Wow. Okay. What did I just say?
I had an inquiry about a guy who was on a date and the kissing part went really
well at the end of the date but there wasn't any chemistry during the conversation.
So can you build chemistry, whether physical or intellectual,
emotional, if the other part is missing. We're gonna talk about that in this video.
And here's the video.
What usually happens from all the happy couples that
I've interviewed that that have been together for ten years or longer, ninety percent of
the time the woman was not physically slash sexually attracted to the guy right away.
He - she thought he was maybe handsome, or whatever, but wasn't like jump your bones
hot for him; whereas the statistic is actually the reverse for men, ninety percent
of the time they did want to jump the girl's bones, which makes sense because
guys are hornier and more visually stimulated. So in most of these cases
what happened was they got to know each other over a period of time, and in most
of these cases that happened because there was no romantic pressure, so either
they were in the same like social group or they worked together or they were a
member of the same, you know, church or religious organization, or some other way
where they were in communication or contact often enough to be able to get
to know each other without having that physical, sexual, or romantic pressure, and
so it happened organically. But what happens when you know you're going on a
date, or you've met online, and you really want to build both sides with that
attraction but one side is missing, can you do it? You can but this is actually
where you might need to go into a bit of the friendzone to actually just test the
waters; so, for example, in this case the guy had sexual chemistry when he was
kissing her but there wasn't any really emotional or intellectual chemistry or
connection when they were just talking. So what they could do in that situation
is just kind of hang out, keep the sexual tension alive by keeping a little bit of
innuendo or naughtiness in there, otherwise you both end up just in the friend zone
and, that's fine if that's all where you want to bem but if you actually want to
try and make a relationship work you might have to scale back a bit and see
if you can develop the chemistry, intellectually or emotionally, and there
are actually some questions that you can ask - and I didn't even come up with these
questions but they're great questions - and I'll put a link below the video so
that you could start asking some of these questions on your dates because
they're a little bit more intimate and they'll help you reveal whether or not
there's ever going to be a chance of an emotional or intellectual connection
with the other person. Now what happens if you have an emotional and
intellectual connection, or at least you think you do, and the sexual chemistry is
just not there, can you change that. Well, again, this would require you to use a
little bit more of the strategies from getting out of the friend zone or
avoiding the friend-zone, and I've done other videos on that, but essentially
it's just about making sure that there's sexual tension when you're together and
that means you treat each other not like a friend. So you say things that are a
little bit naughty that you probably wouldn't say to your mom or your sister
or your grandmother, or even your best buddies that are guys, like you want to
kind of cross that line just a little bit within what is appropriate and
respectful for your relationship with the girl, and then see if you can spark
connection that way.
Thanks for watching, if you have any more questions just let me know in the comments.
I need more subscribers, I need your help with that.
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