Hi, my name is Jim Kwik of Kwik Learning and I'm here to help you to learn quickly with
my Memory Kwik Tips.
Now there are three reasons why people forget things, and I call it M-O-M.
The first M stands for Motivation. What I mean by that is this. Let's say you have trouble
remembering someone's name, but there's a suitcase here of $100,000 cash for you or
your favorite charity if you can just remember the person's name. Are you going to remember
it? Of course you are.
The O is Observation. It's not your retention, it's your attention. A lot of times you're
out, you're meeting somebody for business but you find yourself looking over their shoulder
to see who else is in the room and you're distracted. People feel that, right? People
aren't forgetting their name. They're just not hearing the name to begin with.
And finally the other M in MOM stands for Mechanics. And I don't mean the person that's
going to fix your car. I mean the tools, the techniques, the strategies that we teach on.
How do we remember a name? How to learn a language. How to give a speech without notes.
How to read faster. But if you don't have the motivation or the observation, the mechanics
are not going to work.
Now let me give you seven mechanics, seven tips on how to remember the names of every
single person that you meet. I want you to remember this.
BE SUAVE. BE SUAVE, right? The next time you're at a networking event, you're at a conference
if you will and you're checking the mirror - you're checking your tie, you're checking
your make-up - I want you to say to yourself, "I'm going to be suave." The B stands for
Believe. Your mind is like a super computer and your self-talk is the program it will
run so if you tell yourself you're not good at remembering names, you will not remember
the name of the next person you meet because you program your super computer not to. Remember
your mind is always eavesdropping on your self-talk so keep it positive. So believe.
The E in BE SUAVE stands for Exercise. What I mean by that is practice because practice
makes progress. Not perfect, but progress.
The S in SUAVE stands for Say. You say the person's name. You meet someone for the first
time, they give their name and you call them by name.
The U in SUAVE stands for Use the name. You want to use the name. Now you want to use
it, you don't want to abuse it. You want to use it 3 or 4 times in the context of the
conversation and that will help you to remember.
The A in SUAVE stands for Ask. What's everyone's favorite subject? It happens to be, what?
Themselves. So if you meet somebody and their name is especially unusual, like a name you
haven't met before. You haven't heard it before. Then you ask about a person's name. What can
you ask? You can ask, how do you spell it? Where is it from? What does it mean?
The V stands for Visualize. Visualize. What do I mean by that? How many of you are much
better with faces than you are with names? Of course, you go to someone and say I remember
your face but I forgot your name. You never go to someone and say the opposite. You never
go to someone and say, hey I remember your name but I forgot your face. That wouldn't
make a lot of sense, right? The reason why you remember the face is this. It's because
that part of your brain is larger, your visual cortex and there's a Chinese proverb that goes:
What I hear I forget. I heard the name, I forgot the name. What I see I remember. I
saw the face, I remember the face. What I do, coming back to practice and exercise,
I understand. And so what you want to do is, if you tend to remember what you see, try
seeing what you want to remember. So if you meet someone named Mike, imagine for a split-second
that person's jumping on a table and singing karaoke on a microphone. And you're like that's
really childish, and that's the reason why it works. So if a person's name is Mark. Imagine
you're meeting them and in a split-second put a checkmark right on their forehead. You
don't share this with Mark of course. The person's name is David? Imagine a slingshot,
right? David and Goliath. The person's name is Carol? Imagine they're Christmas caroling.
Imagine someone named Mary, and they're holding two lambs underneath while getting married.
A person's name is John? You can imagine what you imagine.
Finally the E in SUAVE stands for End, meaning you end using their name at the end of the
conversation. You know, Hadley it was great to meet you. Martin, it's been a pleasure.
Anthony, have a great day. Because if you could walk into a room of 10, 15, 20 strangers
and leave saying goodbye to every single one of them by name. Then they're all going to
remember you. These are my Kwik Tips. I wish your days be full of lots of life, lots of
love, lots of laughter and always lots of learning. Be unforgettable.