Mark says he's been haunted by his girlfriend,
Laurie's, disappearance 26 years ago and has recurring
dreams about Laurie being alive.
But he recently discovered Laurie's mom has said goodbye
in her very own way.
He didn't know about that.
He wasn't part of that and he hasn't done anything
like that himself, take a look.
Just two ago, I found another video that Mary had done
and one of the snips in the video showed a tombstone
with Laurie's name on it and I kinda stopped
and looked at it and I was like,
"Wait, is that an actual tombstone?"
We decided that we needed a memorial to Laurie
to have some place to go to pay our respects.
To my knowledge, there was no celebration of life,
there was no closure, if you will, for her.
If there was, I wasn't invited, and that would be
specifically by Mary.
Mary, I still think to this day has some kinda
resentment towards me.
Laurie's mother might feel guilty because they didn't have
the relationship when Laurie was still here.
So, I think she deflected lot of her anger towards me
because she didn't know who else to put it on.
Well, joining me now is Coach Mike.
Mike Bayer, he's a life coach who is really loved
by his clients.
He's helped a laundry list of A list celebrities
get and keep their lives on track.
He's helped people from every walk of life.
He really focuses on helping his clients break free
of their destructive patterns.
Now, he also has written a book called
Best Self: Be You, Only Better.
Let me tell you, I consider this book to be a how to manual
to maximize your potential by discovering the best person
that you can be.
So, welcome Coach Mike Bayer.
(clapping)
You've been listening to everything
we've been talking about.
I have, and first off, Mary and Mark, I'm so sory
for the loss.
I know Mark, that you've been pretty stuck
in your life currently.
Yes.
And you talked about people waving their finger
at you at restaurants.
What I wanna do is I wanna wave my finger at you
26 years later and tell you you deserve to live
the life you want, OK?
(clapping)
Let's talk about that for a minute because I said stress
and stress does take its toll.
It's taken its toll on you, right?
Oh, definitely.
And you, stress, one thing we know is it compromises
your autoimmune system and you've had,
you've had it all.
A rare bacteria from dogs where your
feet, ankles and hands have turned black.
You've lost skin on your hands and fingernails.
You were diagnosed with a brain tumor in 2011.
You've had severe mood swings.
You had pulmonary heart disease, asthma,
severe PTSD, your house has burned down.
I mean, it's kinda like this all is taking its toll on you
as well and it's kinda shown up in
a lot of the things you say to yourself.
You say, "I've been cheated on.
"I had to file bankruptcy.
"I'm not good enough to hold onto my wife.
"Nobody even cared enough about me to take me
"to the hospital.
"No one had ever told me about this brain tumor
"that was caught on an MRI from 2005.
"I was having severe mood swings.
"It caused me to lose friends.
"I have so many aches and pains now,
"I just can't handle leaving the house at times.
"I see 10 or 11 doctors.
"I'm taking 14 medications.
"I've lost everything in a house fire."
What do you think about that?
I think in life coaching, we look at it as
your thoughts and your behaviors,
we need to change both of those.