to feel that way all the time in the past couple of years that all changed for me and
today I'm going to show you guys how you can take charge of your life and control your future too
the biggest reason I used to feel so lost and helpless was I
looked at life as something that just happened to me
good morning everyone
this morning I actually woke up at like 6:30 fell back to sleep and then woke up at nine
so here we are now.
even though I would go through the motions and try to do well in school and make
some friends ultimately I felt like my life was going to run its course and I would just have to
accept whatever it happened to offer me whether I liked it or not and when life was good that
wasn't so bad but when I got really depressed or anxious having this really passive mindset
prevented me from finding the motivation that I needed to take control over my life and improve it
and when I noticed things about my life that I didn't like maybe I felt
dumb or lazy or not pretty enough I felt powerless to change them which only made
me feel worse I felt trapped somewhere I didn't want to be and because I had
spent so many years just letting things happen to me I had no idea how to escape
that was until I realized that no matter how much
time has passed it was never too late to take charge of my life and turn it around
every day is an opportunity to begin again and to make the most of the opportunities
we're given and everything about our lives that we can control so that's what I started to do
it turns out that when you start to think about it even though there are a lot of things in life
that we can't control most of us have a lot more agency than we think we do at first so the secret
to feeling in control of ourselves and our futures is to focus on the aspect of Our Lives that we're
capable of changing while just accepting and letting go of everything else
whatcha making there?
I'm making crèpes!
ohhhh
nice
my first time actually
it's actually not that bad no?
yeah it's pretty good
it'll never do us any good to spend time worrying about everything that's out of
our control. the only thing that we'll ever accomplish is distracting us from focusing
on the things that we can control, which are the only ways we can improve our lives for the better
over the long term that's how we start to feel like we're making progress. we identify
all of the opportunities we have to direct our lives in the direction we wanted to go
and we focus all of our attention on making the most of them and when we notice we're
making progress we only become more motivated to stick to our goals and
live our lives with the confidence that we can actually achieve them
but when we spend all of our time feeling badly about everything that's out of reach
we create negative feedback loops while we only feel worse and worse about ourselves as
the day and months go by without us making any noticeable progress in our lives so
learning to just accept everything about ourselves that we can't change no matter
how much we don't like it is the first step to regaining control over our lives
and really there's just no need to focus on things we can't control because there's so much
about ourselves that we actually can influence with enough discipline and good decision making
first there are the obvious things that I talk about all the time working on fitness, nutrition
self-care and other healthy habits to help us build the foundation we need to work towards
our goals but there's even more than just that we can do so much to make ourselves mentally stronger
too to become more disciplined and focused even on days where we don't have a lot of motivation
something that can be really powerful is finding one thing that we really don't like doing but
that's really good for us and working on doing it once a day no matter what. for me that used to be
running but it can be really anything depending on who you are and what you don't like to do the
most important thing is to train yourself to overcome that voice in your head that says I'm
too tired or I can't do this or I don't want to get out of bed because no matter what your
goals are you're probably going to need a lot of discipline and work ethic to achieve them
most of us are really good at making excuses and believing stories about ourselves and what
we're capable of that aren't true until we actually believe them we tell ourselves that
we're too tired to get our work done or not smart enough to pass an exam or too lazy to
work out and because we believe them they become self-fulfilling prophecies so learning to push
our boundaries enough to realize how capable we truly are is really important for gaining
control over our lives make choices rather than excuses and believe in your capacity to change
for the better and create your dream life
over the years the main way I found myself distracted from my goals and focus on what I
can't control is through comparison to others and jealousy for what they have that I don't
and this is especially hard with social media when we're constantly exposed to curated and
embellished versions of other people's lives that can easily make us feel like we're just
not good enough or trying as hard as we could or as pretty as we have to be
good morning everyone it is currently 8 am I woke up at around 7 30. I'm
gonna post a (YouTube) short, tiktok, (instagram) reel this morning before I start "work work"
but we just have to realize that what others are doing will always be outside of our control and most
important that they can only affect us to the extent that we allow ourselves to focus on them
but even if we could control them we shouldn't try to rather than trying to bring other people
down we should try to lift our ourselves up by using others as guides and inspirations for our
own lives there's so much we can learn from others and if we waste our time being jealous
and envious of them rather than looking to them for advice and inspiration, we're losing out on the
opportunities we have to make our own lives better there are always things that we can
find in our lives to be grateful for and if there are things that we see others have that
we don't the best thing to do is to look at our own life and find the opportunities we have to
achieve them rather than just being depressed about the fact that we don't have them already
next is to be explicit about our goals and the steps that we need to take to
achieve them really take the time to reflect and think about what we want
out of our lives to translate that into realistic and achievable goals and most
importantly think about the practical steps and ways to actually reach them
what skills do you need?
what do you need to learn? what do you need to work on about yourself? and how can you get all of those
things? setting realistic goals and knowing the steps you have to take is the best way you can
feel in control of your future and figuring all of that out can be hard but you're going
to have to do it at some point and the sooner you do the sooner you feel like your life is
actually moving in the direction that you want it to towards the success that you've always wanted
above all what I want you to remember is that
mindset matters. so much about our lives that we can control and taking charge starts with
developing the right mindset no matter your goals. know that you are capable of much more
than you think you are and the only way you can really find out your limits is to work
hard enough to push past them. together let's take charge of our lives in order to control
our futures because our future needs us and depends upon our choices while our past doesn't
at the end of the day the best investment that we can make will always be the investment we
make in ourselves so in the end let's do our best your future self will thank you for it