Today, we're going to be talking about
five ways to increase
your self-worth.
number one,
stop taking things personally.
Now, I know it's easier said than done
but taking things personally
is one of the greatest deteriorators of self-worth
because when we take things personally
we internalize the things that people say
and do to us or even
just what we come across
and we personalize it
rather than realizing
it's not always about us.
And when we learn how to not
to take things so personally,
how to not be so offended
by everything someone says,
you will find yourself being able
to stay on a more positive path,
how to keep your mind in a
healthier place, all right.
So, it's important to
guard yourself in that way and again,
not guard yourself as in have walls up,
just guard yourself up in the sense that,
I'm not going to let this negative energy
penetrate my spirit,
penetrate my mind.
Because then it can wreak havoc
within our body,
in our emotional state,
and cause all kinds of problems as well as,
as mentioned decreasing our self-worth.
So, even the people who have
done things to you in the past,
it's a symptom of hurt people
hurting people.
They did it because they're
caught up in their own emotions.
It's not really about you all right
or how they're even viewing you in that moment,
it's about the issues within them.
So, do not internalize it,
do not take things personally
learn how to shake it off.
Again, this will take some time to master
so, practice it, all right.
Practice choosing not to be offended
you can make that choice.
I hear things being said about
all kinds of, about men,
about black men, about whatever
I don't get offended you know what,
that's your problem, it ain't mine.
I'm not letting that
put me in a negative place.
That's how I want you to approach it
like, you know what, let those people talk
all the negativity they want
it has nothing to do with you.
Even when they want to attack you,
they're attacking you because they have issues.
Plain and simple, all right.
So, do not internalize,
do not internalize.
Now, number two,
start setting some goals
in your life, all right.
It is hard to have
great self-worth
when we don't feel like
we're doing anything
with our lives, when we don't feel like
we've accomplished anything.
However, being productive, all right,
reaching goals, accomplishing things
makes us feel better, period.
That's just the way it works.
And so, it would be very good
and healthy for you
to start setting some goals.
Now, they can be some longtime ones,
some short-term ones.
I think you should have a mixture of all
because you want to make sure
you give yourself small goals
to easily accomplish, all right.
But can create momentum
a momentum of progress
and productivity.
Then you want to have the kind of mid-level goals
and then you want to have
the bigger ones, all right.
And some of them might be, all right,
you got some weekly goals,
maybe some daily goals,
you got some goals for the next six months,
the goals for the year,
and you don't have to look
too, too far ahead.
I don't really believe in like saying,
okay, well I got to be here in five years
because so many twist and
turns can happen in our lives.
But at the very least,
I can shoot for things this year.
At the very least, I can focus on
what I need to accomplish this week.
And again, when you start to feel more
productive when you hitting your goals,
it's going to make you feel
better about yourself, all right.
As well as keep you in a more
positive mindset,
keep you productive
so that you are growing as an individual.
And in that growth,
you're going to gain even
more self-worth as well.
So, it just works very well
when you set goals in your life.
So, start identifying some things
and let's make that happen.
Number three,
learning how to be alone and happy.
Now, let me be very clear here.
I don't mean
you need to be alone forever,
I don't mean you need to be such a loner
that you don't want anyone around you.
I mean that you need to
get to a place
where you don't need other people
in order to generate
happiness in your life, all right.
That you even when you
are alone can still create
and be happy.
Can still be positive,
that you are not at the mercy
of having company,
you are not at the mercy of
having to be in a relationship
because those who are
afraid to be alone,
start to entertain and
tolerate individuals
who don't belong in their life.
They start to not have a
high level of self-worth
because they desperately want
to attach themselves to anyone
who can provide them with companionship.
And this is going to set you on a
path of more brokenness and damage.
So, again, the goal isn't
to be alone forever,
the goal isn't
to not want anybody around you ever,
the goal is simply
finding peace and happiness
when you are by yourself.
You may still desire a partner
and a relationship.
You may still have even more fun
when you can be around people
because some of us are just
more social than others,
that's perfectly fine
but you have to have
mastered your alone-ness,
your solitude in a way that
it doesn't drive you
to a negative place
and into dealing with the wrong people
and in the wrong situations.
That's the key and when we can do that
we will increase
our self-worth and we will value
not just the time
we give to others, all right.
The time that we
pour into ourselves as well,
so, it's important, it's very important
to learn how to be happy
while you are alone.
So, next on this list, number four
is start taking better care
of yourself health wise.
So, listen, I'm just going to run
through it really fast
because at the end of the day
when we feel better, all right.
When I say feel better,
when we start to take better care of ourselves
and we start to feel better
from a physical sense,
our mind starts to
be more positive.
We start to be more happy,
we start to be more productive.
When you're not taking care of yourself
you start to be more fatigued,
more stressed out,
you may get more anxiety,
so much can go wrong
because we are not giving our body
what it needs, all right.
And we're running it ragged,
we're letting life
run us into the ground.
You've got to take control of that
and take steps
towards greater health.
You need more sleep, all right.
You got to get some rest,
too many of you are operating off
four, five hours of sleep
and that's not enough for you.
You need time
to relax and recharge,
you need more hydration
drinking more water, all right.
The body is constituted or
is made up of mostly water
it's essential to our bodies
and when you start to drink enough
and more water and
quality water as well, all right,
because there is something to that
then that's going to play very well
in your mood, in your energy,
in your focus and so on.
You got to start to eat better, all right.
Now, I know we're not going to
all choose the same things.
I'm a plant based eater,
I highly believe in it.
I think you should consider it,
but I know everyone is not going to go that route.
Even if you don't want to
become plant based
just start making better choices
with the food you eat.
Start limiting
the processed foods, start limiting the sugar,
start limiting the dairy,
start limiting the things that don't
agree with your body.
And so, you can go get a food allergy test,
you know I'm saying.
You can go get a blood type test,
see what foods now
agree with your blood type,
what foods will your body react to negatively
so that you can start creating a diet
and when I say diet
more of a lifestyle of eating
that's going to be more
beneficial to you, all right.
So, be mindful of that
and of course, exercise as well.
Listen, we're not going to be
buffy and lifting weights in the gym,
but get some kind of activity
in your daily routine
or at least a few days out of the week.
You want to get the blood flowing,
you want to get things going
because again, when we start to feel good
internally, all right.
We start to feel good about who we are
emotionally and mentally.
We start to have a greater
level of self-worth
because we like what we see in the mirror
because we have a more positive outlook
because our minds are
not being contaminated
by the negative things that we have been
putting in our body previous to this video.
Because I'm going to believe that
you're going to make the changes
and you're going to start to see
the positive results.
So, start taking better care of yourself
if you want to increase your self-worth.
And last but not least,
number five is
you need to heal from your past.
A lot of people lack self-worth
because they're still holding on
to the damage from their past.
It goes into the internalizing
of what people have done to us
and how we've dwelled in it,
how maybe you've swept it under the rug
and you thought you were fine
but you're not, all right.
And how we're holding on to these
negative experiences
that have now shaped
the way that we view ourselves, all right.
And we have to let go,
we have to process these emotions,
we have to release
this negative energy from our spirit
so that now we can get back
to a healthier place.
You can't be trying to
pile a bunch of good things like,
okay, well, I'm going to now say affirmations
and I'm going to do these positive things
that I mentioned earlier in the video
which is great you should
but you can't overlook the healing part
because all you're doing is
piling good stuff on a messy foundation.
You got to get rid of the
garbage so to speak, all right.
You got to flush that out
and when you do,
you're going to be able to absorb
the positive things even more.
And you're going to be able to feel
better about yourself
and you are going to have a renewed sense of self
and a renewed sense of love
and life and just
all that awaits you in this world.
So, be sure
to heal and I feel the need
to say this right now.
For some of you,
your broken-ness stems from anger
or resentment you have towards God.
Some of you feel like
God lets you down, all right.
And in the book it explains how
God maybe someone you have to address
in order to heal.
But I want you to know that
God loves you.
God has always been there for you
but sometimes we don't understand
the method to the madness.
We don't understand the process
we are being taken through
but if we lean on God
and we trust Him
then know you will get
what is good for you.
Your life will become better than
you could have ever expected
and despite all that you've being through,
you are still blessed.
You still have so much to live for
and so much to look forward to
and I just felt my spirit just felt
the need to share that with you
but again, it just boils down to
you need to heal and when you heal,
you will be able to have
a greater level of self-worth.
Hey, thank you for watching this video.
Be sure to check this one out right here
and I'll see you there.
Listen, you deserve a man who loves you,
respects you, and cherishes you
do not settle for less.
So, please understand if he does
any of the things I'm going to
mention in this video
it is time to let him go.