The top five most important things
in your marriage. This is a broad
topic. My name is Paul Friedman,
I founded The Marriage Foundation and
I've
covered this in
three other videos in parts
and this is the fourth. This is the final.
This is the fifth most important part of
your marriage.
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So let's get into this, last part of the
topic
which is learning how to love
unconditionally.
This is the fifth, not necessarily in
terms of
importance. In fact, it's probably the
most
important is in your marriage
learn how to love unconditionally.
What does that even mean?
I'm not one to throw out terms that
don't have
real meaning. I'm not Hallmark, I'm not
trying to
make this romantic. I'm trying to give
you practical information
because marriage is intended, intended.
It was designed and produced
for specific purpose. The purpose of
marriage is for you
to live in your own little world.
I call it the sacred space of marriage
wherein because the world will beat you
to death, but in your sacred space of
marriage
you could live ideal lives with and for
each other. And the highest of all ideals
in life
and I say this without taking
anything back. The highest ideal of life
is love. I'm not talking about, "I love
this car."
I'm talking about love. You
cannot really live
without it. Ask anybody
who has made a fortune
who did so at the cost
of developing the love in their hearts.
They will tell you candidly that they
wasted
their life. Ask a poor man
who's tight with his family, who loves
his
wife, or a rich or a poor
woman who has a loyal
dedicated husband. They don't care.
They're happy. Your marriage is all about
happiness, ever-increasing happiness
every single day of your life and how
you achieve that is not materially.
You achieve that through the one thing
we know of
that is infinite, that has no boundaries
whatsoever
and keeps getting better all the time,
that's love
and learning how to love unconditionally
is practical. We don't
know how. You go to a therapist.
You go to a marriage counselor and you
say,
"I'm not happy in my marriage," and they
will ask you,
"Well, what's wrong?"
You don't know what's wrong. If you knew
what was wrong you wouldn't need a
marriage counselor. They're the ones who
are supposed to tell you what's wrong.
They don't because they don't know.
I know I'm telling you and now you know.
What is wrong is always the same wrong.
You're not experiencing
unconditional love. If you are
there is nothing wrong. All those little
wrong things
can be swept off the table because you
have the love.
One of my favorite stories of all time
and I put it in both of my books
is a story about, and I heard this story
when I took my kids to the Holocaust
museum in Washington D.C.
and Steven Spielberg put together
a tape of, it's like five-hour tape
of people sharing their experiences
in concentration camp. Now my dad was in
concentration camp
and his experiences were not like the
ones
that this particular person told his
story.
So he told the story he said, "I was in
camp
and my friend is praying. He's got a
smile on his face and I said to him,
How can you pray to such a God?
How can you do this? You're here. You've
lost everything
chances are you're going to lose your
life. How can you
have and have a smile on your face?
What can you possibly be grateful for?"
And my friend said, "I'm very grateful,
God didn't make me the way he made those
who put us in here."
And I went, "My goodness," this
man is in charge of his
mind. This man understands
about life, about love.
Love controlling your mind
transcends any little thing for this
man being in concentration camp losing
everything
was little compared to the love
that he had. Love is
everything. Love
is the very foundation of your marriage.
It is where your two souls meet.
You meet in love, it transcends
all your material existence.
If you do not learn to love
unconditionally
you're wasting this unbelievable
opportunity. Now great saints and
prophets
and people who move huge movements
who practice this love, they usually get
assassinated. The world is not receptive
but when you become married, you're in
this enclosed
space -- it's just the two of you.
You have no other
motivation that is superior
to learning how to love unconditionally.
And trust me, thousands, tens of
thousands of people have used our
courses.
This is the very first thing we talk
about in the courses, learning how to
control your mind
so that you can experience
unconditional love. There is nothing
superior. There is nothing that is
it's peer. This is it. This is the whole
reason for being alive
is to discover love at that level.
You can call it God. God is nothing but
pure love.
This is your soul nothing but pure love
that's what it's all about, happiness
happiness, happiness.
Why would you ever want anything else?
I do want one other thing. Would you
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I want you to have the most amazing
marriage like I have
every single day literally, and I'm not
unique. It's not just me because
everything I know I share in these
videos, I share in the books, I share in
the courses.
You should have it too. Why not?
Thank you for spending time with me! God
bless!