your crush's mind about blocking you, you really
need to reflect on what the conversation was like. Did you say something that might have
upset them? Did you message them too much? Did you say something that was inappropriate
or creepy? Did you spam them in any kind of way? A lot of times when you get blocked it's
because you did something or said something that might have upset them. One thing you
may want to try doing is screenshotting the end of your conversation with your crush or
any time they might have said something like "you're weird", or "you're creepy" or "that's
awkward" or something like that and then just passing it along to your friends trying to
analyze and discover what exactly happened. Sometimes you may not see it yourself but
when you have other people kind of working to help you figure it out, the options and
answers might become clearer. I go way more in-depth on how to deal with getting blocked
in my video over here but reflection is going to be the key component in dealing with that.
A lot of times we're not aware of how we're coming off towards someone else. It's important
for us to think about the things that we say. Sometimes we say things out of nervousness
or out of fear and it can come off in the wrong way so it's important to be mindful
of that. And there also may be times where your crush just feels completely overwhelmed
by your confession of love for them. This is something I've talked about a lot in the
past. Why you should never just outright tell your crush how you feel and it's more important
for you to show them how you feel. Sometimes though, people take that first route and just
send their crush's huge messages that confess their love. Telling them all about how they
like them, they want to be with them, how they're perfect and that can be extremely
overwhelming and creepy to your crush. Don't get me wrong here, I totally get it. You have
all these feelings built up inside and you just want to share them with your crush with
the hope that they feel the same way. But what makes more sense here, confessing your
feelings to your crush and just hoping that they feel the same way or talking to them,
flirting with them, getting to know them better, learning about their personality and sharing
some of your personality so that they can work up those same feelings that you have.
I would go with the second option there because if you just end up confessing your feelings
outright to your crush they may not feel the same way and they may feel guilty because
you have these deep emotions about them and they don't feel the same way about you and
they feel bad telling you "I don't really know you that well" or "I don't really like
you like that" so, the easiest thing for them to do is to just feel weirded out and disconnect
with you. And what makes it even worse sometimes is when people keep badgering their crush
for an answer. "Hey I like you, how do you feel about me? Do you like me back? Why aren't
you talking to me? Why aren't you responding?". You need to give them space to process what
you say and how they feel. Otherwise, they're going to feel like you're just coming down
on them and making things harder. So what does simplifying that conversation look like
so you're not putting that much pressure on them? Well, I think you should focus on asking
more simple questions. These can be fun questions like what types of movies they like to watch,
what are their hobbies and interests, little things you can learn about them so you can
work on building that openness with them. Keep in mind, your crush is not just gonna
outright share things with you. They're not just gonna talk about their lives. They wanna
know that you're someone they can trust, someone they can open up to that won't judge them
or make fun of them or make them feel bad for who they are and that's something that's
going to take time so you need to slow down your process a little bit and work on getting
to know them better. And if you're someone that's already been labeled a weirdo, a creep,
or stalker, this is the best strategy for you to take because it's going to show them
that you're just a normal person. They wanna see that you're someone they can interact
with and talk to without it getting too intense at the beginning. And the more you can just
have these casual conversations with them, the more they'll let their guard down and
the less they'll think of you as this weird person that they don't want to talk to. Now,
not every crush that you have is just gonna slowly ghost you and push you to the background.
Sometimes they're going to tell you directly to your face that you're weird and you're
creepy and that they don't like you. So how do you handle those situations? How do you
kind of course correct and get them to see you in a positive light? I think it's important
to say something like this. "Hey, I'm sorry if I said or did something that might have
come off in the wrong way. I actually think you're a really cool person and I want to
get to know you better but I want to be respectful of your boundaries and not cross any lines.
So I hope we can maintain learning about each other and becoming friends along the way.
Is that cool with you?" Saying something like that establishes that you may have crossed
the line with what you said but that's not who you are. You're actually a pretty normal
down to earth person worth getting to know and that you're ultimately gonna be respectful
of how they feel. And that's what your crush wants to know. They want to know that you're
not going to cross the line with them, you're gonna kind of take your time, get to know
them better in a way that makes them feel comfortable. Ultimately what it comes down
to here is respect. If you're respectful of your crush, your crush will be respectful
of you because no one wants to be looked at as a creep or weirdo or stalker in any kind
of way. You're really just a normal person and the important piece is to get that across
to your crush and to feel that deep down inside because you don't have to carry those labels
and let it bring you down. I'm curious though, what do you think? Has your crush ever looked
at you like you were a weirdo, a creep or a stalker in any kind of way? Have you ever
been called that before? How did that make you feel? Leave your comments down below and
we'll talk about it. I wanna give a huge shout out to all my patrons and YouTube channel
members. These are the people that help support the channel and just recently we got a bunch
of new members so I wanted to show them up there and give them their due respect. Also,
I want you to check out the videos listed there on the side, it's gonna teach you how
to deal with getting blocked by your crush and how to get them to unblock you. Now look,
these aren't some secret hacks or tips, these are actual strategies to rebuild that connection
with them so check out the video and I'll catch you next time. As always guys, love
and peace.