My husband changed after we got married. My name is Paul Friedman. I founded The
Marriage Foundation and I'm going to give you a little
insight. First of all, it's not unusual. I mean you should both be changing
for the rest of your lives pretty much right along. You should be improving
yourself. He should be improving himself. Usually what happens though, and I call
it the first of the three killers of marriage
is men become over familiar. They start treating their wives like
their mother. In so many cases is that what's happening
to you that the romance is gone that
his expectations have risen. They're subtle, they're not
spoken about but he doesn't treat you with the love,
respect, kindness, and support that he did when you were dating.
And part of that isn't really his fault because we grow up in a society where
marriage is a destination. It's a popular saying that
the wedding day is the bride's happiest day of her life.
Oh my God, really? Is that good? In other words, from that time so your
your happiness is growing. You get married and then from then it goes down
or it stays the same. No, you get married to be happier every single day
and to experience love, something's amiss. Now, I'm not going to
blame you. I'm not going to say, "He's changed
because you have changed," but I guarantee you that you have changed
as well. A lot of people start bickering. They start demanding,
they start complaining and when I say a lot of people -- I'm talking about men
and women. It's almost like a universal thing
unless you really know how to get married, and what marriage is
all about, and what you should do for your marital
maintenance, I like to call it. Well then of course,
your marriage is going to be descending. How popular is that?
How normal is that? Well, over 50% of the people who get married
get divorced. Of the people who are married, you know lots of people who are
married, how many are spectacularly happy? How
many people do you know who are married who are happier than they were on their
wedding day? And you're supposed to be. You haven't
learned. Your husband hasn't learned how to be married. Now
chances are, your marriage is not moving towards divorce.
Maybe it will if things continue. My point
is now is the time for you to really learn about marriage. Use one
of my books. They're very different from everything
that you'll see out there. My research and my discoveries
are based on a whole different viewpoint of marriage. I see
marriage as a spiritual path that two people
individually take together. I see marriage as
the sacred space of marriage where two people, only two people live.
And yet, you're having so much difficulty that you're not even able to talk to
your husband about this or when you do, you don't get the
responses. What's going on? You need to learn about marriage so get
one of the books. It's a very inexpensive way to fix your
marriage and read from it to each other every
night before you go to bed. I guarantee you both will go, "Oh my God! I never
thought of that." "Yeah, that makes sense." "Okay, let's start doing that."
And it'll change your marriage around. You're supposed to go from where you are
today to happier every single day. Try that and subscribe to the videos
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I've discovered. You will be so happy if you pay
attention to what I've learned about marriage. It
really will change your life. It's cool. Marriage is amazing.
Your marriage should be amazing too. So blessings to you, blessings to your
husband! Blessings to your family to come!
Take care! Thank you!