>>
>> DON'T
>> DON'T LAUGH. AFFAIRS OF THE HEART ARE NOT
PLANNING.
PLANNING.
PLANNING. AS FUN AS IT IS TO RELAX OF THE
WEEKEND WITH A FEW PINA COLADA
DOES A FEW TOO MANY COULD LEAD
TO UNNECESSARY FIGHTS.
IF FIREWORKS WERE THE ONLY
THING CRASHING AND BURNING THIS
WEEK AND, DON'T WORRY THE LOVE
DOCTORS ARE HERE TO SAVE THE
DAY.
DAY.
DAY. JOINING ME AS ALWAYS MY FELLOW
DOCTOR OF LOVE CHESLEY McNEIL.
>> GOOD TO BE HERE.
GOOD TO SEE YOU.
>> SHOW CHESLEA SOME LOVE.
SHOW THE LOVE DR. SOME LOVE. I
HAVE MISSED YOU
>> GOOD TO SEE YOU
>> WE HAVE A LOT TO GET TO.
MY WIFE AND I ARE GOING THROUGH
A BIT OF A ROUGH PATCH NOW
WE'VE BEEN MARRIED TEN YEARS
HAVE TWO WONDERFUL KIDS.
AS MUCH AS I LOVE THEM THE
SOURCE OF STRESS SEEMS TO COME
FROM THESE NEW
RESPONSIBILITIES.
RESPONSIBILITIES. MY WIFE THINKS HAVING A THIRD
WILL FIX ALL OF OUR ISSUES.
AND RELUCTANT TO ADD MORE TO OUR
PLATE.
PLATE.
PLATE. SHE IS CONVINCED THIS IS THE
SOLUTION.
SOLUTION.
SOLUTION. CHESLEA?
CHESLEA?
CHESLEA? YOUR CHUCKLE SAYS ALL.
I'M GOING TO AGREE WITH YOU.
IS THIS HIM ASSUMING OR
INFERRING?
INFERRING? MY WIFE THINKS HAVING A THIRD
WILL FIX ALL HER ISSUES.
IF SHE SAID THAT, THAT'S NOT
GOOD.
GOOD.
GOOD. YOU
GOOD. YOU NEED COUNSELING.
CHILDREN BRING MORE
RESPONSIBILITY SCHEME PERHAPS
SHE DOESN'T UNDERSTAND THE
ISSUE HE IS HAVING.
FOR HER TO SAY THAT WHAT SHE IS
SAYING AND FOR WHAT HE IS
SAYING TELLS ME THERE'S AN
UNDERSTANDING OF HOW HE FEELS.
I DON'T KNOW IF HE IS NOT
EXPRESSING THAT.
EXPRESSING THAT. EXPRESSING THE ANGST OF THE TWO
CHILDREN THEY HAVE AND THE FACT
THAT HE MAY BE, FOR LACK OF A
BETTER WORD, BLAMING ISSUES ON
THE KIDS.
THE KIDS.
THE KIDS. >> RIGHT.
>> RIGHT.
>> RIGHT. RIGHT.
RIGHT.
RIGHT. >>
RIGHT. >> OR LEADING TO WHATEVER
PROBLEM IS.
PROBLEM IS. THEY NEED TO SIT DOWN AND TALK
ABOUT WHAT'S GOING ON.
>> THREE IS GOING TO ADD MORE
STRESS.
STRESS.
STRESS. BY THE WAY WITH THIS MAN SAYS
STRESS SEEMS TO COME FROM NEW
RESPONSIBILITIES THEY'VE ADDED
BY THE WAY WE DON'T KNOW WHAT
THAT IS BUT TWO WAS HER OLDER
IT DOESN'T HAVE TO BE ANYTHING
DRAMATIC OR ANYTHING THAT HAS
BEEN REALLY STRESSFUL OR TRYING
JUST THE DAILY LIFE OF GETTING
SCHOOL, ACTIVITIES, ANY ISSUES,
LEARNING ISSUES.
LEARNING ISSUES. JUST THAT CAN REALLY WEIGH ON
YOU AS A PARENT AND A PARENT.
>> OFTENTIMES YOU FIND THE HAS
BEEN FEELING NEGLECTED BECAUSE
THE WIFE NOW GIVES MORE
ATTENTION TO THE CHILDREN. AND
HE'S NOT GETTING THE ATTENTION
AND THAT COULD BE THE CASE.
SO THE RESPONSIBILITY IN HIS
MIND WELL WE HAVE
RESPONSIBILITIES FOR THESE
CHILDREN, THAT HAS TO BE THE
CASE BUT I'M NOT GETTING WHAT I
NEED.
NEED.
NEED. SHE
NEED. SHE NEEDS TO EXPRESS THAT.
>> HE NEEDS TO EXPRESS IT.
MAYBE SHE HAS NO IDEA PERHAPS
HOW MUCH A SIMPLE DAY IN A OUT
OF YOUR LIVE WITH YOUR FAMILY
HAS IMPACTED YOU AND MENTALLY
YOU CAN'T GO THERE.
YOU WANT TO GET YOUR FAMILY CORE
RIGHT NOW, YOUR RELATIONSHIP TO
A GREAT PLACE.
YOU NEED COUNSELING, YOU NEED
TO TALK ABOUT YOUR ISSUES AND I
AGREE WITH CHESLEA YOU NEED TO
GET MORE TIME FOR YOU GUYS
WHETHER WEEKEND DAY DATES, NIGHT
DATES, WHEREVER YOU CAN GET
QUALITY TIME, YOU GOT TO FIND
IT.
IT.
IT. >>
IT. >> IF
IT. >> IF YOU DON'T SOMEBODY WILL
FIND HIM.
FIND HIM.
FIND HIM. NO DOUBT
NO DOUBT
NO DOUBT >> I DON'T LIKE WHERE YOU JUST
WENT.
WENT.
WENT. WHY
WENT. WHY DID YOU IMMEDIATELY GO TO
CHEATING?
CHEATING?
CHEATING? >> BECAUSE THAT'S THE EASIEST
WAY IT HAPPENS.
IT'S THE EASIEST WAY.
IF HE IS LACKING SOMETHING --
>> I KNOW
>> I KNOW
>> I KNOW >> GLAD SHE SAID THAT SELF-
CONTROL.
CONTROL.
CONTROL. BECAUSE THAT IS EASIER SAID THAN
DONE.
DONE.
DONE. WHEN I'M AT HOME I'M ALREADY
EMOTIONAL NOT GETTING WHAT I
NEED AND THERE'S SOMETHING OUT
HERE BECAUSE THERE ALWAYS IS
SOMETHING OUT HERE.
IT DOESN'T HAVE TO BE A
RELATIONSHIP IT CAN BE ALCOHOL
IT CAN BE DRUGS IT CAN BE
ANYTHING THAT PULLS HIM AWAY
FROM HIS RESPONSIBILITY TO THE
FAMILY AND HER.
>> I LIKE THAT YOU SAID THAT.
ANYTHING THAT IS A DISTRACTION
OR POSSIBLY BECOME
>> INSTANTLY LOOKING TO CHEATING
>> WE WANT YOU TO GET THERAPY
BECAUSE CHESLEA SAYS YOU NEVER
KNOW WHAT'S GOING TO HAPPEN.
AGAIN WE DON'T WANT THAT.
GOOD LUCK.
GOOD LUCK. >> THE SECOND WHEN MY WIFE HAS
AN AMAZING JOB OPPORTUNITY
TOURING EUROPE WITH A BAND.
SHE IS A SOUND ENGINEER.
IT WOULD MEAN SHE WOULD BE GONE
FOR THREE MONTHS AND WORKING
AROUND-THE-CLOCK NOT TO MENTION
SHE WOULD BE THE ONLY GIRL IN A
TOUR BUS FULL OF GUYS.
I WANT TO TRUST HER AND I DO,
SEE OTHER GUYS I WORRY ABOUT.
I FEEL LIKE BEING IN SUCH CLOSE
QUARTERS LIKE THAT WILL
INEVITABLY LEAD TO SOMETHING
HAPPENING.
HAPPENING. MY DEAR FRIEND DID YOU KNOW SHE
WAS A SOUND ENGINEER BEFORE YOU
MARRIED HER?
MARRIED HER? >> THAT DIDN'T MEAN SHE WAS
GOING IN A BAND FULL GUYS SHE
AND GOING.
AND GOING. >> CHESLEA TIME OUT SPECIATION
GO ON.
GO ON.
GO ON. >>
GO ON. >> CHESLEA MY WIFE.
SO HE KNEW HAS AN AMAZING
OPPORTUNITY.
OPPORTUNITY. LET'S ASSUME SHE HAS BEEN A
SOUND ENGINEER FOR THE DURATION
OF HER MARRIAGE.
SHE WORKED AROUND THAT SHE
WORKED AROUND MENTIONS WORKED
AROUND WOMEN IT'S HER JOB
>> SHE'S NEVER DONE THAT'S BEEN
WE DON'T KNOW IF NEVER
>> SO SHE CAN GO?
>> NO.
>> NO.
>> NO. >>
>> NO. >> WHAT?
>> WHAT?
>> WHAT? >> NOT IF HE IS A PROBLEM WITH
IT WHY CAN'T WE TAKE HIS
FEELINGS INTO CONSIDERATION?
SPOKE WE ARE I WANT YOU TO
PROCESS THE.
PROCESS THE. >> IF HE HAS A PROBLEM, SHE
DOESN'T GO AND IF THE REVERSE
WAS HE DOESN'T GO; WHAT HE SAY
CHARIS IS NO HER TOTALLY
DISAGREE I DISAGREE MAYBE
DISAGREES YOU TWO DISAGREE
>> THAT'S WHY YOUR
RELATIONSHIPS ARE GOING TO
BREAKUPS.
BREAKUPS.
BREAKUPS. EVERYBODY
EVERYBODY
EVERYBODY >> RIGHT DISAGREE IN YOUR
RELATIONSHIP IS GOING TO BREAK
UP, PERIOD SPENT WHAT I JUST
SAY?
SAY?
SAY? WHAT
SAY? WHAT IF THE GUY IS -- MINI SAYS
THE MAN IS INSECURE
>> AS MY WIFE TAKE THAT INTO
CONSIDERATION BEFORE GOING ON
THIS JOB
THIS JOB
THIS JOB >> THIS JOB COULD OPEN DOORS FOR
HER HE COULD LEAD TO OTHER
AMAZING OPPORTUNITIES, MORE
MONEY FOR THEIR FAMILY STEAM
AND COULD END HER MARRIAGE.
SHE HAS TO SEE WHAT IS MORE
IMPORTANT THE RELATIONSHIP MORE
IMPORTANT THAN THE CAREER?
>> THAT'S NOT FAIR.
>> NOT FAIR BUT HE FEELS THE
WAY HE FEELS
>> HE'S GOT TO WORK IT OUT MAYBE
SAYS
SAYS
SAYS >>
SAYS >> SHE DOESN'T HAVE TO DO
ANYTHING?
ANYTHING?
ANYTHING? >> IF IT WAS A LONGER PERIOD OF
TIME I MIGHT TEND TO MAYBE
AGREE WITH CHESLEA.
SIX MONTHS A YEAR, THAT WOULD
BE VERY TOUGH.
THREE MONTHS I DON'T KNOW WHY
DOESN'T SOUND THAT TERRIBLE TO
ME WHAT? -- HER PARTNER IS
LETTING HER FLY
>> FLYWAY FLYWAY
>> HE IS BACK HOME STEWING THREE
MONTHS WONDERING WHAT SHE'S
DOING AND FEELING IN SOME KIND
AWAY, THAT'S GOING TO LEAD TO
PROBLEMS IN THE RELATIONSHIP
>> NOT IF THEY GET ON THE SAME
PAGE BEFORE THIS.
IF THEY TALK ABOUT IT AND PLAN
WEEKENDS WHERE THEY CAN SEE
EACH OTHER.
EACH OTHER. SHE'S WORKING AROUND-THE-CLOCK
MAYBE HE CAN FLY
>> ABANDON CONCERTS
>> WE WILL TALK TO OUR UPCOMING
GUESTS, NO AND FIND OUT WHAT
GOES ON THE ROAD.
CHESLEA THAT'S VERY ANTIQUATED
YOU MSA.
YOU MSA.
YOU MSA. MICHELLE SAYS WE HAVE TO WRAP
AND SHE DISAGREES TOO
>> OKAY.
>> OKAY.
>> OKAY. >> I'M JUST KIDDING WE REALLY
-- HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH THAT.
YOU A QUESTION FOR THE LOVE
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