and so if you go out on route 2.42 that quirky old town that's a shambles no
more and you find that old doctor and buy him a drink and ask him of all his
advice does he think there's one real key that's the most beneficial well
he'll smile and he'll pause and he'll look quite official he'll say drink red
wine when you're in a funk just laugh folks around you will just think you're
drunk folks thank you very much for having me
I've had a pretty interesting background I was a stand-up comedian work with many
people who went on to become stars and here i am with you i'm also a
psychologist and police chaplain I've had a pretty diverse career over the
years of my career I have become passionate about quality of life not
about what you do specifically I don't have information that's relevant to your
business pertinently but in terms of you and me as creatures walking around the
quality of our life and enjoying what you do and enjoying the quality of your
life you know this those of you from the United States Americans lead the world
in stress-related disorders you do know that correct right one out of four of us
have a diagnosable stress related disorder one out of four so look around
you know if the three people sitting next to you look okay now it's you after
I finished my presentation this teacher came up as he said I'll tire she says
these young teachers got to understand it and my older colleagues need to
understand if you don't have hobbies in your life that fill your heart and fill
your soul you the children kind of drain it over years and years kind of your
battery going dead oh she says I think it's just important have fun and like me
she says I have a garden I don't do a lot of that exercise stuff I walk but I
have a beautiful garden I teach third grade and I name my flowers after my
students just like that she said of course she pulled me right into it I
said oh that's precious oh yeah she says because if you have a bad day while you
go home pick them and fuck their little heads off like that
donut has 19 grams of fat if you swallow this Pat it would just be four grams of
fat or goes into 19 how many times almost five times so Pat can I have your
hand please somebody here here we go what we're gonna do is we're gonna make
it don't because I know you eat donuts with your fingers nacho porn awesome
sylhet should be just like that Pat here we go you're having your first boy and a
second bite who can y'all feel the healing out there can you feel it
through pat right here and there's three and there's four and there's a scant
almost full it's not quite full
and so she said that 58 and 262 me help me with this you're supposed to know
about it and I said you know I'd love to help you but really what you need is a
referral to a gastric surgeon you actually need stomach surgery because
your BMI is greater than 40 and she said no I don't want that i want you to help
me cure this with lifestyle changes so I gave her a nine inch plate and I said on
the plate there ought to be half vegetables and a quarter lean protein
poultry or fish or soy and the other quarter should be nuts and legumes and
whole grains and low-fat dairy and we started that way we started with Oprah's
to advise you Oprah has said I've been on a lot of diet programs and there's
nothing like getting up in the morning and going for a walk so she started with
the half block that she could walk without becoming short of breath and
over the next three years she actually walked a half marathon at once she lost
120 pounds we talked regularly and she did really well ready to go good does
i'm going to teach about heart disease this morning so i'm going to teach you
how an apple a day can keep the doctor away but we're first going to start a
little bit about the fact that heart disease is the number one cause of death
in the industrialized nations which of course includes anybody in this room as
well as any race any religion any gender because heart disease is an equal
opportunity disease so we're going to look at the first slide and this is what
the individual that works in the pathology lab sees not that you want to
see a dead heart this morning but here it is so this is what a heart looks like
to a pathologist and just a couple of points to make here first of all if you
look at the arrows coming down that heart that's an artery that supplies one
of the major pumping muscles to the heart and that artery is actually very
full of fat so I'm gonna tell you about that in just a second but also look at
the fact that that heart it muscle is purple and that means it's dead so by
the time your heart reaches the pathology lab it's too late so i would
like to actually tell you how to prevent it
I came home to my dream house in denver colorado i walked in the door I saw how
beautiful it was I had just refinanced I had decorated it within an inch of its
life it was perfect and I was never leaving and again whatever that source
or voice is said to me all of the reasons that you needed and wanted this
house are complete go the voice did not say go where so I put my house on the
market it sold in 60 days in 2010 and I gave away all of my belongings to my
family and friends and for the last two and a half years i have lived around the
world without a house not much of a plan and it has turned into two and a half
years of juicy exciting adventure and fun and service and lots of lessons so i
do feel like it is my mission to help you understand the steps that you can
take to make your next step the second part of loving with an amazing amused
heart is to be empathetic and to actually step into the shoes of another
person and this is much much harder than it sounds many of us think we're living
in a state of empathy but really we're living in a state of judgment and if
someone says you know I oh I've got an emergency it's like tell me what the
emergency is let me decide whether or not this is really an emergency instead
of stepping into that other person's shoes I many of you I had conversations
with last night i love to go around and I ask you two questions I ask you what
do you love about your job and then I ask what makes you crazy and when I went
around and you guys didn't let me down a bit yeah there were some answers about
oh I love the fact that it's different every day and I get to have a lot of
variety but across the board the number one answer had to do with people I love
the people i'm taking care of i love the veterans we're serving i love my
co-workers i love the patients i love their families i love
the residents I love people so what drives you nuts what do you think the
number one answer is my talk is actually kind of serious so I want you to imagine
a career where every day you get to intimately connect with people when
they're at their most vulnerable it's a career we're complete strangers will
open up to you entirely and where you're blessed to be able to deeply touch other
people and have them touch you in return sounds amazing hopelessly works and it
is and it's always the career that inspired me but the harsh reality is
that becoming an adult film star as a huge barrier to entry
there is one way than research that's pretty clear that shows you how you can
take hip fat off but you're not going to like it you can take hip fat off by
breastfeeding and some of you women are thinking that ship has sailed that train
has left the station grandma put that baby down there's an image it will stick
in your mind tonight