If he's a man
he'd probably love to have some sex.
I’m just saying
that's just for a lot of guys, right.
But that doesn't mean
that every guy only wants you for sex.
The thing is how do you know?
How can you tell the difference between
the guy who's genuine and the guy who
only wants you to be intimate with him.
Well, I’m going to break that down for you.
Sign number one
he only wants to have sex with you,
he doesn't take you anywhere.
Now, I know of
tons of scenarios where
women meet men exchange numbers
and at the end of the day,
they never go on a date.
It's either come to his house
or he goes to her house.
Hell, I even know some situations where
the only place they meet
is at the hotel, all right.
True story.
And so, that's a clear sign
this man pretty much
just wants to have sex with you.
It's extremely rare.
Again, it can happen.
It can happen where there's just a guy
who's not big on going out
and if you allow him to get away with
not taking you out
he may not and still actually
want to spend time with you and like you,
but most cases if he's not making
any effort to take you anywhere
he just wants to have sex with you.
And so, again, this is one of those things where
you've got to talk about it.
If you notice that when you bring up
going out that he's always
making excuses, shutting it down.
And this is what happens to a lot of women where
he may agree at first
oh, yeah, okay we're going to go out next week
or we're going to do this.
And it's every single time
there's an excuse and a cancellation.
Every single time there has to be a rescheduling
and ultimately weeks are passing
and this man has still yet to take you out.
Well, yes, that is a clear sign.
And again, just so you understand
on a deeper level why
is because one,
he's not really trying to be seen with you.
And he may not even be trying to be
seen with you because
he doesn't want if he's in a relationship
God forbid,
he doesn't want nobody to find out
and get back to his main woman, all right.
He may simply not want
the world to see him with you because
this sounds so bad,
but this is just the honest truth.
Sometimes he's not proud of
dealing with you.
Lord, forgive me for even saying that,
but you know, I can't just lie to you,
there are some situations like that.
I don't want you to jump to that conclusion,
but does it happen? It does happen.
When the guy is trying to hide you to that extent
that can be the case, okay.
And ultimately,
he's not trying to put that kind of an effort.
The reality is that going out
requires effort.
And I will say
you have to understand that
men in general aren't as
typically, aren't as about
going out as women are.
Which is why like I've noticed
in various cities and places where
you go out to the festivals
and things like that
you'll tend to see more women there.
Women love to go out,
they go to brunch they go to festivals,
they go to art, they go to all these different things.
And a lot of guys like staying home
watching sports,
chilling, watching TV, whatever the case may be.
So, there's already this thing that
leads to men staying home
more often than the woman.
But again, when he really likes a woman,
when he's serious about her,
he's at least willing to, he's willing to.
If you want to get out some more he's at least
willing to try to get out some more.
So, the fact that he's not even trying
yeah, bad sign
definitely looking like
he just wants to have sex with you.
Number two on the list
is he won't clearly state his intentions.
So, the unfortunate reality is that
it's very difficult
for the average man
to come out and say,
I just want to have sex with you.
I know a lot of you all say,
why can't men just tell us
maybe if we want the same thing
then we can be cool and do it.
Listen, if men really thought
that line worked,
they would use it, all right.
But the fact is
it does not work in their favor
in most cases
So, men shy away from
being that blunt and straightforward
about just wanting to have sex.
Now, they don't...
In a lot of cases they don't
want to shoot themselves in the foot
by saying the complete opposite which is
oh, yeah, I want a relationship
and I’m looking for marriage.
Because now you're going to hold him to
a higher standard
of what's expected in this potential relationship.
So, the easiest way
to kind of dodge those expectations
and to keep it closer to just
let's just have sex and have fun is
to give no intentions whatsoever.
Or to use the let's go with the flow or
why do we need to define anything?
Let's just enjoy ourselves
all these vague ways
of answering the question
rather than just saying exactly
what his intentions are.
And so, that has become
the norm for a lot of people, all right.
And again, I know some people might argue
what if they, you know, you really don't know because
some women out there have
said the same thing let's just go with the flow.
But I would argue,
even if you can say
you said that as a woman
and it didn't mean you only want
to have sex with the man.
Typically, if that's what you said to the man,
you were not convinced that
you wanted a relationship with him.
Or at the very least you probably did not
see the potential with him
at that time.
So again, even if we want to
make the argument that it doesn't
automatically mean he just
wants to have sex.
Because I do think that's possible,
it is possible that
the man may want to hang out.
There are some men believe it or not
who just want to enjoy
a woman's company, all right.
He may just want to talk, hang out,
and isn't requiring sex,
that is possible.
So, I think worst case scenario
we can say that or
another scenario is yes, we can say that
he may not see
a potential in a serious relationship
but again, he doesn't want to say that flat out.
Because that probably leads to
not even being able to
hang out with you and chill with you.
But to the main point,
listen, if he can't give you any intention
it's very probable
that sex is all he's looking for
out of this situation with you.
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So, number three,
the third sign that he only
wants to have sex with you.
He cancels whenever you're on your period.
So, listen, bottom line is this.
If a man is just trying to
have sexual relations,
then he's not trying to hang out with you
when sex is not on the table.
And it's not even just he
cancels when you're on your period
because some of you all sneaky ones,
well, let me not say sneaky
that's wrong for me to say that.
Some of you all did not warn him in advance
that you were on your period.
Not that you have to announce you’re
on your period because
you know of course, if the assumption is
you're trying to have a serious relationship,
why would you be thinking you have to say that.
But the point is
sometimes it's not that he got to cancel
because he knew you're on your period,
is that after you told him
and he was already in your presence,
he's quick to leave.
Or he even catches
an attitude with you, all right.
These are all bad signs.
So, cancellation,
catching an attitude,
quick to leave after you
do let him know, all right.
This is all signs of
chances are he just
wants to have sex and therefore,
his willingness to hang out with you
outside of sex
being on the table is just not there,
plain and simple.
And again, that guy
he does not want to...
His time...
He does not want to give you time
outside of sexual relations, you know I’m saying
other than you know, the preliminary
you know, little chit chat
here and there, all right.
Let's get to the room let's do it boom!
And then he's gone, all right.
So, yes, if he
always cancels on your period,
that is a huge sign.
Now, let me just say this because
it's popping in my head.
I don't want you to try to make up
fake moments that you have your period
to test him, all right.
I just don't believe
in the playing games like that
and lying to test.
I understand the temptation, all right.
I can see why you may want to try it
to see how he reacts.
But please if you're going to say you're on your period
let you actually be on your period.
Always remain honest and truthful.
And my thing is this
a man who only wants to have sex with you
it's going to show in various ways.
you're going to see it
in more ways than one.
So, you don't have to play games
in order to expose
if he just wants to have sex with you.
So, let's get to number four.
And number four is
his conversation
is always sexual, all right.
So, again, men who
are only looking for sex
don't really care
to delve into
deep emotional discussions
and trying to figure out all your life story
and all these different things,
for what?
It's about getting into the bedroom.
And so, not only is he not trying to have
those types of conversations,
again, he will tend to highlight
sexual things when you do talk.
Or he will send you the infamous
penis picture, all right.
You will get one of those texts
because he's giving you...
The penis picture is like
the batman signal, all right.
When he tries that
he's telling you he's over for business
he knows what's up.
Or he's trying to tell you that
this is what's up with him
and either you like it or you don't.
Again, not saying I condone it
or that men should be doing it,
I’m just talking about what happens.
And so, the reality is that
he will always lean to the sexual.
When you guys have conversation
even maybe when you attempt to have
deeper conversation with him.
He will always find a way
to bring it back to sex.
And so, you've got to be...
You got to pay attention to that.
Now, listen, there's nothing wrong with
flirting, all right,
every so often.
And if you as a woman
have introduced sex
into the conversation,
then don't penalize him because
now he's riding your wave so to speak.
If you started that train moving
that's a different story.
But when you notice that
even when you're trying to have
normal conversation this man
keeps interjecting sexual things
then yes, that's clearly telling you that
he is just interested in that.
And you've got to say, all right,
well, you know what, we don't do that here.
And that's a great way to kind of
check the situation.
Is to simply
don't just jump to being offended
when he does it, address it.
As I said in the very beginning,
you want to address these issues
before you just cut people off.
Because again, some men
don't know how to handle themselves properly.
I’m not giving that as a cop-out,
but that is a reality for some guys.
And I think that there are situations where
if you said to him listen,
you seem to always want to talk about sex.
If you are interested in me
and you're interested in anything serious,
we need to be able to talk about other things.
If he is genuine
then he'll respect that
and then you'll see a change
in his discussions
and what he wants to talk about.
If he's not he'll either dismiss it,
catch an attitude or next time you guys talk
he's still doing the same thing.
So again, his desire to
continue to talk about sexual things
or send you sexual things
is definitely a sign he just
wants to have sex with you.
Hey, thank you for watching this video
be sure to check this one out right here
and I'll see you there.
Listen, you deserve a man who loves you,
respects you and cherishes you.
Do not settle for less.
So, please understand if he does
any of the things I’m going to
mention this video,
it is time to let him go.