Lauren Mayberry's the singer from churches are which is a band that
actually became very popular through social media and through the internet
out recently she took a screen grab a comment
that someone had center and it was from one of her male admirers and he said
something along the lines of how he would like to make superior love with
her
and so she is no stranger to receiving
a bunch of comments from from people who
want to assault her who want to rape her and they're very clear about that
we look as a woman who works in media online
I get that kinda stuff all the time people saying hideous things like I one
and a sit on my face
when I'm doing a story on something that has nothing to do with sitting on
people's faces
so you most notorious don't have to do
exactly so it's not it's not uncommon to get those kinda comments but she kinda
took it upon herself to take a screen grab look back I wrote her and she put
on her Facebook page
and she was basically ranting about it like I don't think that I shouldn't have
to deal with this type loved objectification
on a daily basis and as some people were supportive the messages she was trying
to send
and other people %uh basically wanted to tear her apart and tear down
so some of the negative comments that she got as a response to that
post was included this isn't rape culture
you don't recall sure when I'm raping you bitch okay
I I think you're proving a point another person wrote I have your address and
I'll come around to your house and give you a no and you will love it you talked
lol yeah I don't think that rape is really associate with lol
I'm so I have two totally different
points on those two comments right
so number one when she still so I'll make superior love to you
get beyond get beyond okay at let me jump in
really quickly up I think that she posted the wrong thing to make her point
yeah has given the aggressive nature of some other comments where people do say
things like I'm gonna come to your house and I'm gonna rape you tonight
if you have posted something like that that's one thing but he
we're desensitized reduce sensitized to someone who posts I wanna make superior
love to
yet almost sounds nice yeah I know within the context then and now
well you might say it's a rule it's not the right thing to do at cetera et
cetera
but we can regulate that's madness and up you know unfortunately I mean
just sad day rate I mean you if you're
in media these days now you're online is no way around it
and if you're online there are trolls welcome
welcome to the Internet right and that's the downside is wonderful
up sites the internet that's one that size is gonna live with a BS in people's
and it sucks and I feel insensitive saying that but it's a reality
if you get hurt over every comment on the a in online you just can't be
immediate
rate but because they'll drive you away on the other hand
those services I'm come to your house that's my other point then I go
completely
in opposite direction I say the police should investigate for K
now it's not to say that they should go over there and arrest the guy like we've
done the stories I've
guys were joking on the internet and then they get arrested in the next year
they're in jail for six was Sarah
but hey cops come and knock on your door and say hey what's up
we've got we plan to go to somebody's house as couple questions
make sure he wasn't actually planning to go to the house and also let him know
hates cuz you're on the internet doesn't mean
you can threaten people's lives rightfully
and so there's a boundary now I think their boundaries really really far
right and I think sad day for everybody in the media use can live with that
huge vast area where they give you saw you in every way possible
and tell you all the terrible things that they're gonna do to you but there
is a boundary where you say
where you're doing an actual threat like I'm gonna come and do
axe any include a specifically house that I say all right
I mean you don't have room unity that it's not like laws don't apply anymore
somebody go find out if they meet under exactly yep definitely I'm so many other
comments included act like a slut
getting treated like a slut obviously that was misspelled are
it's just like the it's just one of those things you'll need to learn to
deal with
if you're easily offended then maybe the music industry isn't for you
so I mean that's kinda similar to the point you were making Janek
I'm and and not the slow one no about it
yeah but I mean it is can we at least agree that this is something that's
unique to
what women in online media have to face
because you get you negative comments write your negative comments usually
have to do with either your reporting
or if they're trying to make low blows it's about your weight right
but no one's ever saying like I can't wait to find where James lives so I can
rape him so there's a there's a certain challenge that women have to deal with
online that guys don't have to deal with and that's not to say that you know your
job is in this challenging is my job is or anything like that
but their I don't know what it is about our society that makes people think that
it's OK
to talk to to women that way online
you know it's it's like anything goes when it comes to a woman if she's even a
little attractive
wealth and she's a dirty slut she deserves for me to tell her
the she should be treated this way and obviously they get off on that but look
icky just cuz you online doesn't mean you should lose your humanity
so realize that these are actual human beings yes
should do woman from church might be the media business and other people might be
the media business but that doesn't mean
that you have to go out your way to see terrible terrible things to them
they have to accept that happens sometimes doesn't mean you should do it