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(applauding)
All right.
Well, thank you very much.
I just wanted to come out and say hey.
Hey.
(cheering)
I'm curious 'cause sometimes I never know.
Like I said that.
I think I'm running out of words.
I never know if sometimes if my message is getting across
and if it's making sense.
Did my message get across about?
Well, I'm talking about the message of her being passive
and letting him decide what's gonna happen in her life.
My alcoholic playboy husband walked away
and filed for divorce after 2 & 1/2 years of marriage.
Marcia needs to accept that I want a divorce,
and she needs to move on.
I don't love her anymore.
Dustin's new take on our marriage
is that he wants the divorce,
but would like to live with me and co-parent our daughter.
I feel like I live in Dustin's world, full of lies,
and unfortunately other women.
I feel like I'm consumed with Dustin's actions
because of his lying.
I'm basically like a private investigator.
Recently, I found emails to other women
with graphic pictures in them.
Being married to Marcia was really difficult
because she wanted to control my every move.
I am emotionally and mentally exhausted.
Marcia won't accept the divorce
because it wasn't her idea.
Here's what I'm concerned about.
I have no doubt that this man
has some personality problems here.
I have no doubt that he has some maturity problems,
that he does have an inability to get into
and sustain a healthy relationship with women.
That's an issue that he and I can and should talk about.
My question for you is why your self-worth,
why your self-esteem is so compromised
that your not only willing to accept that,
but pursuing, plead to be allowed to stay.
That's what you're doing.
You're saying, "Abuse me.
Abuse my trust.
Violate every (mumbles) of our relationship,
our agreement as a husband and a wife,
do that to me, not once, not twice,
but over and over and over again.
Throw it in my face.
Waive it in my face.
But please let me stay."
No. (applauding)
Can I say something about that, Dr.Phil?
No.
Okay.
That's what you're doing,
and that tells me that you don't have a self-worth
and a self-value that you need to have,
that you should have.
My love for my family and my love for him
when I tried to help support him through his alcoholism,
all that hurt it was pounded in my head daily.
This is why I did this.
This is why I'm this way.
This is why this has happened.
I will never do that again.
I'm sober now.
This, this, this.
Now he's not sober, and I'm stuck out here
like what the hell is going on.
I've been fighting for my family.
What do you mean your stuck out here
like what the hell is going on?
Why is it up to him what happens in your life?
Why are you waiting for him to tell you
what you're going to do with your life.
Why is she staying?
Because she doesn't have self-esteem.
Right.
So, she's afraid to turn that loose
because then she has nothing.
So, it's kind of the devil you know,
but the devil you know come on.
She's catching him and does absolutely nothing.
So, now they're like 10 days from finishing divorce,
so they're gonna lease the house together.
I mean, am I in the Twilight Zone?
(laughing)
And that is very manipulative by him.
Right.
'Cause he wants to have where he can retreat to,
where he has somebody watching his child.
It's kind of like a mom,
and he can go home, but then he's gonna be
in there doing all of his stuff driving her crazy.
She can't let that happen.
Right.
And listen I take no pleasure in telling somebody
you need to run, not walk to the courthouse
and get aways from this guy,
but I mean, I gotta call it like I see it.
This is toxic.
This will never work.
Right.
(applauding)
You all agree with that?
It's so manipulative to say, "Get away, no come here.
Get away, no come here."
I mean, that just drives you crazy.
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