Whatever's going on in your life, there's a pair of opposites.
So if somebody is criticizing you, there's somebody praising you,
but you're unaware of it. When you're conscious of the criticism,
you're hurt and you feel angry. If you're conscious of the praise,
you're pleased and you feel pleased. But if you see both of them together side,
you realize that you're actually ibeing given a moment of love.
Love is a synthesis and synchronicity of complimentary opposites.
When you realize that that's all that goes on, 24 hours a day.,
We have what is called a stream of consciousness as William James says,
and moment by moment sliver by sliver, every billionth of a second or whatever,
a trillionth of a second, there's a sliver of conscious freezing, you might say,
and we snapshot our reality and we gather information and we've created what is
called a neuro associative complex in our brain from sensory input,
we then associate it with previous experiences that we have,
and we create this you might call it a memory or a moment of perception.
And in that moment whatever the content of that perception is,
the brain in order to neutralize,
the chemistry is because of the excitation of neurons has to balance it,
the chemistry or otherwise it gets a runaway noise in the brain,
a cascading of what they call brain noise.
So what happens is the brain creates a composite opposite and becomes aware of
the opposite. And when I finally realized that,
and I looked at that and I asked where it was,
for two years I did it on myself and I did a hundreds and hundreds of cases,
thousands of cases of moments in my life,
where I saw what was going on and where in my mind,
and when I did cases in rape and beatings and torture and things of that nature,
when I had clients that had gone through really quote, "traumatic experiences",
I found out that they disassociated and created a composite opposite in their
brain to counterbalance the chemistry in the brain in order to maintain
homeostasis. And so they were dissociating while they were being beaten,
for instance, they would go and imagine themselves invincible.
When they were in darkness, they'd see light,
and if they feel like they're constrained,
they'd see freedom and act like a bird or a butterfly or fly or something.
And I'd watch these dissociative states,
the content of the dissociative state was counterbalancing the state that they
were experiencing in their so-called trauma.
I also noticed in ecstatic drug use,
the ecstatic would create paranoia's of the opposite.
And I realized that the mind is always maintaining pairs of opposites.
When I discovered that and proved that, thousands of cases in my own life,
then started then clinically working with clients,
I discovered what I think is one of the greatest discoveries of human
psychology. And we live in a zoology of psychologies, it's a zoo.
Perpetrator, innocent victim model.
And so we are separating causalities and blaming other people and no therapy
will ever be complete till cause equals effect in space-time.
And so what happens is,
I went in there and I went in and identified exactly where it was, when it was,
what it was, content, context, who it was to,
and I looked for the other side and I found it every time.
I found it was either real or virtual,
but I found that it was complimentary opposites. And man,
I got tears of gratitude,
I saw the same thing I got when I got with Leibniz when I was 18.
And I just went wow, this is too profound not to share.
It's just too profound.
And then I started clinically working with people with my method
more and more.
And I put it into the Breakthrough Experience where I begin to teach people
this.
And the Breakthrough Experience I've done 1,107 times to try to get this message
out to people because people are caught in this fantasy and opium of
"self-improvement" and get rid of half of yourself and try to be one-sided in
this moral constrained hypocrisy that we live in.
And we get subject ourselves to traditions and conventions that are antiquated
and aren't really human behavior and its highest, highest and finest.
And when I finally put that into place and put that in the Breakthrough
Experience, I watched transformations in people's lives.
I saw people see things they never saw before.
And all of a sudden when they saw the pairs of opposites, their heart opened,
and I realized that love is truly a synthesis and synchronicity of any
complimentary opposite. So whatever you perceive, the opposite's there.
And when you're doing something to somebody, I looked again
and when you were mean to somebody who was nice, when you were nice,
who was mean, when you were rejecting somebody who was wanting them,
when you were stealing something who was being generous, when you were generous,
who was being stealing?
I blew people's minds by making them aware and show them that their intuition
always has that answer.
We have what is called sensory awareness then we have an intuitive noospheric
awareness. And most people,
I call it the immanent mind and the transcendent mind or the lower mind and the
higher mind or the unreflective mind,
the pre-reflective mind and the reflective mind,
depending on who you want to read their writings of.
And I realized that we have access to vast amount of knowledge and find the
hidden order in the chaos. When I was 18,
I also read Boltzmann's work and Einstein's on a brownian movement.
And I thought, he never was satisfied with the idea of it just random systems.
I always believed that randomness was just not knowing all the variables and all
factors, as Pascal described in his work.
So I basically sat there and I tried to find the hidden order in the apparent
chaos. And by God, when I found 6 and 13,
columns 6 and 13 of the Demartini Method,
and I found these synchronicity of opposites, I found a goldmine, And man,
it's hard not to share that with people because,
they run their life as victims of history instead of masters of destiny,
they think there's chaos and their life is burdened and they don't see life on
the way, they see it in the way. But when I show them this,
they realize there's nothing there out of order. They're graced,
they have meaning, they find the mean,
the pairs of opposites join. And there's enlightenment, there's an aha.
There's an inspiration. There's a metaphysical jump.
There's a spirituality.
Spirituality is not a tribal thinking and not an anthropomorphism of some
religious dogma that's antiquated set up on Ptolemy's and Aristotle's view of
the world with primum mobiles, that's antiquated.
Spirituality has no race, creed, color, age, or sex limitations.
It's transcendent.
It has no local language monoglotic constructs,
it's massively more vast than that.
And I feel that no matter what your background is and what your tradition is,
there's a way now of discovering the magnificent intelligence
of the universe, the panpsychic intelligence,
the implicate order as David Bohm would describe in the universe by asking the
right questions.
The quality of your life is based on the quality of the questions you ask,
because questions make you conscious of the unconscious.
And then I went one step further on the next column.
And I realized that as long as we were comparing our life to a fantasy of
one sidedness, we aren't going to appreciate our life.
So I had to crack the fantasies and the nightmares that it was leading to.
So what I did is I said,
go to the moment where and when you perceive this individual displaying or
demonstrating a specific trait, action or inaction that you admire or despise.
Let's say you despise. And at that moment,
if they had done just the opposite of what you thought they did that you
despised and you admired that, what would have been the drawback?
And I make them go into that moment,
so that's where the moment where their intuition can answer that question
without speculation. And go in there and what would be the drawback?
And when they answer that, they go to the drawbacks of that,
they break the fantasy of how it could and should have been. Cause the could,
should, and would have beens or whatever is interfering with the way it is.
Anytime you compare your reality to a fantasy of how it should have been,
you're not grounded in reality. What it is, is what it is.
How has that serve you? How is what's happening right now, fulfilling your life?
Not how has it should be like it used to be or should be like I want it to be,
or fantasize about it, but how is it worth? By cracking the fantasies,
which is column 14 in the Demartini Method and the nightmares,
because then when we're admiring somebody,
we're actually frightened of its opposite,
if we found the benefits of the opposite, we not only dissolve the infatuation,
cause we infatuate with people we minimize ourselves and then try to live in
their values and then self depreciate.
So infatuations are just as devastating to mastery of life as resentments.
And both of them occupy your mind and run you.