What I wanna do now is I wanna tell you
how they do what they do so you understand
how they get to you.
I told you who they are, baiters,
not I wanna tell you how they do what they do
and it's what I call the evil eight.
The evil eight.
These are the characteristics that these people have
that make them so dangerous.
Again, the evil eight are things that were present
consistently among all the people that I found
in my life that had qualified as baiters
and I got in a lot of trouble over this actually
because I wasn't planning on doing this.
I had a flip chart back in my office at home
and I was writing on it then I'd tear a sheet off
and tape it up on the wall,
tear another sheet off, tape it up on the wall.
Robin came back there and found out
I'd taped all this stuff up on the wall (laughing)
she was not real happy
'cause when I pull that tape off the wall
sometimes it took the finish with it
so I got in trouble with that.
She actually got into the project
and was really really very helpful
and added a few people of her own
and these are the things that were consistently there.
Evil eight number one, arrogant entitlement.
These people have an arrogant entitlement about them.
They actually believe they are entitled to what they do.
They think they are entitled at what they think
and when you catch them, they are not remorseful.
They are arrogant about it.
They think they are entitled to what is yours.
If you have worked hard, if you have gained something,
if they take your job from you by cheating
and going around you to the boss or whatever,
they think they are entitled to do that
and if they've cheated to do it,
they just think that's just the rules of the game.
The rules of the game are there are no rules.
Survival of the fittest, I got your job,
I got your money, you should have been more alert.
It's not my fault that you didn't watch me.
It's not fault you didn't catch me.
I'm entitled to this.
You should have been smarter,
you should have caught me sooner.
Listen, that's their attitude.
Number two, they have a complete lack of empathy.
When they do it, they don't have the ability
to stand in your shoes and recognize
what impact this has on your life.
Now this is different from number three
which is no remorse or guilt because
they have no remorse or guilt.
The lack of empathy is they can't tell you
what they're actions have done to you.
That's different from not being sorry.
They can't tell you what it did to you.
They don't realize when I cheated you out of this money,
I stole this money or took your job
or cheated with your spouse,
you took me in and I raped your daughter.
You gave me a place to live
and I seduced your 14 year old daughter.
They have no empathy for you.
They don't have the ability to say,
oh my god, I opened my home to this person
and they seduced and had sex with my daughter
so now I feel like I have failed as a father
because my job is to protect my children
and I failed to protect my children.
In fact, I brought evil into the home
and so now I feel terrible,
I feel a failure as a father.
They don't have the ability to put themselves
in your shoes and recognize what that's done
to your self worth and your self esteem.
And number three, they have no guilt or remorse
for putting you in that position
which is different from understanding the position.
They have no guilt or remorse
for putting you in the position they don't understand.
How can they feel sorry for something they don't understand?
They have no remorse or guilt so this is how
it makes them hard to detect
because people that have guilt or remorse,
they'll start to show changes in their behavior.
They'll start to show uneasiness or depression
or an inability to look you in the eye
or they'll start to withdrawal.
Number four, they are irresponsible
and self destructive.
I've had secret service on presidential detail
tell me before that if somebody is willing
to give their own life to assassinate
the president of the United States,
there's no way you can stop them.
Number five, they thrive on drama.
These people like turmoil, chaos, upheaval, drama
so they're happy to create big scenes at work,
big scenes in the family,
big fights among relatives.
They thrive on this.
It makes them feel important that they're able
to get a reaction out of somebody on the other side.
They thrive on this, they need this.
It's what fuels them.
It moves their needle.
So you would think that most people would
not wanna be in that kind of a pressure cooker.
Not these people.
No, they thrive on this.
They want this upheaval.
They want to have a big scene where you find out
they're sleeping with your wife or your husband
or they find out, you find out that they'd
gone behind your back at work.
They thrive on that drama because they like to be
the center of attention and they think if they're
the target here and there's all this flap about them,
they love that, they need it, they want it.
Number six, they brag about outsmarting people.
They will actually come to you
and con you into letting them move in with you.
Give them a place to stay
and actually let you become part of
your family owned business and then brag to you
about how they outsmarted and conned the last person
they were in business with.
I kid you not.
They will not have any empathy,
they don't have the ability to put themselves
in your shoes so they will get into your business
and talk to you about how they destroyed
the last person they were in business with.
Now you would think, how dumb is that?
Well, it may be dumb to you but they are so narcissistic
that they think this is a quality
and they cannot help but crow about it,
strut about it, pat themselves on the back about it.
It never occurs to them, wait a minute,
I'm telling my current target
what I did to my last target
and that if you say something to them about it,
oh, I would never do that to you.
I mean, this guy, he was so dumb he was asking for it.
Number seven, if you look at their history,
you're gonna see a lot of short term relationships.
They never stick.
You're gonna find they worked here for a little while,
there for a little while, there for a little while,
they were in this relationship, then this relationship,
then this one, then this one.
There's always an excuse, there's always a reason.
They're always the victim but for whatever reason,
they never have a sustained relationship.
They hop from one job to another,
one relationship to another,
one family member to another, one dwelling to another.
Everything is short term because they either
get found out or they pick them clean
and move onto a new target.
And number eight, they live in a fantasy world.
They are delusional and if you go to the trouble
to start checking who they say they are,
what they say they've done,
what they say they've accomplished and how they did it,
you will find out it is a house of cards.
There was just recently a story
that's in the headlines right now.
It was just recently found out,
it's in the headlines right now about this heiress.
She pretended to be an heiress and supposedly conned
inn keepers and bankers in New York
out of hundreds of thousands of millions of dollars
and you think, how in the world could that happen?
Because she was a baiter and the I in baiter is imposter
and when somebody started looking past the facade
and ask even the most basic questions
required even the most fundamental documentation,
she didn't have enough to fill up a gum wrapper
and she was within days of getting a $60,000,000 loan.
They live in a fantasy world and they are delusional
and they actually start to believe like a method actor
the story they're telling.
They start talking about being royalty,
they start thinking they're royalty.
They start expecting people to believe it
because they're so narcissistic
and when it's all over,
people are so red faced because you say,
well, did you ever ask the question?
Did you ever?
Somebody came in here and it's kind of like
the movie Catch Me If You Can where he was a doctor
and a lawyer and all, airline pilot and people say,
did you ever ask to see a transcript?
Did you ever call the university?
Did you ever look for a pilot's license?
Well, no.
Why?
Well, he had on a uniform.
You know you can get those down at
the corner uniform shop, right?
Oh yeah.
We take people at face value.
That's a big mistake.
I was raised to give people the benefit of the doubt
'cause I was raised to deal with this world
as it should work, not as it does work
and I think approaching life where you give people
the benefit of the doubt is a higher form of insanity.
Why would you do that?
You shouldn't decide they're evil
until they prove they aren't
nor should you decide that they're good people
until they prove they aren't.
What you should do is go in with an open mind
in data collection mode
and just start gathering information
until you reach critical mass
and you have enough information
to make an informed decision.