Hey there, viewers!
Have you ever trusted a person, only to find out they’ve been lying the whole time?
It can really be heartbreaking.
You know there are professionals who are trained to tell if you’re lying.
FBI Agents, Border Control.
Many of these jobs require you to fish out the truth.
Let’s talk 7 Ways To Tell If Your Friend’s A Liar.
Do they speak a little too much?
What happens when you ask for their story backwards?
Wait, do they compliment you way too much?
We’re talking all that AND more…
Too Many Compliments
We all love being complimented.
But if your friend is complimenting you too much, they may have some tricks up their sleeve.
There are many techniques liars will employ as a way to distract you from their dishonesty.
In the case of excessive compliments, this may be done as a way to get on your good side
so you won’t ask any questions.
Even if you do suspect them of dishonesty, you’ll be hesitant to call them out.
“But do I really want to confront this person?
They’re being so nice to me.”
The compliments are quite simple.
They often have to do with your appearance.
“Nice dress…
I really like your hairstyle…
Man, where’d you get those shoes?”
The compliments may even be personality-based.
“You’re so funny…
I just love talking with you...
There’s really no better listener.”
You will also find the liar agreeing with you on everything.
If they are truly bent on you not discovering the truth, they will even agree with things
that go against their principles.
Maybe they’ll laugh at things they don’t normally find funny.
Maybe even side with you in a political debate.
If you’ve spent a lot of time around this person, you’d pick up on this pretty quickly.
Now please don’t think that all complimentary people are like this.
There are some people who are just really nice.
Do you have a story where a friend told you a really creepy lie?
Did you fall for it at first, or did you know from the beginning?
Sound off in the comment section, and start a conversation with our Bestie community.
Changes In Behavior
There are countless things liars will do to accidentally reveal themselves.
Like being visibly uncomfortable for instance.
If you have something to hide, it’s going to show through your body language.
Unless you are a trained CIA Agent who’s infiltrating an organization, you’ll never
be fully prepared to lie.
A liar's body is doing things they don’t even know are happening.
If you feel like your friend is lying, watch to see if they answer their questions in brief,
sometimes one-word answers.
This often occurs when you’re trying to get details that they don’t want you to
know.
“Why didn’t you come out last night?”
- “I couldn’t go out.”
- “Well why?”
- “I got sick.”
- “With what?”
- “Not sure, I just started puking.”
This conversation normally goes on forever, and raises more questions than it answers.
They may also show lapses in memory when it comes to critical details.
This may be because they are trying to omit points in the story they don’t want you
to hear.
Or maybe their nervousness is actually causing them to forget things.
Another tell-tale change will be their use of superlatives.
If they look visibly distressed and you ask how they are, a liar may respond by telling
you they’re “awesome”.
“Things are GREAT!”
- “Never been better!”
It’s all used as a diversion from the truth.
They Speak Way Too Much
A liar will often overspeak as a quick way to legitimize themselves.
They can really talk your ear off.
This may also be a conscious attempt to talk your ear off so you won’t want to hear more.
If they’re really smart, they’ll throw in a bunch of details at once as a way to
confuse you.
It’s also important to watch how fast they speak.
A nervous person tends to speak quicker than usual.
They might also speak at a much higher volume.
Because their nerves are going, you will likely hear their voice crack.
This is said to happen at the point of deception.
You Get Better Answers By Acting “Nice”
I know the “good cop/bad cop” thing has been done to death in every cop movie or TV
show.
But it’s not just a cliche.
It actually gets results.
In these situations the good cop usually gets the better answers from the suspect.
But this technique doesn’t always require two people.
If you feel your friend is lying to you, build a rapport with them.
Be polite and open.
Make it seem like you’re someone they’d want to talk to.
This way, you come off as someone they can confide in.
Like there won’t be harsh consequences if they admit to their wrongdoing.
Before we continue, have you been getting nightmares lately?
Maybe just some weird dreams?
Check out our video on 13 Hidden Dream Symbols You Should Absolutely Never Ignore.
Now back to our list of signs your friend’s a liar...
They Don’t Like Surprises
One of the best ways to throw off a liar is by hitting them with a surprise mid-conversation.
I don’t mean literally hit them.
I mean to bring something up they weren’t expecting.
Oftentimes, when a liar knows they are going to be questioned, they will prepare themselves
for what they might be asked.
A liar will also think about how they want to answer something.
They will even rehearse these situations over and over again.
The best thing to do is throw a wrench in their plan.
Let’s say for example something of yours has gone missing from your house.
You have a feeling it was a particular person, but you don’t want to accuse them.
While questioning this friend on their possible involvement, ask them something they weren’t
expecting.
Maybe a question completely unrelated to the topic at hand.
While hitting them with the usual “What room were you in?” and “Did you see my
watch?”, slip something random in like, “What color pants were you wearing at that
time?”
You’ll notice them stumbling almost instantly.
This is because you have gone off-script from what they had planned in their mind.
As a result, they’ll probably get confused and irritated.
While it may not give you an exact answer as to whether or not they’re lying, it sure
makes them a prime suspect.
They Say “No” Differently
When trying to get answers from someone, “no” is said to be a keyword when looking for deception.
This might sound strange, but there are lots of weird ways to say “no”.
If you are trying to hide something from someone, and they ask you if you did it, your way of
denying may come off much more aggressive than usual.
If a person is lying, they might say “no” while looking in a different direction.
They can also close their eyes.
Anything to avoid looking straight at you while lying.
Another thing to watch out for is the long, stretched-out “noooooo” . This is a sign
of the person being nervous.
One of the classic ways a liar says “no” is by hesitating before saying it.
We’ve all asked somebody a question, only to hear that two-second pause before they
answer.
This is normally them thinking whether or not they want to tell you the truth.
They Can’t Tell The Story Backwards
This is one of the more interesting signs of deception.
Yes, liars will often prepare their answers for when they are questioned.
But what if they don’t have time to do so?
What if they are questioned right on the spot?
In this case, they may have to make a story up right then and there.
I’ll set the stage.
You and your friend are baking a cake for another friend's birthday.
While you’re out of the room, your cake partner turns and accidentally knocks the
cake off the kitchen table, causing it to spill everywhere.
Now granted, the cake shouldn’t be so close to the edge, but hey, I’m being hypothetical
here, people!
Not 20 seconds after, you return to see the cake all over the ground.
Devastated, you ask your friend how the cake got ruined.
Now you’d think the person would just come clean right there.
But oh no, some folks refuse to go out silently.
If your friend can’t tell the truth, they will probably deliver a quick, fabricated
account of what happened.
“Oh it was awful.
While you were in the bathroom, a person climbed through the window.
Seeing that our cake was almost done, they pushed it off the table and leaped back out
the window.
I think I heard about this person on the news.
The “cake bandit” they called him.”
Now in this case, you don’t need a backward recital of the story to know it’s complete
B.S.
You don’t even have a window big enough for something to climb through.
But if you’d like to have some fun, ask them to repeat the exact details of the story
from the end, all the way to the beginning.
A method that is practiced by police detectives and special agents alike.
Have you ever been seriously lied to?
Do these signals apply to any of your friends?
Let us know in the comments below.
We would love to hear from you!