When They Live in Your Head Rent Free! Stick around to the end, as I'll explain signs a
person or people are in fact living in your head rent free! Welcome to The SCG Show! This video is
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What does it mean to have someone live in your head rent free? Well it's a popular slang phrase
referring to somebody being constantly on your mind, dictating your thoughts, beliefs, actions
I'm embarrassed to admit it I've been very guilty of this... not to mention I've also walked
away from people or cut them out of my life and still they've lived in my head rent free... it's sad
but very true. That basically means I've wasted precious moments of my life my time and energy
fixating on the wrong people.... you'll never be good enough for the wrong person! Please don't forget
that! Now are you guilty of this? Do they live in your head rent free? When I say "they" who exactly
am I referring to here? For me personally here are some examples of those who have lived in my head
rent free in difficult times and different times of my adult life = Ex-girlfriends, former friends, ex
colleagues, ex-bosses, the odd acquaintance, people I've only met once and even family members. One
way or another something was said or done to me, I took it personally, it hurt me and I never quite
got over it. I'd reply it in my mind or wonder what to say, how to act next time etc, and they'd
live in my head rent free. Fortunately I'm working hard on rectifying this, as it brings absolutely
nothing good or worthwhile or positive to my life thinking this way or acting this way as well.
Now you are not alone, as many people go through this, and again it could be almost about anyone and
everyone as well! There is a time where people or a group of people will live in your head rent free
but it's also very important to rectify this through therapy and other means
Here are signs they are living in your head rent free!
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The first clear and transparent sign they're living in your head
rent-free is you're overthinking everything about these people!
It's taken over your brain waves, your mind is obsessed, addicted and consumed to this
person.... you feel anger, rage, disappointment, pain, anxiety and suffering as a result!
Let's dive a little bit deeper now into the overthinking of what it might look like =
An inability to think about anything else. Ccan you not even spare a moment to think about what
to eat for dinner, what to watch on TV, how about what to wear or when to go to the gym?
If you're not able to think of anything else, they're most likely living in your head rent free
Unable to relax = are you feeling restless, stressed, agitated? Do you find it difficult
to switch off and do nothing? How are your sleeping patterns right
now? Being too on edge is because you are too focused on this other person...
Are you utterly drained, physically and mentally? You have no energy at all... the simple things
exhaust you. Mental exhaustion could be the result of overthinking AKA living in your head rent free
Replying a scenario in your mind - is a particular unpleasant experience on repeat in your head?
How about something that happened in the past? How about even hypothetical scenarios?
Is it possible you're the director of the world's most awful story in your mind...starring the person
who lives in your head rent free and yourself? Stop! Seriously stop! Overthinking and catastrophizing is
a very easy thing to do, that can snowball and take effect on other areas of our lives as well
in a very negative way! Stop that overthinking right now, because it's destroying your life!
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A very clear sign they're living in your head rent free is no matter what, you'd always
talk about the people living in your head and maybe an incident or a scenario involving them.
Melissa went through a really ugly divorce to her husband, who was not a good match. They
were married for around 12 years, she walked away eventually and has been divorced ever since and
she's never seen him or spoken to him and wants no association. For seven years they've been separated
Melissa was too hurt, bitter and disappointed the marriage failed... yet no matter where she is, who
she's talking to, whatever the subject they discuss, it will always circle back to her ex-husband and
how terrible he was... how hard done by she was... how bad the marriage was etc. She refuses to move on,
refuses to let go, refuses to date etc. She's a very stubborn and difficult person set in
her ways who would rather fixate on somebody who's been out of her life for seven years!
And as for her ex-husband, he married again, lives a happy life, never even discusses his ex. "I wish her
well" he says "but she doesn't even cross my mind." Funny that! Are you guilty of what Melissa does?
Constantly talking about a person who's no longer in your life or the person who lives in your head
rent-free? Stop! Again you need to stop this! It could really intensify the more you discuss them
and that you carry on and on in a way that you think is actually helping you... it really isn't!
Change the subject... out of sight... out of mind like her ex-husband. Don't Waste Your Precious
Breath on the wrong person ever! Especially if they're living in your head rent free!
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Let's talk about your behavior = I've been guilty of the following too and I'm sure plenty others have
as well. Have you avoided places because of certain people? Avoided doing certain things? Have you made
things more uncomfortable for yourself? Do you find yourself treading carefully of where you go, what
you do, what you say? George and his girlfriend of several years broke up because there was
no future for them together! They were different, with different wants and needs, and it was the
right decision. George's ex lived in his head rent free for many years... no matter what he did, what he
said was all about his ex! When he was offered a job to progress in his career he said "no I'm still
thinking about my ex, I can't think about work right now!" When he was offered a chance to date and
meet a new woman he declined, "I'm still thinking about my ex. I can't think about dating right now."
When he was offered the chance to move abroad and start a new life he said "no
I'm still thinking about my ex. I can't think about living abroad right now!"
His actions were his inaction, he did nothing, changed nothing... literally chose nothing
He was happy plodding along aimlessly and miserably, whilst his ex who rapidly moved
on to another man lived in his head lived in his head rent free! Stop! For goodness sake please stop!
If you're literally taking no action to improve your life, career, health etc
because someone is living in your head rent free well that's a very sad way to live. Take
action...move forward... you are the only person who can save yourself... be self-aware and take personal
responsibility, improve your behavior, question your actions, why are you doing what you're doing... why
are you saying... what you're doing... why are you acting in this way... Get them out of your head!
Would you like to hear The Strangest Secret in regards to them living in your head rent-free?
You may or may not be shocked by it, but here it goes = You're not in their head! You're not in
their thoughts. You're not in their life or discussion. Now let me make a disclaimer... I'm
not saying you're not worthy, not a good person or did not matter to some degree...
but most likely you're empathetic, caring, compassionate, genuine and honest...
and they most likely if I had to assume are not! They're the opposite....
therefore they do not really care about you at all, and they are living their best life in the process!
So here you are talking, thinking, fixating about them, and they are acting like you don't exist.
Does that sound fair? No! So what's the answer? Live your life! There are mean and nasty people
in the world... maybe you've been betrayed, hurt, let down or something worse has happened...
Maybe life did not go the way you wanted so far... maybe your expectations have been your own worst
enemy, but you're still here! You still matter! You still have a life to live! The chapter of your life
where these people were in it is now over... it's finished, it's closed. Close the doors in your
mind, heart and soul as well and move on to better genuine people who want the best for you instead !
It's the only logical healthy option that you've got left kick them out of your head!
They've been living in their rent-free for too long!