How do you know when a girl wants to sleep with you?
It's not so much one thing, but a series of actions that happen that lets you know that
she's interested in sleeping with you.
Here's how this works.
There's a little thing called compliance.
Compliance is when a girl complies with your requests.
When you're meeting a girl out and about or maybe you're on a first date, what you're
going to be doing is you're going to be getting her to comply to your requests.
It's your job as the man to push the interaction forward to the point where you guys are in
bed and having a good time.
So you're gonna have to move to that part with little bits of compliance.
I go over this in my Hooked program, telling you all the little steps that you need to
take to get it to the point where you guys are having sex or even in a relationship.
It all starts with the first thing, you going over and approaching.
This is your first bit of compliance.
Is she willing to talk to you?
Is she willing to engage with you.
Is she willing to have this conversation with you then move it forward?
What I always say to guys (again I talk about this in my Hooked program a little bit more)
is when you are going over and you're in conversation with her, let's say during the day, another
example is at night at a bar, in a social event, you want to take it to the next step.
Which means if it's during the day, ask her to go on an instant date with you.
Ask her to go get some coffee with you after you guys have been talking and engaging for
about 15 minutes.
You asking her is getting compliance or requesting that she does something with you, her saying
yes, gives compliance and then you guys take that next step forward.
If it's at night, maybe you guys aren't going to leave the bar after 15 minutes and go somewhere,
but maybe you'll ask you to come to the bar with you to grab a drink, maybe you'll ask
her to come outside with you because it's loud.
Maybe you're just wanting to moving in a different area of the bar for whatever reason.
You want to go say hi to a friend, you're bringing her with you.
Whatever it is, you are requesting that she does something.
And every time she says yes, she's complying to your requests.
What does this have to do with you in the situation where you're finally in bed with
a girl?
The sign that she's interested in sleeping with you is very simple.
She is saying yes to all of these requests.
If she keeps saying yes, that means that she's one step closer to being in the bedroom with
you.
That means that she's starting to get invested in you.
When I say invested, I mean that the more time a girl spends with you and the more she's
being compliant to your requests, the more she's invested, the more she's interested,
the more that she's attracted and the higher chances of you guys end up sleeping together
and taking it to the next level.
I want to be very clear here.
Of course even if you get these signs, even if you're getting compliance, it doesn't necessarily
mean that she's going to sleep with you.
But obviously common sense, if she keeps saying yes, yes, let's go on an instant date.
Yes, here's my number.
Yes, let's go back to your place.
If she keeps saying yes, then the chances are that she's interested.
But of course, eventually it always comes down to the last bit of compliance, which
is consent.
Meaning you're going to have to ask consent for you two to end up sleeping together.
I'd say that's probably the biggest number one sign, the fact that she says yes.
But if you want to know if you're on the right track, if you're doing the right thing, if
she's interested, if she's invested, then all these little steps, all these little actions
up to that point is giving you a sign that yes, she's interested.
I want to be very clear on why I'm making this video.
Because a lot of guys, they don't really understand that whole journey, the whole journey of compliance,
the whole journey of leading the interaction.
In my Hooked program, I go over one of the biggest principles of attraction and that's
dominance.
Being dominant, leading the interaction, moving the interaction forward to the bedroom, to
you guys in a relationship, even you two getting married one day.
This is the guy's job to lead this part.
It's the masculine trait that's very attractive to the feminine.
You leading is getting her attracted and the whole thing of you guys moving forward is
getting to the point where you guys are moving the interaction out of the friend-zone and
into you guys being in a more consensual sexual relationship or a monogamous relationship.
Whatever it is that you are looking for.
The problem is most guys forget to lead.
They're waiting for the woman to lead.
They're waiting for the woman to lead mainly because one, they're not very well versed
in all this and that's okay.
I wasn't either.
Lots of guys don't know exactly what to do but now you do.
But also the second reason (and I know the real secret behind why guys are not as dominant
and are afraid to lead) and that's because they're afraid of rejection.
They're afraid that if they keep on trying to move the interaction forward, that eventually
one of those places of getting compliance, they're going to get rejected.
And of course, no one likes to get rejected.
We don't like to feel rejected so therefore we stay in our shell, we don't move the interaction
forward we don't act on dominance, we don't lead the interaction because we don't want
to get to that point.
Here's the reality of it (with exceptions of course) it's extremely rare that a woman
is going to do all this work for you.
Yes, this is how it is in society that the man leads and the woman follows in terms of
what I'm speaking about in this video.
But the reason why this is, is because (I'm not gonna repeat myself, but I will a little
bit) what I said before everything in terms of the man being the leader, which is a masculine
trait.
You have to understand the reality of this situation.
If you don't lead, if you don't move it forward, if you don't get to that point, if you don't
ask consent to have sex, if you don't get to the point where you're asking for the relationship
down the line, 9 times out of 10, it's probably not going to happen.
I will say maybe the exception is with the relationship part.
In a lot of cases women do ask for the relationship.
But everything up into that point, it's usually not happening because the woman is being led
by you.
If you're not having a lot of experience with women and with dominance and with leading
then you have to understand this is what you're going to need to tap into now.
You're going to have to tap into this mindset.
In order for her to sleep with you, to be with you, you need to get compliance all these
steps of the way.
Your job.
Another thing you have to understand is it's not ever going to be about what she's says,
it's going to be about her actions.
The only exception and a very important one, is the point in which you guys are about to
have sex.
I'll explain all this right now.
Basically her actions speak louder than words.
Her agreeing to go on the date, her showing up to the date, her accepting your physical
advance to a kiss.
All this stuff, her accepting it is her saying yes.
The only exception (by god this is very important or else I'll get slammed for not saying this
but it is very true) is with sex.
You do need to get the yes.
Yhat needs to be verbal.
You have to understand that part needs to be verbal.
My whole point here though, is that her actions towards her saying yes, being with you, showing
up, having a good time, wanting to see you again and again, this is interest.
Her showing interest until the point where you get to sex and she says yes.
But even at that point, understand that that's still an action.
Her ending up having sex with you after consent is her showing that she's interested.
But none of this was ever going to happen unless you were going to do it.
If you don't believe me, test it out.
Try getting into some sort of interaction with a woman and just hoping for the best
and seeing what happens and seeing if she'll lead it.
It's not gonna happen.
So rare.
The woman has to be really obsessed with you and really like you.
And even to get to that point, you're gonna have to sift through a lot of women for that
to happen because you're not going to connect with every single girl that you meet.
Look at her actions.
Look at what she is doing in terms of you guys moving the interaction forward.
That's really important there.
I'll tell you a quick story.
This is actually kind of funny.
This is years ago, maybe 10 years ago.
I remember, I was on a date with a girl and it was going really well.
And I said hey, let's come back to my place.
And she said yeah sure sounds good.
And then I made a joke, I looked at her in the eyes and I said you're coming over but
you and I are not having sex tonight.
And I said that with a smile.
And she took it very seriously even though I was just teasing and having fun and making
a joke.
And she goes no, of course.
I didn't assume that, I didn't think we were going to do that.
She kind of got defensive saying no, I'm not doing that, I'm not a slut, I'm not easy to
give it up.
But then what happened?
We ended up going back to my place and within an hour, we were having sex, consensual of
course.
The whole idea behind the story is it's the actions that are showing it.
Even though in that moment, she's like no, of course we're not, still we ended up back
in my place and things changed because we were together and emotions were flying and
running high.
And eventually we ended up having sex.
Again, I have to say with consent.
But you have to hear me out here.
A woman, she wants to have sex with you, but she needs a few things.
A to be led.
This is what we're talking about here.
You're in control, you're in charge and B to feel safe.
If a woman doesn't feel safe... and by the way, it's interesting because being led is
part of safety.
The act of you leading and her being led makes her feel safe.
But also she needs to feel safe with you, safe with you emotionally, feeling not judged,
feeling like she can do anything she wants and she's going to be comfortable.
She has to feel comfortable saying no to you or saying yes to you.
Either way, she needs to feel that you are not going to judge her for anything.
And also you asking for consent is huge because that's gonna make her feel safe.
It makes her feel like she has the choice, which some women unfortunately don't feel
like they have.
They feel forced into it and they feel like they have to do something.
That is gonna be the worst sex of your life.
I'm telling you right now, if you're with a girl and she feels forced or she feels she
has to or she feels obligated in any way, it is going to be night and day compared to
when she really wants to.
When she's really excited to and when she's saying yes to you.
Just keep that in mind.
We're not here to trick anyone into liking you.
Let's actually get them invested, let's get them to comply because they want to.
Let's really make it so it's supernatural.
That is gonna be the best for both parties obviously.
Most guys are trying to get to this point where they feel that a woman is attracted
to them, where they feel that a woman is invested in them, where they can do the acts of compliance
and requesting and leading and being dominant.
All this is explained in my program called Hooked that you can check out at www.getherhooked.com.
That's in the description down below, click on that link.
You're going to learn all about how to get access to that program.
That program is going to teach you everything you need to do to get her invested, to get
her interested in who you are as a person.
We teach you in the program in this video course how to bring out the parts of your
personality that are attractive to a woman.
We're really bringing out the natural part of you and I know it sounds complicated.
It sounds like it could be a lot of work but really it's not.
It really just follows my very simple TED formula that's fully explained in the about
8 to 10 hour course.
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Check that out.
I'm sure I'll see you in the comments down below.
I'll talk to you on the next video.