so here's just one more reason to get sober have you guys heard that country music song called
drunk me by Mitchell Tenpenny i hope I'm saying his name right anyways the other day i was in my
kitchen cooking dinner and a lot of times when i do that i like to tell alexa to play country music
and so i'm just in there cooking i'm listening to music and this song comes on
the drunk me song by mitchell tenpenny and i'm listening and i'm just enjoying myself
and then i start really listening to the words and there's such
a great message in that song and that's what we're going to cover in this video
for those of you who are new here welcome to put the shovel down this youtube channel is to
help you understand the science and psychology of addiction so that you can stay five steps ahead of
it and get your life and your loved ones back on track okay so back to the song so the song
is talking about a breakup and he's talking about i got sober and what he's saying is he gets sober
because drunk me can't get over you let me tell you there couldn't be truer words than that one
of the things that addiction can do in alcohol particularly it'll keep you stuck in all the past
hurts and bad memories and negative things that have ever happened to you in fact if you want
to ensure that you don't get over past traumas breakups heart breaks all that stuff then make
sure you keep drinking or using to deal with it because to see what happens is is you can't grieve
the feelings come up you pour substances on the top and it shoves them back down the feelings come
up you poor substances on the top and you shove them back down you just don't get over those past
bad things that have happened to you now drinking in particular is terrible for this because not
only can you not grieve it and get over it because you're pouring a substance on the top but drinking
helps you to relive those bad things that have happened to you it brings those memories forward
you play it over and over and over in your head and it keeps it fresh and alive so you don't
have any healing from it not only that every time you play it over and over in your head it's
likely getting worse the story gets worse and worse and worse the more you think about it
so psychologically you're keeping yourself stuck biologically the chemicals are keeping yourself
stuck and the other thing that goes on here is that when you are an active addiction you almost
can't let go of past hurts and traumas and bad things have happened to you because you really
on some level maybe even a subconscious level need to hang on to those as a reason to continue
to use the substances so it's like the substances keep you stuck keep you from getting over things
and you keep yourself from getting over things as an excuse to continue to make bad choices i know
that that can come across as a little bit harsh i don't want to minimize or downplay any bad things
that have happened to people because i know some horrible horrible things have happened to people
and a lot of that is what precedes having a substance abuse problem but the main point
i'm trying to get across here is that using drugs and alcohol will keep you stuck it will absolutely
prevent you from getting over things when people come into my office and they're telling me about
something bad that happened to them 20 years ago and they've been drinking over it or using over it
it's like it just happened yesterday it's just so fresh you can tell they haven't had any healing
process that's happened you know in reality the absolute worst time to drink or use any
kind of substances is when you're going through something hard because it's during that time
when you're using the substances that you're most likely to develop a problem with those substances
because you start using the substance to medicate the problem and eventually you do that long enough
and you get dependent on the substance and now you have addiction so just remember what
mitchell tim penny says drunk me can't get over you one more really good reason to get sober