I don't I don't give up if people call me crazy like okay you're crazy to like
get over it like it's just girl bye look honestly I don't even want to make
these types of videos but I think after Trisha Paytas is recent video
dissociadid her tweet sums it up perfectly I know people are telling us
to ignore her or block her but this is our job we can see our community being
hurt we see people we love giving up we were supposed to protect you we promise
all of you a safe space we promise you to make a difference we have to stand up
to this this isn't about any one person or simple system not us not Trisha this
is about to fall out how hard it is to get a diagnosis on information on people
disbelieving dige this is about seeing you being hurt without remorse
and us saying no more and the reality is is that a lot of this isn't gonna stop
with Trisha Paytas until people in her life stop enabling her what's up
everybody this is Chris from the rewired soul where we talk about the problem but
focus on the solution and if you're new to my channel my channel is all about
mental health so I usually try to make videos trying to give people tips advice
on things they could do for their mental health things that work for me or things
that I learn about but yeah sometimes I talk about what's going on in the
community because stuff like this isn't cool when it comes to mental health
anyways if you're into that stuff make sure you subscribe and bring that
notification bell and I want to start this video off by saying like it's just
sad man this whole thing sad like when I saw this video get sent to me like I
seven and a half years ago I'll put it this way seven and a half years ago when
I got sober I had to do a fourth step some of you know what that is but it's
about your resentments and you start to see patterns with the things that
make you angry upset who you resent and something that was in me that is still
something that I stole with is that I get resentful for other people right
like I get upset for other people my Trisha Paytas does not offend me she
does not bother me but when it comes to mental health community and things that
she's doing like like dissociated said I can't just stand by and watch it happen
but like one of the reasons I feel bad I feel bad for the LGBTQ community right
like when that was going down when Trisha Paytas was claiming to be trans
and you know trying to emotionally manipulate everybody and cry and all
these other things like looking at it like I could have done more a lot of us
could have done more I know a lot of you did support the LGBTQ community when
that happened and I was supporting them from a distance well I like I am and how
I of the LGBTQ community but now I'm like man is this what it felt like is
this what it felt like because it feels like a complete mockery right and I feel
bad for the DI D community like watching Trisha Paytas video just now like I was
like sick to my stomach like I couldn't imagine like the the stuff that I you
know that I saw the with you know I'm in recovery from addiction I've struggled
with anxiety and depression traumatic childhood and like I can't imagine just
watching somebody just completely make a mockery of it but also which some some
of you get some of you don't and I respect your feelings but I also feel
bad for Trisha Paytas I feel really bad for her like clearly she's not doing
well and she needs help alright but like I said towards the end
of this video I'm gonna I'm gonna say some things that some of you might not
might not like or agree with but we're gonna talk a little bit about enabling
okay so I just want to show a couple clips from her video starting with this
one tyranny definitely came out last week last Friday when I made the
Instagram and the YouTube video to in én so listen like dissociate didset in
that tweet that I read in the intro this is a controversial diagnosis this is one
that people like disbelieve or think people are faking you know like as many
of you know I am very into the science and I was communicating with a lot of
you in the comments of a couple of my other videos and you know asking to
point me in the direction of some research so I could educate myself more
on this disorder right but one of the research studies that I read was talking
about the controversy around this mental illness and one of the reasons it's
controversial is this fear this fear that somebody will blame an alter for a
certain behavior and in that clip that I just showed you from Trisha Paytas
that's what she was doing right like imagine imagine faking dissociative
identity disorder then screaming at another influencer and cussing him out
Anthony Padilla right for a 15-second Instagram story and then blaming it on
an altar so like I empathize with dissociate did and the rest of the di D
community because you have somebody out here like Trisha Paytas like increasing
that stigma all right we need to talk about this so here's here's something
that bothers me alright so if you watched Anthony Padilla's video with
dissociated it'd and a few other people from this community like you know like
dissociate did like she had a switch like right there it is not this
convenient thing right and here's what we need to remember about Trisha Paytas
like she's been on the h3 podcast for over an hour increments right she
started her own podcast without issues but now we're supposed to believe that
all of a sudden when she decides that she wants to claim she has dissociative
identity disorder now it's happening now it's something that she can't control
you see what I mean again I explained this in my last video
like when we struggle with a lack of sense of self we get drawn towards
different different identities because we don't have one of our own right but
we need to understand and I keep saying this and I taught this to my clients all
the time in the rehab right our mental health is our responsibility it is not
an excuse for these types of behaviors
or anything where they can switch and not know who that person was whether you
see that or someone else don't listen to the internet the YouTube comments you
need to get help in order to deal with that and I know how to deal with mine
and I think diagnosed with traits of lots of things I saw this multiple times
so that that clip right there it really upset me so there's a few things that
really upset me about what what she just said so one of them is she claims that
she's getting help and she knows how to do it herself like no she doesn't
and like I hope you guys take things away from my videos for your own sake
like we don't like I've worked with thousands of drug addicts in my life
right there's so much of this stuff that we cannot do on our own we need help and
I mentioned this in another video Trisha Paytas like she was doing better when
she was actively going to therapy and talking about it and learning and
practicing these things and like although I don't know her and this is
completely speculation but it seems like she's not doing anything right but then
when she talks about trying to tell people I don't be afraid to talk about
your mental illness don't be afraid that's very true right but in this
context my fear is that somebody with such a large platform is encouraging
others to fake mental illness right and that is a major issue and that is
something that we all should care about influencers have power influencers
influence right although we like to think that we are just these end
thinkers and nobody sways us or anything like that like we will change our
thoughts and behaviors based on what we're watching based on what we're
consuming this happens when you are you know if you're growing up in a certain
household if you're in certain relationships but modeling behavior is
something that can happen when you watch specific influencers and the last thing
we need is for young people or vulnerable people to watch Trisha Paytas
as videos and think this type of behavior is okay so the last thing I
want to talk about is enabling like you know I might get some crap for this but
when I watched this stuff going down with Trisha Paytas it breaks my heart
that she has people in her life that just enable and cosign this stuff and I
want to make it clear it is none of their responsibilities to fix Trisha or
have her not do certain things they have no control over that but when I see like
especially with her podcast like every huge influencer she knows just flop to
it right to help support her because she does have good friends but enabling
somebody isn't a good friend like she had Shane Dawson on there she had violet
out him she had Jeffrey star Blair white I won't get into that but I
will say this I've had other influencers reached out to me and they're like I
meant Trisha before it she was really nice right and I feel that that and is
just my opinion I feel that that is a manipulation of other people you see
what I mean like she has this way of getting people to be on her side and
then just kind of look the other way when she does stuff like this but again
like it's not Shane Dawson's responsibility it's not Jeffrey Starr's
responsibility or anything like that but I'll tell you this if this was one
of my friends who was doing these types of things I would have to love him from
a distance all right I would have a talk with them and say what you are doing how
you're behaving is not okay and I love you but I cannot be around you until you
get help because I cannot condone what you are
doing why it was just last year when she offended
the trans community well the entire LGBTQ community and now the dissociative
identity disorder community as well as other people in the mental health
community and she just bounces from one to the next right is it trolling is it
for attention I don't know but the fact that people in her life are are not
speaking up and not distancing themselves and we don't know for sure
it's not like we see her hanging out with Shane Dawson or Jefferies star
every single day but we do know for a fact that they continue to hang out with
her even when she doesn't apologize or try to seek help and figure out why
she's doing this in the first place this is why I advocate so much for
therapy right so much for therapy like get your butt in therapy and find out
why you are doing the things that you're doing that's step one step two is
figuring out how to not do those things that you are doing all right like that
is the core of cognitive behavioral therapy there's the cognition part
working on changing your thoughts and challenging your thoughts right then
there's a behavioral part where you stop doing the bad behavior I don't I don't
dislike people I dislike behaviors and the great thing about that is you can't
change a person but you can get that person or hope that that person gets
help to change those behaviors and I'll end with this I am living proof if you
make me seven and a half years ago I was the biggest scumbag you would ever meet
and now I'm a good father to my son I'm a good boyfriend to my beautiful
girlfriend I'm a good son to my parents I'm a good friend to my friends I try to
be good to all of you right and if so if a piece of garbage like me can work on
myself there is no excuse why money like Trisha Paytas can't really
commit to therapy and and stop doing these toxic behaviors that are just just
really upsetting entire communities like it's just it's just brutal man hey
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