- We often have an emotional emptiness
that we try to satisfy with food.
After all, here are these words,
"starved," "hungry," "empty," "full," "satisfied,"
and they are emotional words.
I could say, "You know, I'm starved of attention.
"I'm full of love.
"I'm hungry for success.
"I'm satisfied with my life.
"I'm empty since my children left home."
It's not what you're eating; it's what is eating you.
You don't need a diet to restrict what you eat;
you need to change how you think.
You see, our struggle with food,
our struggle with our health,
our struggle with our weight is all associated with eating,
and this actually isn't true.
The reason why we, almost always, resort to food,
"I'm going to have comfort food,"
I mean, what does that word even mean?
"I'm going to comfort myself with food," is because
we have something called an "emotional emptiness."
The stomach is the seat of all emotions.
Babies go, "I've got a tummy ache,"
when they can't really express their feelings.
So we feel a feeling in our stomach,
it's the seat of emotions;
we try to push it down or deal with it through food.
We often have an emotional emptiness
that we try to satisfy with food.
After all, here are these words,
"starved," "hungry," "empty," "full," "satisfied,"
and they are emotional words.
I could say, "You know, I'm starved of attention.
"I'm full of love.
"I'm hungry for success.
"I'm satisfied with my life.
"I'm empty since my children left home."
And, you see, if those words, "empty," "full," "nourished," "starved,"
people say, "I'm nourished by the love I get from my church,"
if they confuse you, of course, they confuse you.
And then we say things like, "Sugar," "Sweetheart,"
"This is my honey, my sweetie."
So we're always telling ourselves
that sweet stuff makes us happy.
And when we feel emotionally empty, emotionally starved,
when we feel emotionally unsatisfied,
our mind is so confused.
It reminds us to eat because, after all,
when you were a little baby
and you were lying in your crib crying,
and someone picked you up
and put something creamy and sweet
in your mouth, it solved everything.
You felt connected.
You felt loved.
So overeating is actually an act of regression.
No one says, "I'm having such a bad day, I need lettuce,
"I need carrots,
"I need celery."
People go, "Oh, I'm having such a bad day,
"I need something milky, creamy, macaroni
"cheese, toast and butter, ice cream, cake."
Because we're trying to reactivate
the feeling that worked when you were a baby.
It doesn't work when you're a grown-up.
When you get that, it's a game-changer.
From the time you came onto the planet,
you learned to get food and love all mixed up.
And you're still doing it. And yet,
you can't love your body with excess food.
For your body, being loaded with this sugar
and chemicals is a punishment.
In fact, your body doesn't crave candy or chips or hot dogs,
your body would never go, "Hey, I just want to be maxed out
"with chemicals and sugar and fat and preservatives."
That's not a physical craving,
it's actually a mental craving; the mind believing, "This
"is going to make me happy," when we all know bingeing on food,
especially junk food, makes us very unhappy.
The feeling of joy doesn't last very long at all.
So this distorted model of thinking, "Food
"is my comfort, food is my friend,
"food makes me happy,
"food gets rid of all of my worries just for a little while,"
this has led to catastrophic effects
within our relationship with food
and our relationship with our bodies.
And what we absolutely must change
is the way we see and treat food.
Food should be something we eat
when we're hungry that we enjoy.
Of course, it's bonding, it's connecting,
we have family dinners,
we go on dates.
That's all absolutely fine,
but it shouldn't be something
that leaves you feeling shameful, guilty,
blameful, remorseful, and out of control.
That should not happen.
You see, no animal overeats. Animals,
when they're hungry, they eat.
I have cats;
when they're hungry, they eat.
When they stop, they've had enough.
The only overweight animals are those you see in families
where we do the same thing,
"Oh, let me love my pet with food.
"Let me treat my pet with food.
"Let me comfort my pet with food."
So we need to go back to our original wiring
where we enjoyed food
and we stopped when we'd had enough,
we stopped when we were full.
And if we were sad, we felt sad,
but we didn't eat lots of donuts to get rid of that sadness.
And you can actually reactivate, regenerate, rewire
that feeling of eating when you're hungry,
seeing food as nourishment and not comfort.
You can get that back really easily using this program,
and you can get it back and keep it forever.
I had to do that myself.
I was completely out of control with food.
I could not resist chocolate or sugar,
and, actually, it was the bane of my life.
And now I look back and think, "Wow, what a shame,"
but I'm so glad I moved away from that.
It was easy, and that's how I know I can teach you
to do the very same thing.
It's about your long-term health, your immunity, everything.
So if you want to know how to fix the root problem,
the eating destructively, sabotaging your health,
if you want to fix that once and for all,
please sign up for my 21-Day Healthy Living Challenge.
It will change your life,
and you'll be so glad that you did.
Check out my next video here, and download
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Play the only part we've ever known,
and then you make that part your own.
Well, you go, "You know what?
"I think it's time for a new part."
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