I remember it like it was yesterday.
Although it was probably like 13 or 14 years ago.
I remember that I went up to a girl at a bookstore.
We talked for maybe 5-6 minutes.
I got her number.
Of course, after you get a girl's number, you’re thinking, she's interested in me.
After that, I texted her and she'd respond fairly fast.
Even respond and say things like asking me questions, whatever.
Then I'd asked her to hang out, and she wouldn't be free.
I texted her again.
I'd say, are you free here?
She says, no, I can't.
Then I would text her again, what about this time?
She'd say, yeah, I am.
Last minute, she would flake and we'd set up again and flake, flake, flake.
This carried on pathetically for probably around at least a month.
Again, this is a while ago.
This is when I was just learning about how this all worked, women, dating, attraction.
Finally, I realized that this girl is not interested.
She's never going to meet up.
Maybe you've been there.
Maybe you're cringing at this story because you're like, Tripp, how did you not know that?
We get a little confused.
We get mixed signals from women.
We don't know if they're playing with us.
We don't know what's going on in terms of what they're thinking.
It's challenging.
It's difficult, especially difficult when they respond to you.
Or maybe it's even further down the line.
Maybe you're in the friend zone situation where she is continuously hanging out with
you and flirting with you.
You've even made some moves, and she says, oh no, we're just friends.
I've been in that situation as well.
What can we learn from this?
Is she playing with you?
Is she messing with you?
Is she having a good laugh with all her friends?
Oh my God, look at this guy's texting me to meet up and I keep saying no hahaha!
Reality is, she's not playing with you.
Maybe she is showing her friends, but she's not showing her friends like “haha look
what's going on” kind of way.
It’s more of, oh man, this guy keeps texting me and asking me out, I don't know what to
do.
I don't want to be rude.
I don't want to reject him, or I don't know how to reject him.
At the end of the day, the only person who's playing you is yourself.
Let me explain this.
If you're allowing something to happen, you can never play the victim.
You always have to put it on you because only you can control your destiny, your outcome.
You're the person who can control it.
Of course, you don't know what's going to happen when you put yourself out there and
you can't control the outcome necessarily, but you can control everything before that.
Meaning, you can be a person who's going to put your best foot forward.
You might have a girl that you're interested in, you might ask her out, but if she rejects
you, or she's not interested in seeing you, or it's clear that she's not taking the time
to contact you first, or to reschedule plans, she's not playing you.
She's showing you that she's not interested.
Some women will be on the other end of the spectrum that may ghost you.
You might never hear from them again.
Some women are going to be on the other end of the spectrum where you're going to be convinced
that they like you.
But then nothing happens and you're like, oh, this girl is playing me.
No, you're allowing it to happen.
What I want you to do is end that cycle as fast as possible.
You don't have to be in a friend zone situation.
You don't have to allow that to happen.
If a girl rejects you, you should completely move on and look for another girl.
There's a million others out there.
If you text someone and they don't meet up with you, they don't try, or proactive after
you've tried initially, leave her alone.
Move on.
The problem is that a lot of guys get caught up.
They get way too invested emotionally and time wise into a girl that they don't want
to give up.
This is a problem.
This is a problem because it just wasting more of your time.
I'm going to give you a little technique, a little mindset to work on when it comes
to this situation.
It's called this and this is something that is mainly used in business but can be applied
to your dating life.
It's called hire slow, fire fast, or fire fast, hire slow.
What does that mean?
That means that the second a girl is not giving you the attention, she's not giving you the
yes, or she does something that you don't like, just because your time invested, that
doesn't mean you have to stick around.
Fire fast, get rid of it, move on.
She's not interested, move on.
She's not showing you the side of interest, which is her trying to meet up with you or
agree to meet up with you, you move on, fire fast.
Now hire slow.
That comes in the process of, again, that might be misconstrued here, I don't want you
to think, Tripp, hire slow.
Take your time, nurture the person.
You said hire slow, you got to make sure that this person is gonna be good.
No, hire slow comes after they have given you interest.
If they're not giving you interest or not agreeing to a date, if it's not in a date
or sexual context, that process doesn't start yet.
Once it's a date or sexual context, then it's okay, hire slow.
This is if you're looking for a relationship and you find out that person is good for you.
You keep dating them, keep being with them and you hire slow.
Again, you're hiring slow in dating lots of people.
Always talking about having an abundance of women in your life, abundance mindset.
That's when you hire slow.
But the second it doesn't work out, fire fast.
The biggest mistake I see guys make is getting emotionally and time invested into a woman.
That's a complete waste of time.
If you want to know how to hire slow, find the right woman for you and also attract a
woman that is going to be someone that you're interested in, that deal with all these flaky
types of women, I want you to go to GetHerHooked.com.
I talked about this in many videos.
It's my program that teaches you step by step how to meet these women and how to filter
out for the right one so you're not wasting your time.
Check that out at GetHerHooked.com.
I'll put a link in the description below as always.
Try to use this concept when you're going out there meeting women.
Remember, it's not that she's playing you, you are playing yourself.
Get ahead of the game here.
Take control.
I'll see you on the next video.