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I just came across this really fascinating article
about Elon Musk and whether or not
his narcissism will actually be his downfall.
I'm Rebecca Zung and I've been recognized as
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Okay so let's talk about Elon Musk.
Now he's probably a narcissist I guess, I don't know,
but you know
I think a lot of these top CEOs, these visionary people,
these leaders are either narcissist themselves
or they have narcissistic traits
because to some extent you have to have that,
that sense of grand vision, that sense of grand purpose
and that's certainly something that narcissists have,
you know, Steve Jobs had some of those traits as well.
Some people say Jeff Bezos does as well
and Bill Gates and people like that
so you know, it's hard to know,
a lot of people do say that Elon Musk does exhibit,
you know traits of empathy
which certainly is not narcissistic.
But you know,
I would say that narcissism is definitely a continuum
and while I'm not a psychologist,
I kind of have my practical
or street version of my narcissistic degree
because I've had to deal with tons of them
and I've read lots and lots of books on narcissism
and I've really taken the time to study
and learn about this personality type
so that I can understand how to negotiate with them,
how I can,
so I can teach you the steps.
I mean, I've been talking about negotiation
for years and years and years,
I wrote a whole book on it,
Robert Shapiro wrote "The Forward,"
I've spoken on it forever
but it wasn't until I really started diving
into the idea of narcissism
that I really started to understand
what motivates narcissists
and how to actually get what you want from them.
So let's talk about Elon Musk though
and will his narcissism be his downfall?
So I came across this article
by a guy named professor Shilomo Ben Hur,
and Brian Bolt Bolton,
and it was really fascinating to me,
it was actually comparing Elon Musk to someone else
but I really still found the part about Elon Musk
to be really, really fascinating.
And what he says in the article is that Sigmund Freud
characterized narcissist as especially suited
to be leaders and uniquely able to give a fresh stimulus
to cultural development,
but they're also prone to damage
the established state of affairs.
So that's a quote that they put in the article
by Sigmund Freud.
And you know, in some ways narcissism,
and a certain amount of what we might call narcissism
or narcissistic traits might be good.
And if you wanna know more about that,
definitely check out my video on "Is Narcissism Good"
but it can also be their undoing
which you wanna check out my video on that as well.
I did a whole breakdown on the show,
"The Undoing" with Hugh Grant,
and it can definitely be their undoing as well,
but will it be the undoing of Elon Musk?
Will it be his downfall?
So let's talk about that a little bit more.
So, I mean, he's done a lot of really interesting things
and I mean, he was involved with the beginning of PayPal,
he certainly has shifted the whole automobile market.
Nobody ever thought that electric cars
would become as popular as they are and Tesla,
and now he's really pioneering everything for space sacks.
So it's hard to know for sure,
but I can definitely say
that there is a,
what we call a shadow side to narcissist
which is that they're distrustful,
they're emotionally isolated prone to bouts of rage
and they have grand visions for the future
but also sometimes they over blow
or overly hedge their bets on how important they are
and that can also become their undoing.
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And you know, so you've seen these situations with Elon Musk
where he's tweeted something that was like super crazy
or he's decided to do things
that were just absolutely out of the realm,
you know so,
remember when he, during the pandemic,
just decided he's letting all his workers go back to work
because that's what he wanted to do.
And he just kinda does what he wants to do
and then when California wouldn't comply
with what he wanted,
he just said "Okay, I'm out of here"
which is kind of how narcissists can be.
They can be a little bit impulsive sometimes,
prone to bouts of rage as I mentioned.
They can act sometimes like they're bigger
than whatever the situation is that they're in
including their own companies.
And they don't wanna have to be beholden
to any kind of boards of directors
or any kind of other executives or anything like that.
They don't want to be exposed,
they don't wanna have to be,
you know answering to anyone.
And so that can also end up being their undoing
and that's what happened with Steve Jobs
and if you recall, but he ended up getting you know
booted out of his own company, right?
And if you are so ready to powerfully negotiate
with narcissist,
give me a "let's do this" in the comments.
Okay so one of the things that's also really interesting
about some of these really powerful narcissists
who've kind of changed the world like Steve Jobs
and Elon Musk and Jeff Bezos
is that they have this sort of suspended, disbelief.
They distort reality, which is certainly on the DSM five,
it's one of the,
what I call narcissistic seven deadly sins
and you can definitely check out my video on that.
But distorting reality,
magical thinking is one of the things in, you know
that they consider,
a psychologist and psychiatrist consider
when they're looking to see if somebody should be diagnosed
with actually narcissistic personality disorder
which is a very small part of the population
compared to people who might just have narcissistic traits
or tendencies.
But you know, that can also work to a narcissist favor,
I mean, I remember stories about Steve Jobs
where he,
the people were saying,
"Oh let's do field testing for these iPhones,"
and he was like, I'm not gonna do field testing.
I'm not gonna,
I don't want them to tell me what they want,
I'm gonna tell them what they want.
I'm gonna show them what it is that they want,
which is, was like really crazy to think of,
I mean it was totally backward
from the way anybody else thought.
So in some ways they can get themselves to a certain level
but in many ways it can also become their downfall.
They will end up lying,
they will end up manipulating,
they will end up doing things that they,
you can catch them in.
And if you give them enough rope,
if you give them enough,
they will end up creating their own news
and hanging themselves,
and I see that all the time in negotiations.
And so when you are negotiating with them,
just be ready,
do your documentation,
check to see,
you know if you have any emails or texts
that show any inconsistencies.
That's how it becomes their downfall
because you can catch them.
And then when you can catch them,
you can start to build your summaries
and create enough leverage within your strategy
to be able to force that narcissist
to want to come to the table with you.
It's a way to ethically manipulate the manipulator, okay?
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