Hey Dan here and if you're always doing things last-minute if you find yourself
always stressing out at the deadline then this video is for you
now I've went through this experience when I was just out of college I became
a mortgage broker no not the evil kind I think I was doing some good work but
what I found is that I was always always closing my deals basically dealing with
the paperwork dealing with the bank at the last minute now to me this was kind
of fun it was exciting right sometimes there were issues where the client come
up I'd have to call the bank call in a favor do all this stuff it was cool to
me it was exciting my boss and my clients did not think so
for my boss I was causing unnecessary stress for him and the clients and the
clients were really unsure of what was going on sometimes we're wondering why
are you calling me a day before the mortgage is supposed to close to get
this document when you know I figured all the paperwork would be in order
weeks ago or months ago and so this is obviously a problem right in this kind
of context and it was at the same time that I went down to San Diego to do some
coaching training with Tony Robbins and learned about human needs psychology and
one of the things that struck me right away is that I had a need for excitement
for uncertainty and I was not needing that so in human needs psychology
there's basically six needs that we all need to meet on some level for our
essential these four needs if we are not meeting them we are not living and we
basically will do whatever we need to unconsciously and consciously to meet
these needs the other two are about fulfillment instead of having a more
satisfying life and so the four basic needs are certainty we need some level
of consistency or certainty in our lives and this makes sense right food shelter
if you're always stressed are always worried that's not good
the second ironically is uncertainty his inconsistency is basically having some
excitement in our lives and for some of us this is very little this is trying a
different beer once a month for others it means cliff diving skydiving doing
crazy stuff to meet that need right it's different for everyone
third need is significant feeling special feeling unique we all have this
and we're seeing it so obviously now in the Instagram generation
and fourth is the need for connection and I can be loved that can be
relationships in some way or in other words the need for human connection and
I'll talk about this more in other videos but as it relates to this
specific issue of doing things last minute of creating chaos in your life
it's the need for inconsistency for variety for excitement that usually does
it here and so I came to this conclusion basically when I when I studied this
area of psychology and I realized hey this is why I am doing this and so I
started adding some excitement to my life I went skydiving I did some crazy
ATV in through Mexico to the Baja I did got my motorcycle license started riding
motorcycles all this kind of stuff and you know what I found is my business
life totally calm things were easy things went steady because I was meeting
that need for excitement in a much healthier way I was getting it out of my
system if you will and not having it sabotage my life and this is really
important so this is the first thing if you're someone who's doing things
last-minute all the time ask yourself why might I be doing this and when you
do this you have to come from the perspective that you're in control a lot
of people like to just deny that they're influencing their own behavior right you
can't do that that's not gonna get you anywhere
you have to first acknowledge I'm in control I'm the one doing this on some
level so taking that into account acknowledging that I'm doing this why
might I be doing it what unconscious need might have I might I be meeting
through this behavior so that's the first thing
acknowledge it that to you now the second thing is if you only can find
yourself doing work at deadlines you might want to ask yourself about the
kind of work you're doing if the only way you'll do it is from external
pressure then you might want to look at changing what you're doing it right is
finding work that you find more enjoyable more fulfilling I mean we all
need deadlines to some extent we all need external pressure on some level you
know authors generally love to write but they still usually submit their books at
the deadline so I'm not saying if you need deadlines that your work is
terrible you're not doing you should but maybe there is something
there where you can only get work done at a deadline if you can only get it
done when there's stress and pressure then maybe you want to think about
changing careers or changing studies or whatever it is and finding something
where you actually enjoy the work the actual process of doing things is
fulfilling enough that you'll get at least I love it done in advance you
don't always need a deadline to get stuff done so those are my two takeaways
on this topic I'll probably talk about this more because it's something that
I've dealt with a lot myself first thing is again re-evaluating your life looking
at what it is that you're getting out of this chaos what it's giving you maybe
it's actually not just giving you uncertainty and excitement but maybe
it's also giving you connection right when there's chaos then you have to call
the people connect with people call in favors and not adding another human need
in there so figure out what you're getting out of this behavior and try to
find healthier ways to meet that need and the second thing is just think about
the actual activities and maybe they're just really boring or the things you
don't enjoy and that's why you always do it last minute and so you should really
consider changing what you're doing on some level of another either way I hope
you found this video helpful and I look forward to seeing you in another one
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