- Welcome to another video
where a millennial talks about TikTok.
I'm just gonna put it out there;
I really don't know anything about TikTok.
It fascinates me, I don't really use the app that much.
When I have logged in, I end up going down a rabbit hole
and I don't like it.
It's not that I don't enjoy the content that I find,
I just hate that feeling of clicking into an app
to do one thing and then an hour later
you're like what just happened?
I really hate that feeling,
so I know that TikTok will do that for me
so I'm avoiding it as much as possible.
But I do occasionally see some TikToks
that have been re-shared on Instagram or Twitter
and so I enjoy what is coming out of TikTok
and I feel like I'm getting a curated version
on other social media platforms.
Also, I don't use the app enough for the For You page
to actually accurately reflect what it is
that I would want to see on there.
I feel like you have to use the app a lot
for the For You page to start really being for you.
All of that being said, you're allowed to "okay boomer" me.
I was born in 1992.
(awkward laughing)
I am a sex educator and I have seen
that there are some people making sex ed content on TikTok,
so this excites me and I thought I would do a video
reacting to some of these sex education TikToks.
So I went into TikTok to see if I could find
any of these videos by searching for terms, however,
TikTok doesn't like sex so when I searched "sex education"
or "sex positive" it was just like nope, no results.
So I went to my trusty friend Twitter
and asked on there for your recommendations
for sex ed TikTokers, or just TikTokers in general
who talk about topics around sex and sexuality and gender
and, ooh, I'm so excited to dive into these.
Make sure to Subscribe
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when I post a new video.
And so, let's get into the TikToks.
You really are a boomer when you start putting "the"
in front of everything isn't it?
The TikTok, let's go on the TikTok.
Mamadocter, or Gynae Doctor is one that has come up a lot,
'cause she's also on YouTube isn't she?
Right, let's have a look at some of her videos.
- Girl, don't do it, it's not worth it.
I'm not gonna do it girl,
I'm just thinking about it, I'm not gonna do it.
I did it. (laughing)
- Is this just gonna be a video of me laughing?
(laughing)
Right, come on mamajones, give us some sex education.
It's really difficult to tell from the giffy thumbnails
of TikToks what actually the content is going to be
but I'm gonna try my best.
Okay, so we're exploring mamadoctorjones.
Birth control.
- Ooh, what?
Oh ya.
Mm, mm, mm, mm, mm, mm.
- Yep, they all. - Don't make no sense.
Mm, mm, mm, mm, mm, oh damn.
- There we go.
(laughing)
Thank you mamadoctorjones for confirming
that hormonal and non-hormonal birth control
both have benefits, both have risks
and it's entirely your choice, speak to you doctor.
(upbeat playful music)
- Ah, I just watched the miscarriage one,
which was like your miscarriage was not your fault,
and I feel like it's just really nice to play that on loop.
This mamadoctorjones, she is good at the TikTok.
Follow.
Okay, I see one about sperm, what's this?
(laughing)
♪ So why you gotta be like that ♪
(laughing)
This is great, yeah,
the copper IUD just out there killing sperm.
(laughing)
It's funny and it's educational.
Okay, who else we got recommended on Twitter?
Someone has suggested @thequeerkiwi,
and just from looking at her hair I'm like wow.
Okay, so let's pick, I don't know, this one.
She's got the rainbow eyeshadow going on in this one.
- Just a reminder that your sexual history
has nothing to do with anyone other than you
and the people that you have slept with.
And the people that you have slept with
need to know nothing about your sexual history
other than what happens between the two of you.
No further explanation required,
it doesn't matter what gender,
it doesn't matter how many people,
it doesn't matter what you get up to,
it doesn't matter what you're into,
it doesn't matter, none of that shit matters,
it affects no-one other than you
and if someone demands you answer,
or starts slut shaming you, or is bi-phobic
or whatever the fuck; fuck 'em.
- There we go, you heard it here.
I agree.
The only thing that I would add
is that if you are someone's sexual partner,
I completely agree, we should not be shaming people
or be nosying around into people's sexual histories
or judging people for how many people they've slept with,
or they haven't slept with,
the only thing I would add though
is that if you are someone's sexual partner,
a good conversation to have together
is about your STI status
and the last time that you got checked.
And so, obviously, that may potentially bring up
the conversation of past partners and things like that
but that is an important conversation to be having
with the people that you sleep with.
Let's watch some more of hers,
let's see if we can find another sex eddy one.
- This is what the patriarchy looks like.
- Ooh, what does it look like? - Men.
Women. - Okay.
- Now, a lot of men seem to think
that when women try to build ourselves up
and say we want more rights,
they think that instead of doing this,
we're doing this.
They seem to think we're taking rights away from men
so that they're gonna be down at our level,
when in fact, what we're trying to do
is gain rights so we're up at your level.
You see how you stay here?
You don't lose anything by women gaining things.
Other people's success is not your failure, all right?
Let us move up.
By you yelling at us for wanting to be the same as you
really shows your oppressive nature
and the fact that you don't think we deserve
everything that you have.
So, do you wanna keep it to yourself?
You aren't losing anything by us gaining something.
- I like this girl, she's very passionate, I'm into it.
I do think, though, that as we get better
at making the world a fairer place for all genders,
for all races, and trying to bridge a lot
of those inequality gaps,
I think whilst doing that she's right in general
but there will be a few individual men
who potentially don't get the opportunities
that they would have because women will get them instead,
but I don't think that's a bad thing,
but in general her point stands,
which is that we do all benefit
from marginalised groups gaining equality.
I've just noticed that the queer kiwi's header
at the top of her TikTok page just says "eat the rich",
which I approve of.
Okay, people have suggested Pixie_pie_x,
okay, let's find them.
Ooh, I see one that says squirting, let's click on that.
Poly, Bi, 18 plus, ooh KinkTok, I love that, KinkTok.
Okay, squirting, let's learn.
- So you may have seen the video I uploaded about this,
and a lot of you in the comments were saying
how it took you by surprise,
how you didn't think you could do it
and how so many of you haven't yet.
All of these experiences are valid and normal and okay.
Let's talk a little bit more about it,
there may have to be more than one video on this,
I only have 60 seconds.
So, also known as,
as far as I know is possible for all biosex females,
however, the length at which it takes to achieve this
can be a little bit different for everyone.
Not only do the triggers vary from person to person
to make it occur, but so do the volume produced
and the velocity at which it's produced.
As with most studies on women's pleasure
there is a huge lack of research.
- Yes. - And most of it's
done by men. - Yep.
- So I would suggest looking into it
but your own experience is gonna be far more important.
I will try to make some more content on this,
just remember, all experiences are valid.
Be safe.
- I have a question.
Was she not saying female ejaculation and squirting out loud
because it will trigger something in TikTok
to take the video down?
I don't know.
Okay, let's watch one that's about kink.
- [Male] Now repeat back what I just said.
- [Groot] I am Groot.
- [Male] No, no that's the button that will kill everyone.
Try again.
- [Groot] I am Groot.
- [Male] Mm-hmm.
- [Groot] I am Groot.
- [Male] Ah-ha.
- [Groot] I am Groot.
- [Male] No!
(laughing)
- I literally just watched Guardians of the Galaxy as well
so I enjoyed that one.
And, I think it was in the BDSM quiz that I took
that I first learnt the word "bratty"
to mean if you're a Sub and you're like disobeying your Dom.
Love that.
Okay, so a few people have suggested Repairman
for more kink stuff.
We're just gonna click and see if we find one about kink.
Maybe they're all about kink.
- So let's talk about some red flags
in a BDSM relationship. - Ding, ding, ding.
- When starting off a brand new BDSM relationship
for a second.
Number one, communication is going to be key
when it comes to this.
Number two, realise that just 'cause you found a Dom,
or you just found a Sub does not mean that you two
will mix at all.
Different play styles,
different strokes for different folks.
You might find out you guys aren't compatible
in the very least bit.
Now, let's also talk about what it's like
to find a new Dom and some safe ways to do that.
Number one, you need to make sure that this new Dom
communicates with you.
What are your hard limits?
What are your soft limits?
What are you down to play with?
How do you guys communicate safe words
and what do they do for aftercare?
These are all very important things
to think of in a new Dom. - I love this.
- Now, for Doms when vetting a new Sub,
you need to find out do your guy's play styles
match at all?
What are they actually down for,
and if you hear these words, run.
I am down for anything.
- Oh. - Are you sure,
or are you just inexperienced and you think you are?
I have no pain tolerance.
Mm, that's some bullshit.
So be safe, watch out for red flags
and that's on ding.
(laughing)
- Oh, I like this person.
I adore that on this app,
that is predominantly aimed at much younger people,
there is this whole kink, BDSM community there.
I adore that.
Also, I'd be interested to know that
if you are in that community,
if you watch a lot of that content,
or if you make any of it,
what are the rules on TikTok for making 18 plus
or sex related content?
I'm curious to know.
Okay, this person; Jezza.
Okay, I see one that says me before coming out,
so let's go for that.
I feel like there's lots of these that are educational
and then others that are just
people just expressing themselves
and talking about their personal experiences
and I love it.
- I am not gay.
Just kidding, I'm a little bit of a gay.
I'm a little bit gay,
I'm a little bit sexually attracted to women.
(laughing)
- Love it.
How many little gays on TikTok
have used that sound and made videos out of?
Ruby Lagoon has been suggested,
let's go for that.
- Let's talk about something super important,
which is Coronavirus,
specifically contraception during quarantine,
because I am a sex educator after all.
This advice is pretty general.
First of all, GPs are taking consultations
in the form of video or voice call
and prescriptions can be picked up at your local pharmacy,
or posted to you.
People with implants and IUDs are being advised
that they can keep those in for longer.
- True. - Because the risk
of pregnancy is still super low.
If you're worried, however,
you can still call your GP
and they'll give you a supplemental pill.
- Yes.
- GPs and sexual health clinics are still treating people
with serious side effects from contraception use
such as pelvic pain.
If you're in the UK,
you can get the morning after pill
prescribed by a pharmacist,
you can also still ring your GP if you're elsewhere.
- Yep. - To see if they'll
prescribe it to you.
If you're in the UK and have a C-card,
meaning that you can go and access
free condom pick-up points,
some of those are still open,
just ring beforehand, before you go.
In the US a lot of Planned Parenthoods remain open
so you access contraception and treatment there.
- That was super useful.
Look how much information that they can jam pack
into like a minute on this platform,
whereas it takes me like 20 minutes to make a point.
I loved that and, yes, if you do have an IUD or an IUS,
either of the coils, or an implant,
you can keep them in for longer,
like if you're due to have it replaced or removed.
Call your GP if you have any questions.
Okay, so Dr. Jennifer Lincoln is another Ob/Gyn from the US.
Are there any doctors, medical professionals from the UK
out there on TikTok?
Please let me know.
I love followed gynaegeek on Instagram,
she is great.
Okay, but what should we look at?
Ooh, UTI or yeast infection?
Let's find out.
♪ Five, four, three, two, one, let's go ♪
♪ Level up, level up, level up, level up, level up ♪
- Oh my God, there's so much information here.
♪ Level up, level up, level up ♪
♪ All this on me, so yummy ♪
♪ All this oh so yummy ♪
♪ You know you want this yummy ♪
- Okay, I'm gonna have to pause this,
I may be missing one of the symptoms,
but UTI, burning with peeing, urge to pee a lot,
urine has a strong odour, cloudy urine,
belly/back pain possibly.
Yeast infection; burning with peeing,
vulva itching, swelling, redness,
thick white clumpy discharge.
But then she goes on to say that don't self diagnose
because sometimes you can be wrong.
But also sometimes a UTI can lead to a yeast infection
so you could get wham bam both of them.
Okay, so what else have we got from Dr. Jennifer?
Ooh, if you're having quarantine sex.
♪ Don't show up ♪
- Don't forget the birth control.
♪ Don't start caring about me ♪
- Corona baby in nine months.
♪ Walk away ♪
- That's true, STIs don't believe in social distancing.
♪ Don't start caring ♪
- Love that.
I just love that all of this information is on TikTok.
Ooh, can lesbians get STIs?
♪ Ooh, I should have been there, I missed you ♪
- Yes.
Condoms on toys,
clean your toys.
Dental dams.
Get tested.
Oh, I love these, they're so simple,
and so effective.
Okay, so during this video I think I may have persuaded
myself to actually spend more time on TikTok.
But you can't persuade me to start making videos on TikTok
because I literally have no idea where to start with them,
it's not my forte, please don't make me do it.
I'll just be a lurker on TikTok.
I hope that you enjoyed this video,
thank you to my followers on Twitter
who introduced me to these accounts,
you guys are legends.
Let me know in the comments
any other sex educators on TikTok,
or sex positive, queer, kinky content,
I would love to have some more accounts to follow
and maybe my For You page will actually be
curated to what I'm interested in.
If I do want it to be curated to what I'm interested in,
maybe also like Harry Potter and books and,
what else are my interests?
But mostly the sex ed stuff.
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