- [Interviewer] What's the biggest
racial stereotype your partner embodies?
- She has wide hips
and, like, a big butt.
- Oh, my big booty (laughs).
I guess that is a stereotype.
I have a really big butt.
- [Interviewer] Do you like a big butt?
- Me? (laughs)
Of course. (laughs)
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- My name's Nate.
- I'm Anisia.
- My name's Brandon.
- I'm Liza.
- [Interviewer] What are you doing here today?
- I'm here to talk
about my interracial relationship.
- [Interviewer] Do you have a racial preference
when dating?
- No.
- No, I don't.
- No, but I definitely have
only really dated white people.
- I've mixed and mingle
in my community (laughs).
I don't like the way that sounded.
(laughs)
- [Interviewer] Do you have racial preferences
when dating?
- No.
- She has a preference, a hundred percent.
She prefers white girls
or Hispanic girls. (laughs)
- It would look like it does,
but I don't.
- [Interviewer] Have you had
a racial preference when dating?
- No. (laughs)
- [Interviewer] What about your partner?
- Yeah, black women.
- My dating preference is black, for sure.
- [Interviewer] Is this the first time
you've dated a black woman?
- No.
I ain't new to this (laughs). (Interviewer laughs)
- [Interviewer] What were your parents' first impression
of your partner?
- To this day we're not good with my mom.
I don't think she ever had
a good reaction to her.
- Yeah, I don't know why.
I tried really hard,
I was like really nice,
I know how Korean moms can be.
So I was like really trying
but just, yeah.
She really did not like me.
- And my dad has like finally accepted it
and like, has started
treating her like family now,
which is great turnaround.
But god damn, it took a lot of hurt.
- [Interviewer] What were your parents' first impression
of your partner?
- They weren't surprised,
I was that person in the family.
like, they tell me
to my face, like, you're gonna end up
with a white boy.
- Their first impression was
you're with a white boy?
Not knowing that I'm half white, half Samoan
and all that.
- I was embarrassed about introducing someone
of like a different ethnicity
into my family
into like our world.
- [Interviewer] How did your partner's parents
feel about you?
- Not super pumped
about me being white. (laughs)
- My mom was happy
that I had a girlfriend. (laughs)
She was excited.
- Her mom likes me a lot.
- They really loved her.
They're like, if you leave her,
we're keeping her.
- [Interviewer] Whose family's more racist?
- I don't feel like it's my family.
- Has to be mine, I guess.
- Oh, Brandon's.
- (laughs) It's my damn family.
- Hers.
I mean her dad
and like that side of the family,
they have a lot of bias.
- [Interviewer] What do you think your said?
- She probably said mine.
- I love her mom with all my heart.
She gave me these Christmas ornaments once
and they were black.
And she was like, here, look,
they look like you.
And I was like, Leslie. (laughs)
- [Interviewer] What's the most racist thing
you've ever done?
- Oh God.
- The most racist thing I have...
- I have to say that publicly,
I've said some like stereotypical things
to my partner
that have been very hurtful.
- I feel like people of color,
we have talk in our home.
You know?
We say some pretty (laughs)
controversial things.
- In like middle school,
thought that saying the N-word
was like, cool.
- [Interviewer] With an A at end
or an ER?
- With an A at the end,
not with an ER.
Oh, never with an ER.
Oh my God. (laughs)
But no, I,
that was just like
how everybody around me spoke,
and so I just thought
that it was okay to say that.
And it wasn't until I kind of grew up
and talked to people that weren't white,
that I found out
that it was not okay
and stopped that immediately.
- [Interviewer] How has race played a role
in your relationship?
- Well, there's a lot of unlearning
I had to do.
Koreans are actually anti-black as fuck.
Being a son of Korean immigrants,
definitely I felt insecure
cuz of the way my parents
were like treating our relationship.
- Being brandon being Korean
we were just in the Korean community a lot,
and I just got a lot of stares.
I don't know.
This is not, it's not nice
to like feel that, you know?
- So there's times where like
older, black women will look at her
and be like,
why are you with this white being?
Cuz that's what a lot
of people just would see me as sometimes.
- I got a cousin who's very hotep.
I think I've blocked her
on Instagram at this point.
- She saw a picture of him
and I on his Instagram,
and felt the need to comment
how upsetting it was for her
to see.
- When it comes to this issue,
we don't see eye to eye,
and it is what it is.
- I had this girl harassing me
because I'm black.
I ended up having
to get a restraining order against her.
- This girl threatened to lynch her.
She actually showed up
to our house on multiple occasions
and like tried to break into our home.
- [Interviewer] How did you know this person?
- She just always on social media,
and ended up really worrying my wife's parents.
cuz they never dealt
with something like that.
- [Interviewer] What's the biggest
racial stereotype you embody?
- I make noises when I eat.
- [Interviewer] Asian people are loud
when they eat?
- Like they don't have manners.
- Like there's this thing where like
after Korean people eat
they make like sounds.
He'll be like (exhales).
That's what I love about him though.
He's so extra .
- Liza was telling me when I was going
to visit her family.
Like make sure you like,
keep it quiet when you eat.
Cause it is not respectful to be loud
(mumbles) like smacking and stuff.
- Stereotypes about Ethiopians
is definitely big foreheads,
receding hair lines,
and I happen to fit both
of those descriptions.
- Mark has a little large forehead,
but that's cuz he's bald.(laughs)
- [Interviewer] And what's the biggest racial stereotype
your partner embodies?
- She has wide hips
and like a big butt.
- Oh my big booty. (laughs)
I guess that is a stereotype.
I have a really big butt.
- [Interviewer] Do you like a big butt?
- Me?
Oh. (laughs)
Of course.
- She's a rapper. (laughs)
- She does some weird shit sometimes, but.
Sometimes I'm like damn, white people.
Like her grandmother she used
to make pillows with dog hair.
That's weird, right?
(laughs) That's so.
- [Interviewer] What can your partner say,
that you can't?
- The N-word.
- Oh, the N-word
- I can say nigga.
I can't, he can't say that.
- It's funny when white people say it,
like when you're like say it, (laughs)
and they do
and you're like, whoa bro.
- She keeps pressuring me
to say it
and I'm not gonna say it,
but she keeps pushing for it.
She's like, it's fine.
Like if I can say it, I give you the pass.
Like it's fine.
I I'm not going for it,
I have not taken the bait yet.
- [Interviewer] How does the world respond
to you as a couple?
- I think everybody's with it,
everybody's for it.
I don't think we get that much negativity.
- I think we're surprising
to most people.
- I think people see us
and they're really confused.
Like, y'all together?
Tell me, how often do you see
couples that look like us?
Exactly. (laughs)
Exactly.
It does not.
You don't see it.
But then like when they get to know us
you know, they're like,
oh it makes sense.
- People are usually like happy
to like see us together.
Like we went down to Louisiana,
and people were all like giving us smiles
and stuff.
I, I don't know if it's
more so like, people being more accepting
or us just not giving a shit as much,
but it's gotten a lot easier
as time has gone on.
- We get stares sometimes.
I mean, I've had like black people be like,
you shouldn't be dating a white person
like that's outside of your race.
And I'm like, I'm gonna date who I want,
like I'm a gay woman.
It doesn't really matter, your skin color.