Why there's so many more single women and men is because I think the volume
is just too low. I think that well first of all there's been stats that women only
swipe right on like 4% of guys on apps. Are you flipping me off? I'm just kidding. I think that
the volume is too low and women are not going on enough dates so they're being very very selective
pre-date. I haven't been asked. I was just gonna say that. Are you all asking at least? It's
literally do you want to come over to my house? It's never been do you want to grab a drink? Do
you want to get a coffee? Do you want to go on a walk? Like even free things I have not been
asked that since two years of actively dating. Okay so I'm surprised to hear this. I get it.
Why not go online when you can meet tons of guys there if you're not getting approached in real
life. I was on dating apps for forever until like the past three or four years and I just
haven't I don't know just I have gone out a lot of dates from them but I just never found
what I was looking for or it was for me it was either someone who was way too serious like
the next day they'd like ask him to be their girlfriend or it was people who were f boys
basically so I couldn't find a good inbetween. How many dates were you going on per week?
I guess it wasn't that often maybe like I'd say a couple a month like three to four months maybe.
That's low that's kind of what I'm saying here. That's like your typical woman. That
was for a short period of time. But don't you think that's the problem? If a guy told me that
too I'd say the same thing. I'm not gonna just go out with anyone who like. I'm not just gonna
go out with every guy that like favorites me. I'm gonna only go out with the people that I like can
relate to what their profile says. But it didn't work so maybe you should. Maybe you should open
it up more and give it a chance. But if they have things I'm like let's say I get
on a dating app and they have things on their profile that I don't relate to or they're into
rock music which I don't like why would I entertain that when I feel like it's not
gonna work from the jump? So you think that if you meet a guy and he has all these great
qualities but uh oh he likes rock music. Okay, that was a bad example. That was a bad example.
I am speaking to what you're saying to me. Okay that was a poor example but. That's what she said
though. It was an example. Well don't say shitty examples. Okay my bad. Don't take it seriously.
Ask her for a better example. I'm taking your word. It was one of my good friends. What was
different? Can you explain that one to us because that's trending. Wait what do you mean? A guy
that's conservative versus liberal or something. So she would like when she was vetting them like
let's say she because she was heavy on apps so she would go on an app she would match with someone
and that's literally one of the first questions she'd ask, are you liberal or whatever and if
they said the wrong one she would just like never mind I'm not interested. What was she looking for
conservative or liberal? Do you remember? I don't remember. I'd be curious. I think that's a legit
that is a solid legit non-negotiable to have. I feel like if you're really into politics.
For me I could care less. If that's your
whole life then yeah. So what I teach guys is to have 3 non-negotiables so 3 things that are really
important to you. Give us an example. If you have more than that every single non-negotiable and
thing that you're looking for right this long list shrinks the pool. Yeah it's like buying a
house you might not get the infinity pool but at least you have a nice kitchen like pick one or
the other. I agree which is why you should have 3 non-negotiables that's what I teach guys at
least. I don't coach women. Do you teach them what the non-negotiables should be?
Not specifically but I help them pick them. What are examples of ones you've heard. Politics could
be a good one whether or not they want kids is a good one. That's a good one. Um what else uh
I once had oh physically fit is one. Religious beliefs. Religious beliefs is another one really
like big ones. Yeah those don't really that's normal. But if those fall into. If you're gonna
raise a kid together you're going to want to have like. I feel like if you put that in
the standards category then that's just upping my standards because I feel like those should
just be like obvious things. I don't think men even vet women. I would say they probably. They
you're right they should do it more. I think they all go for looks first and that's pretty much it
and any man who has ever successfully vetted a woman probably doesn't even exist. I will say,
and we're almost out of time here, that men should vet more and women should vet less.