Hello friends I am Niharika and welcome back. I have a question for you. Are you tired of
office politics? Yes, well there are difficult people at every work place. They are annoying,
they are mean. They grab the boss's positive attention. They also try to grab your power,
privilege and the spotlight. So how do you deal with such difficult people, the difficult
coworkers because they come in variety? So in today's lesson I'm going to help you with
4 productive ways to deal with these difficult people at your workplace.
The first tip that I have for you is, start out by examining yourself. Now here what I
mean is you need to understand that whether there is this person who is being difficult
with you or you are just overreacting. Well that happens we are human beings. Now there
are times when you think that this person is so annoying. He is being so mean, he has
been complaining about me. He has been criticizing me. Yes, so you think that this person is
being difficult. But probably you are just getting annoyed for no reason. Probably it
is you who just gets angry easily. So the very first thing that you need to do is, examine
yourself, understand whose problem it is, whether it's the person being difficult or
it's just you or your behaviour or attitude that's just annoying you.
The second tip that I have for you is, approach the person that you are having problems with.
Now here it is important for you to have a private discussion with the person that you
are having issues with. Now remember it has to be a private discussion and not in public
and also you cannot blame or accuse or even attack that person. You can't just say that,
"hey it's because of you, it's because of your action, it's impacting my work. I’m
annoyed. I'm really mad at you." No you can't do that. You need to be very subtle in your
tone. Of course you work in a corporate company; you can’t start attacking people, even if
that person is creating a lot of problem in your work. So make sure that you be nice,
you be subtle and you need to put across your point that yes these are the things that you
are doing and it's definitely affecting my work. So go ahead approach that person and
have a private discussion with him or her.
The third tip that I have for you friends is share your experience with your friends.
Yes of course it's not a positive experience that I'm talking about. But there are times
when you realize that the person is being very difficult and you are unable to perform
well. So it causes a lot of humiliation. It causes a lot of stress. So it's important
for you to share it with a trusted colleague of yours. Now make sure you don't go ahead
and tell everybody about this person troubling you or annoying you. Just keep it to a trusted
friend or a colleague and that's about it. But you know at times what happens is, the
boss supports or encourages these negative actions of that difficult person because that
difficult person is trying to overpower you. Now let's this not affect you, don't feel
really bad about it. I understand yes it is painful but then go ahead and share these
things with a friend or with a colleague of yours.
Now if any of these approaches fail, then I have a fourth tip for you, ignorance is
bliss. Now here what I mean is that you need to start ignoring this person who is creating
a lot of problem and who is encouraging office politics. Now the reason, well yes it's time
to limit the access of this difficult person towards you because this is affecting your
job. It's affecting your work and your career. So there's no point in fighting. There's no
point in arguing and then we are not kids, we can't go to the boss and start complaining
about these actions. So there are times when you need to just ignore these things. Try
to you know stop taking voluntary actions or voluntary projects. Try to avoid the projects
that this person is also a part of it. But also remember that this should not affect
your work or this should not affect your career. So ignore, limit the access and that should
really work for you.
This brings me to the end of this lesson, if all of these tips fail then it's time to
quit your job. Well I'm just kidding; of course you are not supposed to quit your job because
of just difficult person who is troubling you. You just have to deal with such people
in the right way and in a positive way. So do not quit your job because there are variety
of trouble making people at every work place. So if you try to run away from such people,
there's no point. So just ignore such people and get back on the track, work hard and work
for yourself. I'll be back with a new lesson soon, till then you take care.