- If you've ever looked at someone and thought,
"Wow, they're so lucky,
"look at that lucky person,"
have you ever stopped to wonder why that person is so lucky?
Lucky people have one thing in common.
So keep listening to find out
how you can make your luck
and get out of a rut.
So when you see people as lucky,
that's a fixed mindset.
You believe that something external has happened,
this luck's descended upon them,
and that they're lucky, they were bestowed
with all this lucky stuff,
but it's not going to happen to me.
And it's very important to understand
that you make your own luck.
A lot of what you think is luck
comes down to really hard work.
A lot of what looks so easy isn't easy.
One of my friends, who's head of a major television network,
said, "People who are talented make it look so easy,"
but it's really not like that at all.
There's a lot of work going on.
We all know the story when people,
someone said to Michael Jordan, "You are lucky."
He said, "Yeah, I know; the more I train, the luckier I become."
So people who are lucky, actually, what it is
is they have, what I call, the "bounce-back factor."
Like a big rubber ball,
they bounce-back, they come back. They get rejected,
they hear noes, they get turned down, things go wrong,
but they make a decision,
"Shall I let this destroy me, end me?
"Or shall I bounce-back and come back?"
So if you want to be lucky,
if you want to be perceived as lucky,
you must have the bounce-back factor.
You see, I could say, "I'm very lucky.
"I have a wonderful life, a wonderful husband,
"a divine daughter, an amazing career."
But I also have made my luck too.
I had to work hard,
but I did what I love,
so it never felt like hard work.
So let's think of some of the people that you think are lucky.
We might look at Tom Brady and go, "Well, he's lucky.
"Look at Tom Brady."
But Tom Brady has a very particular diet,
there's a lot of food he doesn't eat,
there's a lot of stuff he does.
He doesn't stay up all night drinking and partying,
because his mission is to be this lucky athlete.
Richard Gere was called an "overnight sensation"
when he was in An Officer and a Gentleman,
but it took him a while.
He had a lot of rejections too.
Many actors, many movie stars,
many people who are wealthy have struggled.
Richard Branson called his company Virgin
because he was so naive when he first started the company;
he was giving people refunds all the time.
A lot of people who have created something amazing
go, "Well, you know, it went wrong.
"I had lots of prototypes.
"It took me a long time, but here I am."
So how can you be lucky?
Well, first of all, understand that you make your luck.
If you have persistence,
if you have drive,
if you have determination, you will be lucky.
If you have the bounce-back factor, you'll be lucky.
If you have extraordinary self-belief,
you'll be lucky.
And these are habits you may not be born with,
although babies actually are born with drive.
They are born with phenomenal self-belief,
and they are determined.
Watch your baby trying to walk,
they don't go, "I just... You know,
"this walking... I keep falling over.
"What's the point?"
They keep going.
They try to get a banana in their mouth.
It goes in their ear, in their hair.
But eventually, they get it.
Because we are born with drive and determination
and a belief that we are worth it.
Sadly, that gets chipped away.
But if you were born with it,
you can get it back.
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Start to adopt those five attributes of luck,
and then stop using lucky language,
"Oh, I wish I could find the love of my life.
"I hope my career gets better.
"I dream of making money.
"I long for being in the arms of someone that loves me."
You see, wishy words,
what I call "wishy-washy,"
don't say, "I long," "I hope," "I dream," "I wish,"
because your mind goes, "Yeah, keep wishing.
"You're never going to make that happen."
Successful people don't talk about "wishing,"
"hoping," or "dreaming."
They go, "I am," "I can," "I will."
When someone said to Naomi Campbell,
"Naomi, you will not get onto the cover of Vogue.
"That door is shut to black girls."
She said, and I love this about her,
"Shut?
"The door's shut?
"I'll kick it open."
I love it.
That's determination.
That's persistence.
That's saying, "No, I don't do 'no.'
"I will not take no for an answer."
People who are lucky don't do "no."
They get rejected.
They get fired.
They get dumped.
But they have the big bounce-back, come-back factor.
And you can decide to have that too.
It's a decision.
So if you have wishes and goals and dreams,
write them down.
Write out what they are.
Write out why you want them.
Write out what you are willing to do
to achieve that goal.
You must be prepared to do a lot,
get up early,
go to bed late,
give it everything you've got.
So if you write it out
and then take action
and believe you are worth it,
those three things will make you lucky.
And you have to have all three.
You have to have the belief,
this is so important,
"I believe I'm worth it.
"I'm worthy of success.
"I'm worthy of love.
"I am worthy of wealth."
You must believe you're worth it.
And that's a belief that you can acquire and install.
And then you must be prepared to work hard.
That's so important.
The best goal, the best dream won't work if you don't.
You must be prepared to give it everything you've got,
and a little bit more too.
And then you must visualize it.
See it as if it's already happened.
Don't say, "Next year, I'll be wealthy.
"Next year, I'll find love.
"Next year, I going to have a beach ready body."
You have to say, "Now.
"I'm wealthy now.
"I'm successful and I'm fit now."
You go, "No, I'm not,"
it doesn't matter.
The mind works in the present tense.
It likes really exciting language.
Go, "I'm lucky."
Say, "I'm lucky.
"I'm lucky in love."
Find a song about being lucky, lucky, lucky, and sing it.
Make it your anthem.
But at the same time,
believe you're worth it,
visualize it all working,
and put in the hours,
because that is what lucky people do.
And that will make you lucky.
Imagine someone said, "Hey, I've got a lucky club.
"You want to be a member?"
"Sure."
"Well, here are the dues;
"to join the lucky club,
"we require three things of you,
"they're not money,
"you must believe you're worth it,
"you must visualize,
"you must put in the hours.
"If you do that, join our club."
That's how you join the lucky club.
Join it.
It's an amazing place to be.
So if you think, "Yeah, but I'm lacking motivation.
"I'm not lucky enough yet.
"And I'd love accountability,
"I'd like to have someone to account to
"as I build my confidence
"and pursue my dream life,"
then just follow the link
to my 21-Day Confidence Challenge,
and you'll become a super lucky person.
Not sometimes, all the time.
See you there.