- How did you meet your new fiance?
- Online, on J-Date.
- Yeah!
- I'm a modern girl.
- I'm a Gemini.
- Virgo, the eternal virgin.
- I'm a cancer.
- My sign is Virgo.
- Between a Capricorn and an Aquarius.
- How long have you guys been playing Maj together?
- We started 40 years ago.
- Who's the card shark among the-?
- Her, probably.
- You've got some moves, Lola?
- I love cards, I really do.
I'll play any card game, I love it.
- Amazing.
And is everybody here married?
- Well, no, my husband died but I
have a fiance.
- Can you show us your ring please?
- Oh yes, get that on camera.
- Make sure to get this beauty, what is this Barb?
- It's a blue topaz.
- Fabulous.
How long were you with Harry, your husband?
- Well we were married 57 years.
And he's been gone two years already.
- Do you miss him?
- Yes, of course, every day.
And when you have a new boyfriend, it's
not easy not to compare.
You know, Harry wouldn't have done that and
Harry would've done this and that's hard.
- How do you stop yourself from doing that?
That sounds really hard.
- I keep it in my head silently because
you can't be saying these things.
- Yeah, and how did you meet your new fiance?
- Online, on J-Date.
- Yeah!
- I'm a modern girl.
He also had been married 53 years.
- Was he your first online date?
- Yeah.
- I'm gonna walk into the ocean,
I am so mad.
I've gone on like 5,000 online dates.
- That's so unusual for that to work out.
That's fantastic.
- What did you guys think of the new beau?
- Very nice.
- He treats Barbara nice and that's
what the most important thing is.
- Very, very fortunate to have met.
- If she's happy, we're happy.
- But I don't really want to get married again.
- You don't want to get married again, why not?
- I think it's just too complicated, you know?
He has kids, I have kids.
He has money, I have money.
Be a legal thing to take care of all that.
So, I could go on this way.
- Have you guys heard of open relationships?
Have you heard of this?
- Yes.
- Did you know that's becoming more and more popular?
- Is it?
- No, I thought it's over with.
- So, when you go online and you're swiping
and dating, a lot of people will say,
I'm in an open relationship,
so they're looking for, like, a side girlfriend.
- Oh my gosh.
- What do you guys think about that?
- I wouldn't like that.
- Married people are these?
- Married, live together-
- I don't even understand the concept.
- I don't either.
- I could never do it, I would be extremely jealous.
- I would be too.
- Seriously, you can get diseases from it.
- Well, I had someone tell me if you
haven't tried it you don't know
that- that was years and years ago.
I says I don't wanna know and I'm not gonna try it.
- There's a lot of talk right now about like
old school dating habits and I was wondering,
in your opinions, who should pay on dates now?
- I think it should be both if you're dating.
- Explain.
- Like Barbara.
Barbara started to date with this gentleman and
she would tell me that she would buy a dinner
and then he would buy this and I think you
should take turns if it goes on.
- What about when your husband's in school
and you're working?
Well, that's what happened to me.
I paid a lot.
- So, in the late 40s when you and your husband were dating
sometimes you paid for dates and it didn't offend you?
- Not at all, it didn't offend him either.
- I had more money than him so if I wanted to
see him, I paid for dinner because I knew
that he didn't have the money and I did.
I don't mean I had a lot of money.
- It didn't bother you, did it?
- Oh it didn't bother me at all.
- It was absolutely not an issue for us.
- It was an issue for us because, as a matter of fact,
while Hal was courting me, he never took me out to eat.
And so there was no 'who's gonna pay', he didn't
take me out to eat.
After we got engaged and we were promised, you know,
I asked him about it- I said, how come you never fed me?
What was going on here?
And he said, well, I didn't know if I was
gonna marry you or not.
If he wasn't gonna marry me, he wasn't gonna feed me.
- Well, that's an unusual thing.
- That's very unusual, yeah.
- I thought it was pretty rotten myself.
- Yeah.
- Because my dad always told me when I was growing up
if a guy does not offer to pay on dates,
he's not interested.
- Maybe he was discussing his personal feelings.
Knowing your dad...
- What's the thinking today though?
- I think it really depends, like, the thing is,
to me it's not about the money, it's about the gesture.
And I sort of feel like it's totally different
if you're a couple but if I'm just meeting a guy
and he's just taking me out and he just wants to split-
that happened to me recently, a guy asked me out,
we went on a date and the bill came and he did nothing.
- You had to pay for the whole thing?
- Well, I was like, do you want to split it?
He was like, sure, and I was like-
- You know the first date and he invites you out,
that's kind of cheap.
- What if you invited him out?
- Well that was my second question,
is do you think women should ask guys out on dates?
- In today's world, I would if I wanted.
- So you guys think asking a guy out
now is totally fair game?
- It's hard to say, it's hard to say.
- In our days, we just didn't do that.
- No.
- Barbara's case, I don't know- do you ask him out,
does he ask you out, I don't know.
- Yeah, how did it go Barbara?
Who started the conversation first?
Who said, hi, how are you?
Who started the very first thing?
- I'm sure I did.
- So Barbara made the first move.
- Because I was determined to try to meet someone.
I didn't like being alone and I wanted to try.
And so he asked me out for dinner and-
- And he took you out.
- And he paid, did he pay?
- Oh yes, yeah.
- If he didn't pay, what would've happened?
- But he's pretty old-fashioned like I am.
If he didn't pay, oh that would've been an out, finished.
- First date, last date I think.
- First date, last date.
- My kids ask the same thing, they say, how did you know?
How did you know he was the one?
I said, blind luck.